Husband called me this:

[parkinpig]

Context: I brought in slightly damp washing and then didn't prostrate myself with sorrow when he wanted it rewashing now.

He threw washing basket across room and called me a "Lazy Fat Cunt".

Now he might have w point about washing, but I can't get over the language.

Feeling a bit WTF, to be honest.

Just wanted to get it down.

Throwing the basket and verbally abusing you are both terrible things for him to have done. Has he done this kind of thing before?

Why doesn't he load the washing machine, is it out of his capability?

Why would he want it re washing???? LTB. Words like that are appalling. You are his wife. He clearly shows you no respect whatsoever. Horrible twat

Why did he want it rewashing? And why couldn’t he do it himself? Ltb he sounds awful

Threw the basket across the room? Wtf!

Is this really the first time he's been physical and verbally abusive?

Also worrying that you think he might have a point about the washing. It's washing ffs.

Neither of these things are acceptable, OP. Sorry you’re being treated like this. Is he always like this?

Tbh, it doesn’t even matter. Even one incident like this is so, so wrong.

He works, I was made redundant.

Hope you left the basket where he threw it

Just cause you're not currently working does not make you a slave

His behaviour and language is inexcusable.
LTB.

Ok this is my first Ltb, not ok behaviour whatever stresses are going on. Is this how he normally talks to you?

Working has nothing to do with it, OP. Sorry. :(

Anyone who called me that would never get the chance to do it again!

Op so sorry this happened to you.
He isn’t right about the washing, sounds like he just wanted to cause trouble. The way he spoke to you has no excuses.

I've left the basket, he can pick it up.

I feel really useless right now. Thanks for reading. I'm just staying upstairs out of the way.

This is disgusting.

Do you have somewhere you can go, preferably overnight or for the rest of the weekend, to be away from him while you gather your thoughts?

He sounds horrible. Your partner should make your life better and lift you up. Otherwise what is the point?!

Don’t self-harm by staying with an arsehole like that.

The washing could have been hung up again later, or on an airer inside, to finish drying. But that's actually irrelevant to the main issue...

He shouldn't feel it's ok to treat you like that. Has he ever done anything like this before? What's your relationship like usually?

Stay calm and quietly let him stew over what he's said and done.

If he's a decent man, he'll feel truly awful and apologise profusely.

You aren't useless.

Where can you go?

He calls me names when he gets really really angry.

I know that if I had funds instead of debt I'd leave him. I'm just staying out of his way. He's on the console downstairs.

I put it down to being an only child who's never lived alone. He went from Mum to me.

It's done, he's said it. That can't be taken back.

But if he doesn't apologise and mean it, I'd LTB.

That's not on.

put it down to being an only child who's never lived alone. He went from Mum to me.

Tell him to fuck off back to her

It's his house, he works. He knows I have no escape route.