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My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

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JuanPotatoTwo · 27/02/2017 19:18

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

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NapoleonsNose · 27/02/2017 19:39

Thinking of you and your family Juan. Look after yourself Flowers

zen1 · 27/02/2017 19:40

That is very, very sad. So sorry for you and your DCs Flowers. Please keep posting if it helps.

mycatloveslego · 27/02/2017 19:40

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

BeastofCraggyIsland · 27/02/2017 19:41

I'm so sorry Juan Flowers

Loyly · 27/02/2017 19:41

I'm so sorry Juan.

cowgirlsareforever · 27/02/2017 19:41

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Abraiid2 · 27/02/2017 19:41

You're not at all self indulgent! So sorry.

onalongsabbatical · 27/02/2017 19:41

I'm so sorry for this terrible loss. Sending love and hugs and support to you and your children. Please post whatever you think you need to post. XXX

ssd · 27/02/2017 19:42

I'm really sorry juan Thanks

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 27/02/2017 19:42

Oh Juan, I am so very sorry.

If it helps you to talk about your DH, or anything really, then please know that we will all be here ready to listen whenever you need us Flowers.

This is not at all self-indulgent, I promise.

TheDevilMadeMeDoIt · 27/02/2017 19:42

I'm so sorry for your loss Juan.

Hold on to your children, literally. Hug each other, cry, scream - whatever the circumstances of a death there is no right way to grieve, only a way to grieve that is right for you.

You don't have to be strong, but you can if you want.

If you want time out on your own that's OK, but if you want people around you that's OK too.

Look after yourself and each other as best you can and in the ways you all need. And for now take each minute as it comes, with whatever each minute brings.

FlowersBrew

ButtfaceMiscreant · 27/02/2017 19:43

I am so very sorry for your loss Flowers May your husband rest in peace.

Roussette · 27/02/2017 19:43

I am so sorry to hear this Flowers

dowhatnow · 27/02/2017 19:43

Thanks Post away. If we can help even so much as a little bit, then its worth it.

amysmummy12345 · 27/02/2017 19:44

Sorry to hear this juan 😞

GwenCooper81 · 27/02/2017 19:44

Not self indulgent at all. My love and condolences to you and your family. Xx

Guadalupe · 27/02/2017 19:45

I'm so sorry to read this, Juan. What a cruel thing to happen. Sending much love to you and your family. Flowers

RachelRagged · 27/02/2017 19:46

Like PPs , I am so sorry to hear this . How devestating [flowers'] Juan x

And no you are not being self indulgent , at all .

RebelandaStunner · 27/02/2017 19:47

So sorry Flowers

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 27/02/2017 19:47

Oh Juan, I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you all at this incredibly sad and difficult time. 💐

Libitina · 27/02/2017 19:48
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Annaanaconda · 27/02/2017 19:48

Sending lots of love to you and your family Juan Flowers

DorisDayandNight · 27/02/2017 19:49

I'm so sorry Flowers

EllenJanethickerknickers · 27/02/2017 19:49

Oh no, Juan. I'm so sorry. I've always liked your username but I didn't realise your DH had been struggling. When you are ready, we'd love to hear about him. Flowers

dontcallmelen · 27/02/2017 19:50

Just wanted to echo pp, not indulgent in any way shape or form, truly hope you have rl support & my sincerest condolences to you & your family 💐 Xx