Husband called me this:

[parkinpig]

Context: I brought in slightly damp washing and then didn't prostrate myself with sorrow when he wanted it rewashing now.

He threw washing basket across room and called me a "Lazy Fat Cunt".

Now he might have w point about washing, but I can't get over the language.

Feeling a bit WTF, to be honest.

Just wanted to get it down.

Haven't read all of this but am glad to see you are getting your things in order. The way he spoke to you was absolutely disgusting.

Yuk!

Get your CV polished up and get talking to some recruiters.

He might as well have posted, "I am a ridiculous man child and a joke of a human being. You can all point and laugh now and be glad you're not me."

Op you’re lovely and he’s a cunt.

I wish you all the best x

Ayn, you're so right.

Point and laugh, OP. I know I am.

He's charmless isn't he? Please get all you need and get out asap. Wherever you go you need to get rid of him, he doesn't deserve you.

Parkin you are going to have the last laugh once you get all your ducks lined up - if you just disappear quietly and the next thing he gets is a solicitor letter - it will he just like the bit before the video rewind he’s referring to on FB where he’d never met/ seen you before/ poof gone- only you’ll need your share of assets via solicitor- you deserve so much more than he can ever offer you emotionally

In what other ways has he abused you OP?
Does he swear often?

@parkinpig once you're in a position to make a claim to contribution based JSA (you claim it online and you'll need an address/bank account) you'll have an initial meeting at the jobcentre. Tell the Work coach you are fleeing domestic abuse as this entitles you to a 'period of easement'
Just means you're excused from having to submit evidence of your job search and you don't need to attend as regularly. Makes it all a bit less overwhelming when you're under stress.
You may be moving into an area which has rolled out universal credit, same applies, you should ask for a 'short term benefit advance' while they process your claim (be it JSA or UC)

Just wanted to give you the heads up re benefit basics and hope you can manage to get away soon

At least he's making it easy for you to not care.
Many abusing men have charming qualities but he's not nothing.

You'll have the last laugh - you're not a failure, your success starts the minute you 'fuck off' without him

My husband would only speak to me like that once!

op... i have some sorta,much discussed but as yet undefined/ undiagnosed(maybe they gony name a shit condition after me onetime)delayed response thing. for the most part it fks me up....but i get by....anyhow..for days ive headsaw/recalled the words..."prostrate myself with sorrow".i got a 3 for biology ograde 2 yrs in row,...a long long time ago.clinical geez me the utter grue..but my headsaw/imaginized interpretation of those words...folds me in two(laughing.)......for the benefit of the tape; i did not try this at home.Tho pretty shitty content..thats the funniest thing ive seen on this since prowling began. ...the "viz advice" was close second...til i realised(also delayed)you posted that n aw.you @parkinpin-probably walk on water.be happy love

Tolerable : are you ok?

@tolerable 🤔 you ok?

yip

@tolerable are we not all a bit too old to be laughing at the similarity of “prostrate” and “prostate”. Or at least that’s what I think you were getting at? If not, nevermind, it’ll seem all seem better in the morning.

@parkinpig and Tistheseason17.my yip was at you both.i am ok...tho just caught up co email notification i even wrote that...i am suffering labyrithitus and had probably just had my 2nd dose of meds...which..tho doesnt exonerate me from garbled thoughts entirely-might help allow for them..perhaps?..if not,then i apologise.im sure it made sense,to me,at the time(?)
however
at Bodear. my yip was not at you. if something,even misread/misunderstood strikes me as funny.i laugh.(tho,admittedly,dont tend to post on mumsnet)whilst.i have given explanation regarding state at time,(i cant apologise for that)..im afraid i do seem to have some sort of beavis/butthead revival at whats funny sometimes.laughter is good medicine.even in bad taste sometimes...and..thankfully,it has got better,tho i missed morning entirely.

@tolerable
You have my sympathies, labrynthitis is indeed pants! Had it for 3 weeks and clinging on to walls was a daily experience. Hope you feel better soon!

thankyou @Tistheseason17. i am much improved,but still feeling very weird.....3weeks!!...ughh!x

Jesus what a horrible man. If this kind of behaviour/name calling continues you need to prepare yourself to LTB before it turns physical xx