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Not my Hen weekend- but so pissed off

315 replies

FastAbsorbingCake · 30/07/2017 11:17

Long…

As above was away on a hen weekend for someone I thought was a very good friend.

We've been friends for over 20 years and I've been her someone to call at 3am person and I thought she was mine.

The weekend was self catering which I was told by the Maid of Honour (a whole other story) that I was sorting out the food for 20 ish people.

Which I did happily, I spent the whole weekend running after sorting cooking cleaning up etc. And did it all on a very tight budget.

Just before we left the location I said ok I'm having a swim, and then packing and would someone mind clearing up after the breakfast?
Bearing in mind there was 20 of them…

Now I had cooked and sorted for 20 people for 6 meals with no help. I did ask for help and some of them wafted in and out doing nothing of substance.

So wedding has been & done and 'friend' asked to meet up. So we go for a meal and I'm told how horrible I was by leaving them to clean up on the last morning.

How awful I was by not joining in games etc. I did point I was either clearing up or cooking.
I did try to join In but MOH was very obvious in excluding me.

But no and apparently the MOH was very upset & stressed by my behaviour…

So we're in the main course of the meal, she was talking at me for an hour and I say you know what, I worked my arse off for weeks before the weekend, I was first up last to bed on the weekend.

You behaved appallingly to me on said weekend, as did your 'friends'. I assumed when you invited me for this meal it was to apologise, clearly not, so fuck off. And left. We've not spoken since. (I.e. A few months)
Well I did get an enraged text about leaving her with the bill- I'd had pasta & and sparkling water and left a £20…
Ok vent over.

The thing is I've woken up this am (am away with OH so was a late nightGrin ) to see she's called 3 times over night.

My instinct is to call, OH has said don't you dare. I hate to admit it but he's right isn't he…

But what's if she's in real trouble?

OP posts:
LexieLulu · 01/08/2017 12:03

Bet you're glad you were not MOH to such a lie of a wedding!!

TheWeeWitch · 01/08/2017 12:13

It's my first reading of this thread and all I can say is OMG RL MURIEL'S WEDDING!

Well done op, it seems you have been able to navigate through this shitstorm with your dignity completely intact. Sorry for the loss of a friendship, though.

Skylark678 · 01/08/2017 12:16

Wow!

BastardGoDarkly · 01/08/2017 12:26

Holy shit! What a cow!?

Was Betty just trying to let you enjoy your holiday do you think? I think Betty sounds wise, be friends with Betty, let the other witches pick up the pieces of bride.

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 01/08/2017 12:31

Blimey.

FastAbsorbingCake · 01/08/2017 12:35

Airport wi-fi!!!

Betty admits to underplaying it in first text, didn't want to ruin our holiday. She is a nice person. She has texted asking me to meet for a drink/ meal when I'm free.

I have been warned that I'm the worst in the world as apparently I could have talked NH around if I'd bothered to answer my phone.

So am well out of it HmmHmm

OP posts:
TheWeeWitch · 01/08/2017 12:37

Agree with Bastard. Be friends with Betty.

Lweji · 01/08/2017 12:38

So, you're not going to text her saying something like:

"So sorry about your marriage. I'll pray for you."

Thesingingtoad · 01/08/2017 12:40

I would text back "Cheater" then block.

BitOutOfPractice · 01/08/2017 12:40

Bloody hellfire! So she still thinks she an call on you for an alibi?

FastAbsorbingCake · 01/08/2017 12:40

DP has pointed out that if he'd tried 5% of the shit she's pulled over the years he'd be under the patio.

I'm a bit bemused/confused at my own behaviour; thinking back at how much I let her away with. And sad too.

OP posts:
Butterymuffin · 01/08/2017 12:42

You're terrible, Muriel Wink

Lweji · 01/08/2017 12:43

So she still thinks she an call on you for an alibi?

In all likelihood, she fell out with all her other friends from that time.

Groovee · 01/08/2017 12:44

The stupid woman needs to take responsibility of her own actions. Shagging your husband's friend is out of order and trying to blame you is below the belt.

FastAbsorbingCake · 01/08/2017 12:54

I've never seen Muriel's wedding I'm assuming it good??

OP posts:
mrscropley · 01/08/2017 12:56

So when can you fit Betty in?????

PsychedelicSheep · 01/08/2017 12:57

Yeah it's great, watch it!

Starlight2345 · 01/08/2017 13:02

thesingingtoad I am secretly reading MN and this made me LOL..

OP.. I am so glad you contacted Betty.

You could send Betty the Link and she could contribute?

I was exepcting it to be a drunk phonecall..

Self entitled madame..She gets all she deserves...What about her other 20 friends ..Did they not want to help?

Hissy · 01/08/2017 13:05

mrscropley Tue 01-Aug-17 12:56:41
So when can you fit Betty in?????
**

yes OP, when... need a lift, can one of us pick you up, live report to MN etc?

Hissy · 01/08/2017 13:06

What about her other 20 friends ..Did they not want to help?

Hope that the 'friend' has got a LOT of minutes on her phone contract...

Cagliostro · 01/08/2017 13:15

Amazing update 😂😂

FrogAndFriggit · 01/08/2017 13:16
Shock
RidingWindhorses · 01/08/2017 13:20

I have been warned that I'm the worst in the world as apparently I could have talked NH around if I'd bothered to answer my phone

Presumably that's the storm in the teacup as compared to the tsunami in the teapot, it's small fry.

TheWeeWitch · 01/08/2017 13:23

OP you must watch Muriel's Wedding at your earliest convenience.

Finola1step · 01/08/2017 13:31

Blimey! So she only called to get you to cover for her. Nasty piece of work.