My Dh died this morning and I don't know how to go on

[JuanPotatoTwo]

But I will because I have to, because I have 4 incredible dc he loved.

I'm so so sad, didn't see it coming this time. Been lots of occasions in the past when we thought we'd lose him but he fought back and pulled through. Too much for him this time. One month today we would have been married 24 years.

Being self indulgent posting but I'm trying to put on brave front for dc even though 3 of them are adult and trying to be brave for me. We all loved him so much.

Oh daisy - I'm sorry. Reliving all that pain must be so difficult. Not self indulgent at all and what you say about losing the person at the centre of your universe rings so true.

Ted I'm sorry for the loss of your Dad, must have been a shock for you.

Evening Drama

Juan

Just to say, my Mum was very lost for a bit, but is enjoying life now. She still misses him greatly, but is in a good place now. With your family and friends around, you'll come through. All my best to you.

Thank you Ted - glad your mum is in a good place now.

I hope you're already asleep & have a decent nights sleep.

I'll be thinking of you visiting M tomorrow.

Xx

Quick pop in - thoughts, prayers and courage winging to you today xx

I feel sick and despairing this morning. Dd and I are going to see M at midday. This is so hard :(. I want my old boring normal life back.

Sending you strength and courage for today. Thinking of you xx

Stay strong. I know this is hard. Thinking of you xx

Just checking in.

Juan I've just read through this.... so, so sorry for your loss . I hope your visit was ok, I really do. When I went to see my nan I was fine for about 10seconds, then in absolute floods. But I'm so glad I went to see her for the last time, left a little gift with her, had a little chat with her. It's so lovely you have many wonderful friends and family and dc all rallying together. Be kind to yourself. Really, really kind.

I hope the visit went about as well as it could. I'm glad you chose to go, hard as that was.

Although it may all be a blur, you will find comfort in the number and variety of people who attend tomorrow. I am still learning of more, some real surprises, who came out for my dad. My mum was so very proud.

Sending you a strong (virtual) back to lean on. Lean away.

I can't stop crying. Dd, my friend and I went to see him. Oh it was awful. He just looked like him but not really like him. He looked defeated and empty and cold and his hands were all red and swollen. I don't have the words to describe how he looked. I don't understand how or why it's come to this. It's so unfair.

Sweetie - that's just heart wrenching.

All I can say is don't worry about crying - it's 100% normal & natural. Just make sure you are drinking enough water.

I'll pop by again later - thinking of you & sending my love.

(((((hugs)))) xxxxx

Oh, my lovely, how terribly sad. That isn't how you want to remember him and that isn't how you WILL remember him. You will remember him in his red cardigan, saying, 'Don't just have a good day, have a GREAT day' and generally being a wonderful wonderful husband and father. You will remember how he looked when he's brushing his teeth or getting ready to go to the cinema or laughing at a terrible joke from a toddler. You will remember as he really was.

Words are so inadequate, if only we could take away your pain.

I'm just hoping that once you have attended the funeral it will take you away from the focus being on your DHs death, and move you closer to remembering him as he was when he was alive, the person he was to you then.

((((((((Hugs galore)))))))))

Sorry building2017 xpost with you there

I prob shouldn't put this here - am I contravening any rules? If I am please forgive me. I just want to share him with everyone :(

He's a right handsome chap, thank you for sharing him.

I'm sorry today was horrible. I just hope that your memory of him will be the little things you shared not the empty shell he left behind.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you tomorrow.

That's a wonderful photo. I am so sorry this has happened and am thinking of you all.

Thank you. It's my favourite photo at the minute but unfortunately it doesn't showcase the red cardi! Must be one of the very rare occasions when he went without it!

Somehow I knew he'd look like that. What a strong, handsome face that is. He looks just like you describe him. Demanding you have a GREAT DAY! That. Remember that, and not today.

Hugs for you and your DC. And stength.

So sorry today was horrible. When my mum died I wasn't sure if I wanted to see her in the chapel of rest. I'd been holding her hand when she died. My husband went in first, she looked ok but not like my mum. They'd style her hair differently and she had make up on which she didn't normally wear. I'm glad I went in though.

Sending you much love for tomorrow.

What a lovely photo "Juan*.

My thoughts are with you and your family. I can't possibly imagine how hard all of this for you. He was so loved.

I can't imagine it. I'm so sorry for your loss.