Husband called me this:

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Context: I brought in slightly damp washing and then didn't prostrate myself with sorrow when he wanted it rewashing now.

He threw washing basket across room and called me a "Lazy Fat Cunt".

Now he might have w point about washing, but I can't get over the language.

Feeling a bit WTF, to be honest.

Just wanted to get it down.

He thinks you are a lazy fat cunt and feels it's not acceptable...but thinks it's ok to act like he did? FFS!

Needs to take a good look at himself first

Please do not put up with this.
There is NO excuse for this behaviour.
You are worth better than this.

If this is not the first time please do not continue the relationship - he will rob your self worth, confidence and self esteem to the point you feel he is all you deserve

Leave anyway. Contact Women's Aid.

That's really not OK. Has he done stuff like this before?

He knows I have no escape route.

You absolutely DO. You don't have to stay. Contact women's aid for advice.

That's horrible. I hope he apologises.

I'm married to an only child and he doesn't behave like that.

I think ppl are often too quick to say LTB on here but I wouldn't stand for that.

Good luck OP

I'd ask him if his fucking arms were painted on. When he said they weren't, I'd say, 'Good, you'll be able to carry your own suitcase then.'

What a horrible man.

He is digusting!!

Op please don’t accept that

He’s rude and abusive.

Please leave, no one should be treated like that.

It's his house, he works. He knows I have no escape route

Right, so when you are at a low point in your life, he decides to bully and humiliate you because he knows you have no alternative. Well at least you know where you stand.

You do have an alternative - you could leave (especially if you don't have DC, you can take more risks if it's just you), even if you have to start at Ground Zero and work your way back up. Anything rather than having to be insulted like that....

what a scum bag. there is plenty of support on here and at womens aid, you can escape, do you have family nearby or somewhere to stay ?
any dc ? heck hope not there leaving be so much easier. you need to leave this piece of shit, he's playing a power game because he's working and you aren't. not that is ever an excuse to behave like a complete shit

Do you have children? If not, then you can leave, even with debt. Turn your mind to getting a job, any job, just to get OUT. If you have children it's more difficult, but still doable it may just take a bit more planning and time.

But if you have friends or family who will take you in, call them and tell them what he did. If you were my daughter, my sister, or my friend I'd be telling you to pack a bag and get the hell over here pronto, even if you had to sleep on a blow up mattress on the floor until you got yourself sorted. No one should be treated the way he's treating you.

Why the heck would someone even think you had to rewash slightly damp laundry, I don't get that. Was it smelly from damp? If not surely you just hang it up around the house (if you don't have a drying rack) until it dries?

He’s abusive. Are you married? And kids?

That is unacceptable OP, do you have somewhere to go, because debt, or no debt, I think you should go, if you do.
He's a disgusting bully, you deserve better.
Do you have children ?

He wants you to do completely pointless work that he should be doing anyway, and he calls you lazy?!

Start planning to get away from the bastard.

What's wrong with bringing in damp washing? Why would anyone wash it again?

He doesn't care whether you wash it again or not. If you'd washed it again he'd be shrieking about the cost of washing perfectly clean clothes. He just wanted to make you feel bad, and has succeeded. Job done.

LTB

Married six years, no dc. Thank Christ.

That’s horrible.

I would have walked out there and then.

Why does he think it’s his house if you’re married? Get legal advice so you know where you stand financially if you were to leave.

Sorry to drip feed: no family nearby, parents are dead. I think I'll just stay out of the way and do my stuff over the bank holiday.

I am listening to you: just can't see a way out.

Ramp up your contraception - if he guesses you're thinking of leaving he'll try to make you pregnant to keep control. Don't rely on him.

The washing issue just shows how absolutely unreasonable he is. Leave. The sooner the better.

Depending on how long you’ve been married and what country you live in, you might find that you are legally entitled to a share of the assets in his name and that he is legally responsible for a share of your debts. Do you have a Citizens’ Advice Bureau nearby?

Why are you staying?!

Leave, leave, leave.

Can you stay with family until you get a job, find a place to live

You don’t need to put up with this. Go to your family? A friend?

Leave.