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Not my Hen weekend- but so pissed off

315 replies

FastAbsorbingCake · 30/07/2017 11:17

Long…

As above was away on a hen weekend for someone I thought was a very good friend.

We've been friends for over 20 years and I've been her someone to call at 3am person and I thought she was mine.

The weekend was self catering which I was told by the Maid of Honour (a whole other story) that I was sorting out the food for 20 ish people.

Which I did happily, I spent the whole weekend running after sorting cooking cleaning up etc. And did it all on a very tight budget.

Just before we left the location I said ok I'm having a swim, and then packing and would someone mind clearing up after the breakfast?
Bearing in mind there was 20 of them…

Now I had cooked and sorted for 20 people for 6 meals with no help. I did ask for help and some of them wafted in and out doing nothing of substance.

So wedding has been & done and 'friend' asked to meet up. So we go for a meal and I'm told how horrible I was by leaving them to clean up on the last morning.

How awful I was by not joining in games etc. I did point I was either clearing up or cooking.
I did try to join In but MOH was very obvious in excluding me.

But no and apparently the MOH was very upset & stressed by my behaviour…

So we're in the main course of the meal, she was talking at me for an hour and I say you know what, I worked my arse off for weeks before the weekend, I was first up last to bed on the weekend.

You behaved appallingly to me on said weekend, as did your 'friends'. I assumed when you invited me for this meal it was to apologise, clearly not, so fuck off. And left. We've not spoken since. (I.e. A few months)
Well I did get an enraged text about leaving her with the bill- I'd had pasta & and sparkling water and left a £20…
Ok vent over.

The thing is I've woken up this am (am away with OH so was a late nightGrin ) to see she's called 3 times over night.

My instinct is to call, OH has said don't you dare. I hate to admit it but he's right isn't he…

But what's if she's in real trouble?

OP posts:
iknowimcoming · 01/08/2017 13:31

Fantastic update and great clip thanks! Grin

Ekphrasis · 01/08/2017 13:36

Awesome update!

She's awful - never contact again.

Bet-ty, Bet-ty, Bet-ty, we want Betty!

RaeSkywalker · 01/08/2017 14:25
Shock
SugaredSocks · 01/08/2017 14:40

Wow just wow she actually had the balls to not only expect you to cover for her cheating arse but is also trying not now shift the blame on to you for not answering. Next it'll be your fault she spent the last six months cheating. She's a whole other level of crazy. Definitely best to give her a wide birth and enjoy watching her implode further from afar. Hope you and Betty can get together soon she sounds lovely Flowers

Starlight2345 · 01/08/2017 14:49

Yes I also agree watch muriel's wedding.

reetgood · 01/08/2017 15:12

:o

Well that was unexpected!

SenoritaViva · 01/08/2017 15:31

Bloody hell. Poor NH

deplorabelle · 01/08/2017 16:17

Wow. Just wow!

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/08/2017 16:18

OMFG - after the way she's behaved to you, she seriously expected you to lie for her, to cover her incredibly nasty infidelity?? WOW!!

I am stunned. Stunned at her brass neck, not her cheating (she sounds pretty foul all round, actually) - SO GLAD you didn't take her bloody calls!

Poor old NH though - what a horrible shock for him!

And I agree - Betty sounds like a keeper.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 01/08/2017 16:19

NB - Muriel's wedding is not one long gigglefest - it has its funny moments but it has some very poignant and bloody sad ones too.

AcrossthePond55 · 01/08/2017 16:28

'Betty' may have been very wary of 'putting it in writing' and that's why she downplayed on FB. If there's one lesson I've learnt, it's to never put anything in writing that can come back to bite you. That's why she waited until she could speak to you on the phone.

You're well out of the whole bloody mess. I'd block 'bride/not a bride' and keep out of it!

DH had something similar when we were newly married. A serial cheat friend of his wanted him to say he was at ours overnight. DH would have none of it.

mmm1234 · 01/08/2017 16:40

Wowzers, what a fab story!!

I can quite imagine myself ending up doing all the catering like you did, as one thing leads to another....

Please text her back all innocent and say "did you try to call? What's up, all ok?" And TELL US EVERYTHING SHE SAYS!!

I wish you were my 3am person!! I'd happily be yours!

Rubyslippers7780 · 01/08/2017 16:53

Omg...Shock

tumpymummy · 01/08/2017 17:09

Wow! Thankyou Fastabsorbingcake for another classic mumsnet thread. You couldn't make that up!

The80sweregreat · 01/08/2017 17:41

i love Muriel's wedding - its up there in my top 10 films. Toni Collette is an awesome actress and deserves more praise for her acting skills. Its a classic that film.
your friend needs some help!

MerryMarigold · 01/08/2017 17:56

"You're terrible, Muriel" is a saying in our house.

SoftlyCatchyMonkey1 · 01/08/2017 17:57

Woah.
Well I wasn't expecting that.

MadMags · 01/08/2017 18:36

Wow. That's some update...

Hortonlovesahoo · 01/08/2017 18:46

I wonder when the bride will start owning up and taking some responsibility for her decisions and actions. She behaves like a 5year old.

Hopefully your lunch with Betty will be lovely and relaxed.

The80sweregreat · 01/08/2017 18:52

Its a bleak film! They dont tend to make them like that any more.

Youcanttaketheskyfromme · 01/08/2017 18:53

Shock what a cunt of a woman. You're well rid.

kittymamma · 01/08/2017 19:17

Lol... totally all your fault her marriage is falling apart Easter Smile

Time to block her and move on!

crazykitten20 · 01/08/2017 19:47

Why is this a discussion topic? She is a vile cow. Move on. Please - for you.

RiotAndAlarum · 01/08/2017 20:00

Can't miss a single cliché of bad behaviour, can she? She's not going to get any more interesting... Wink

Chillyegg · 01/08/2017 21:28

Gosh!
Sounds to me like NH is absolutely well rid of this person! So are you!
Some people!

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