Husband called me this:

[parkinpig]

Context: I brought in slightly damp washing and then didn't prostrate myself with sorrow when he wanted it rewashing now.

He threw washing basket across room and called me a "Lazy Fat Cunt".

Now he might have w point about washing, but I can't get over the language.

Feeling a bit WTF, to be honest.

Just wanted to get it down.

You are absolutely not a failure.

Definitely get some legal advice and speak to Women’s Aid. Then leave the awful fucker and his awful family to it.

Oh FFS just leave! You are so much better than him!

Sending you lots of strenght, hope you are already packing for Menchester 💐

Get out. Or plan to get out soon. I don't know him and he probably has 'his side' to the story but I hate him for saying those things.
He really is a pathetic piece of shit isn't he?

OP you may well be poorer if you leave - but you will also be free of that awful man.

Seize the day!

GET RID NOW....

what is going on here ? I don't understand your situation at all. Is your husband just a shouting bully,and you just have to go along with everything.? I know that you said that you cannot leave because of money issues,, but this is an awful situation to be in with a Husband.

If this is the norm in your life with an angry husband,I don't know what to suggest really.

Just leave, go to Women's Aid, a friend or whatever, but just go. You won't regret it. Life is too short to be unhappy where the source of the unhappiness can be removed.

You could move to Manchester tomorrow and sign up with temping agency to do pa work while you looked for a permanent position.

How are you today OP?

As an only child I'm quite offended that you think this is normal behaviour for us! It most definitely isn't and he's just a prick, he'd still be a prick with 10 siblings. He needs to apologise.

Good morning everyone

I'm ok, thanks. Just getting dressed to go out in rain for Sunday Roast and a wander round the shops. It's pouring down, but I'd feel better out of the house.

I'm thinking what to do when he goes to work on Tuesday and I can have some breathing space.

Send your CV to Andy Burnham’s office? I bet they’d value someone with Westminster experience... good luck, you can do this!

Are you still looking into leaving? Please know that you don't have to live like this.

On Tuesday, if you are wanting to leave, maybe register with a whole load of recruitment agencies and get saving for a deposit if you don't want to go down the refuge route (which is fully understandable). Also maybe see if you fit any of the criteria for council help, escaping domestic violence usually allows you to register with councils for housing help.

Also contact StepChange regarding your debt, they are very helpful

Please don't stay.

You're worth so much more than him and his moods.

Did you get any redundancy money? Are you on benefits?

My god, If I said that to my Wife I don't think I would have fingers left to be typing now.

Im sorry but I would be telling him to jog on if no apology came.

There is a direct correlation with his treatment of you, and how you are feeling about yourself.
He makes you feel worthless and therefore this will make it hard for you to find a new job. You need as much external support as you can.
Have you family or friends you can go to? I think you will feel much better about yourself when you are away from him. Open up to your family about what's going on.

No apology. No nothing.

No redundancy and not on benefits as husband earning enough. It would be fair to say he monitors my spending A LOT. Yes, also alarm bells there.

Have poncho and train ticket ! Off to town.

Good on you, have a lovely day xxx

You know you can claim contributions based JSA? That would give you your own money. Is he going with you?

Ok will look into JSA.

And no, not speaking at home.

Hi OP,

I've been there. I know the feeling.

But you have one great benefit - you don't have children with this 'man'.

You are as free as a bird, you just don't realise it yet.

Here's an idea: why not look up Youth Hostels around Manchester ?

I've just seen on their website that they allow people to live for free/reduced rates if they help to keep the building ticking over.

Wouldn't that be great?

A stable roof over your head? A base while you find your way around a new area?

Somewhere to make lots of new friends who have local knowledge?

Above all, a totally new start. Unshackled from the piece of shit who belongs in your PAST, not your future.
Xxx

Have a great day & try not to think about him at all

Lucky, what a fab idea xxxx