'D'H affair?!?

[thegrinchthatstolexmas]

'D'H has a long term friend that lives abroad. He also runs quite a niche business that involves lots of travelling abroad for meetings predominantly on the country that she lives.

She speaks various languages and has been acting as a translator for some of the meetings.

A few weeks ago whilst play fighting 'D'H called me by her name and passed it off as a simple mistake as he had been with there the previous week.

He's become more and more secretive with his phone but today have it to our DC to play games on whilst he was falling asleep.

DC then handed me the phone to get out of a WhatsApp message as they couldnt work out how to do it.

The message was from 'd'H's friend a generic picture message outlaying that she had 'fallen for their late night chats, fallen for the way he makes her feel' etc

Followed by a message from him to her saying he was free (I was out) could he call.

Then a message saying he wasn't free anymore. All this whilst DC were at home in his care.

Am I reading too much into this?

No you are not reading too much into it! Emotional affair at least. Just ask him , explain unemotionally what happened with DC handing over the phone.

It's certainly an emotional affair, even if not physical yet.

You don't tell someone who's "just" a friend that you've fallen for the way they make you feel

You are not reading too much into this he is having an affair. Call him out but expect to get hurt

This is an emotional affair at least - it doesn't sound as though it is physical but I would be asking the question ASAP.

I'm willing to bet it isn't just an emotional affair OP. I'm so sorry

I literally feel like a complete idiot. At no point did I ever suspect this would happen. I fully trust'ed' them both.

You need to talk to him OP. Sorry.

You’re not an idiot. He is a cunt. And she is a whore.

They literally live in different countries

So sorry. I would ask him straight out.

OP I'm single with plenty of single mates who I'm close to but I wouldn't send them that message unless I wanted something more or something more was already happening.

Literally don't know what to do. The business is jointly owned but only he draws PAYE. House is jointly owned. DC still really little

He's still snoring peacefully on the sofa unaware

Firstly you need to ask him what is going on and tell him you want the truth. Depending on that answer will depend what happens next.

Are there any more messages that explain further?

To rub salt in the wound he's the one constantly accusing me of fancying someone else or wanting to leave him, could honestly scream

Screenshot the messages, I would have a dig around while he is asleep. Emails? Calls list? You need to know.

Message was sent today, that was the start of the conversation guessing previous have been deleted. Two WhatsApp voice calls both whilst I was out today

Doesnt sound good does it op, so sorry

Take pictures of the messages and send them to your phone.

Ring her and ask her outright is she fucking your husband. The other woman will very rarely lie

There was a time when I was younger and if I had a cheating partners phone in my hands I might message the OW from it pretending to be him with some vague message and see how she responds- giving you enough to know whether he's lying or telling the truth. Now I'm older and wiser I'd just ask him!

DC are still awake so dont really want to wake him to ask whilst little ears are around.

They even FaceTime when they are together to say hi etc and she's always so friendly t to my face talking about going out for a drink etc when she comes to England next, so tempting to message her and ask wtaf is going on

Also don’t let him tell you that you are in the wrong going through his phone
A you did it by accident
B you have every fucking right to be pissed off

What an asshole, either wait and see what more happens and then confront him or confront him now. This is ridiculous.