Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

[Mrsmimsy]

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[theansweris42]

I'm here.
Did a long post and lost it, argh.
DC gone to their dad's for 4 days.
Nothing from H.
Have had a glass. Might have another.
Trying very hard to keep to a minimum but today's not AF.
Elba I'm sorry about the shit nightshift.
Hope your takeaway is delicious!

[tismesober]

at your evening
I am in airport surrounded by alcohol but not long now until the flight

[tismesober]

Morning all it's very quiet on the bus but I will keep checking in to keep myself on track ....,,Day 2.
It is my DH s birthday next weekend so I plan on not drinking until at least then.
Anyone else up for doing a few days with me ?

[Elba84]

Hi sober, I am definitely planning on not drinking so will join you Hope you had an ok journey last night

42 will you enjoy your child free time? Well done for moderating last night.

lala how are you doing lovely one???

Technically I guess I'm back to day 1 after yesterday morning, but that's far too depressing so I'm thinking of it as 20 out of 22 days af which is far less demoralising. Annoying though, as today would of been two weeks.

I'm quite anxious today which I'm putting down to drinking. Not worth it in any way really. Vaguely thinking that in similar circumstances I should just allow myself to drink a glass or two as the agonising over it seems to lead to bingeing and not enjoying it anyway. But maybe it's naive to think that I will suddenly be able to stop. Most the time now (well, the last few weeks at least) I actually prefer not drinking anyway. Plus I'm trying to throw myself into the whole running thing which is providing good motivation to stay af. Going to at least try and stay af for the rest of the month now.

Going out later to the pub- I'm driving and working tomorrow anyway. Been a bit of a recluse and avoiding evenings out but I've generally reconciled living alone with at least having a good social life so can't keep avoiding it- getting a bit lonely

[laladidah]

Hey all. Sorry I have been a rubbish babe of late. Been on so fecking busy with work. Thank goodness it is the weekend.

Feeling tired, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. Had a lot going with family stuff, huge issues with my sister not being well (mentally). Hey ho, we all have our cross to bear and all that.

42 enjoy the child free time! Have lots of long bubble baths and read lots of books. Just chill (if that's possible).

sober well done on resisting the airport alchol, its bloody ridiculously overpriced anyway! I am rubbish at airports, at the one I normally use, the only chance of finding a plug to charge my hopelessly battery life challenged phone is in a Wetherspoon's, or some such. No matter what time of the morning or night, wherever you look, people are having pints/wine whatever, as some sort of weird and special treat. Stayed strong last time and headed for Burger King (where they now offer beer instead of a soft drink, argghhhhh! But I was saintly and went for a Diet Coke. Yes I am one of those people who thinks it's far more healthy to have a diet drink alongside my entire day's worth of calories). Another sign that alcohol is everywhere, so hard to avoid it. Good luck with your af, will cheer you on from the sidelines.

elba you really are amazing. So proud of you! Keep going, and the running thing? You are practically super woman! Feel your pain re anxiety. Was walking home from work yesterday, and had a full blown panic attack - wobbling legs, racing heart, tight chest, whole body shaking, convinced I am going to die/pass out type thing, the whole shebang. Had to put a stop clock on my phone to try and just watch the seconds ticking by to keep focused so I could get home, setting myself tiny goals like 'just walk to the next bollard/street corner' all the while chanting to myself 'you are fine, you are fine'. It takes me about 15 mins to walk home, but it felt like a lifetime. Oh and the man walking behind me clearly thought I was a nutter. And I know it's all down to drinking.

Anyway, I have an extremely whiny puppy, who is demanding to be taken for a walk, so guess I had better get out of my dressing gown, and get ready in case the outside world think that Halloween has come early. Not helped by the scar left by my 'accident', I now have a lovely lump/scar where I slit my nostril open on the radiator. Looks like a massive wart on the side of my nose. I really need to sort out my life if the repercussions of my drinking have led to this. Doctor reckons it will be with me for life. I feel sad for myself, but at the same time I know I deserve it. What is it going to take?

Sorry, off on a morbid tangent again. I wish you all a happy and relatively sober weekend.

Love lala and pup 🐶

[dementedma]

Checking in.have been to the beach looking for seaglass and got some nice bits. Going to try and use some of it to make things.
Dd1 is so much more creative..she has used a few pieces in a tapering column on a small piece of driftwood to make a lighthouse!
Planning on starting low carb on Monday so need to prepare mentally to be AF. Have been invited to a vair posh do in November and need to shift some weight quickly. There will be soldier ogling.....

[tismesober]

lala and pup your panic attack sounds awful. It is many years since I last had one and I will never forget thinking that I was about to die. Can't you medicate to control them ? Or what about meditation? I love Headspace and you can download a free trial. The guy Andy who runs it has a lovely soothing voice. I use it to control my anxiety and my need to control everything and find that it does help.
Elba I remember your early posts ........you should be absolutely proud of your achievement.....20 out of the past 22 days is awesome. You are an inspiration.
ma soldier ogling I too need to shift some weight will join you. It just so bloody hard though when you reach a certain age isn't it?
Hi to everyone else .
I am off to don my sequins and apply my fake tan for Strictly

[tismesober]

On a completely different note I am planning on coming to London in Dec for a short break.
Does anyone have any recommendations for a hotel ?

[tismesober]

Morning day 3

[laladidah]

Fecks sake, typed a massive reply and lost it.

sober was on setraline to manage the panic attacks, didn't work. Been stockpiling diazepam (basically supplied by my sister) to try and stop them in the short term. But terrified of them running out, and gp understandably reluctant to prescribe, so only take them if hangover is really really bad. God I sound like an eijit.

Whereabouts in London are you going, and what is your budget?

ma your dd1 sounds awesome. Plus jealous of soldier ogling.

Apologies if my previous message has managed to post. Our wifi is dodgy to say the least.

Currently awaiting breakfast before I brace the loony pony, but mr L and the stinky pup (who needs a bath) are both snoring soundly. Honestly, it's like tweedle dum and teeedle dee, they are both ginger, hard to tell where one begins and the other ends! Wish I could post a pic to make you guys laugh, but that would obviously massively out me...

elba my darling. How are you?

Love to all, from a stinky (covered in smelly dog hair and breath, ugh - wish I had a goldfish) lala

[laladidah]

Ps just for cuteness, here is little lala pup when she was teeny tiny

[laladidah]

Arghhh just realised that that pic contains other pics. Have reported my own post and if you recognise me then please don't out me... xx

[dementedma]

Well done on day 3 time

[laladidah]

Phew, mnhq are quick off the draw this morning!

[madein1995]

la hope you’re ok and the pup is absolutely gorgeous, bet he/she? Is hard work though, but know from experience the cuddles make it all worth it!
elba huge well done!
ma jealous of your soldier ogling you’ll be a slimmy Minnie in no time!
tisme well done on day 3!
In need of a bit of help babes (please don’t think I just come on here when I want something, is just that now is only when my laptop has decided to work and hate typing replies on phone – stupid fat fingers). Have an interview tomorrow in a nursery, and am worried about how to answer the ‘why did you leave your last job’ question. I made a mistake (bloody big one) and left the front door open in my last nursery. Luckily nothing happened and it was my first (and last!) big mistake and I was in charge of more kids than I should have, but as I was in my probation it was enough to sack me. Am thinking of being truthful and accepting responsibility – ‘was in probation, thought a colleague was outdoors so left door ajar (as other more experienced colleagues often did) however no one was outside. As on probation contract was terminated. I accept this was completely wrong and I should not have this despite others doing it. I have learnt from mistake and me and employer parted on good terms, she has agreed to give a reference.’ I so want this job, well any job really, but scared that mistake is going to haunt me know I have only self to blame

[dementedma]

That's a tough one made but I think as a prospective employer I would appreciate the honesty.
Soldier ogling will take place on November 10th at a black tie dinner in a castle. Chaps will all be in mess dress.....

[laladidah]

made, I think the best thing is to be truthful as you said. Can't understand how you have done anything catastrophically wrong... no children were harmed, you have learned from your mistake, etc etc.

Just try and phrase it as you said... fingers crossed for you, my lovely.

ma my ex was at Sandhurst, thoroughly enjoyed all the officer's balls etc (yep I can see the innuendo there!), and all the pomp and ceremony! V jealous

[tismesober]

made do you know how your reference is going to be worded ? If there is any chance that it will be mentioned then I think that you have to be honest. Do you know what reasons your employer will give for bringing your probation to an end or if this will be mentioned ?
Fingers crossed for you xx

[madein1995]

Thanks everyone 😀 I know my reference will be less than sparkling - boss was hated by almost all - but I thibk provided I tell the truth I cant get any nasty surprises. Old nursery has a bad reputation in the nursery world , witg a v. High staff turn over (not many lasted more tgan a day, all the staff were yiung, longest anyone worked there was 3 years) my other reference will be good thiugh. Once i get a job ill wipe the old nursery off my CV. I think I should mentiom thr fact that no one was harmed - but in a way thst shows i know how fortunate i was, i understand the seriousness etc. Hopefully my personality will be wirth more than my reference, maybe tge new employer will take the reference with a pinch of salt knowing who they are.

[walkerandtexasranger]

Hi all. Only had half a bottle of white yesterday with Sunday dinner. The evening consisted of my 2 yr old tantrumming for 90 minutes straight then passing out.... He kept stopping breathing in his sleep which was terrifying. Spent the night laid on his floor. Any ideas on Wtf to do would be gratefully received! I am going to try and get a gp appt today.

Fingerscrossed for you made. I agree honesty is the best policy.

[walkerandtexasranger]

demented I am so jealous! My dh is exforces and I do miss him being in uniform...He looked fantastic. As for all the other chaps in uniform- well obviously I only had eyes for my dh

[theansweris42]

made I agree with giving a well thought out honest answer, I recruit a lot and people do make mistakes, it's learning from them that matters. Good luck with your interview.
Morning everyone, hope Monday's OK.
I've had wine Fri Sat and Sun eves, probably a bottle each night.
I feel average but not terribly hungover.
It's more than I want to drink especially alone at home.
When the bottle opens it seems like a nice relaxing drink, but... disturbs sleep, exaggerates emotions, leads to silly online purchases..sigh.
Going to try AF Mon to Thurs again.
Cheers

[walkerandtexasranger]

theanswer I could have written your post. Terrible sleep problems and yet I still do it!

[lookingforhope]

Morning all. Another Monday! Hope all of you are OK and ready to start the week. I have just started a low carb diet (again!!!) - Ma are you up for it? Let's go for it together. Not swearing off drink as half term and have two things this week - meeting a friend on Wednesday for a bottle of wine and then dreaded SIL party on Saturday which I am really not looking forward to. Toxic in laws and competitive dress code (she has hired a make up artist to come to her house and invited those in her inner circle to get a makeover - obviously in the hope of making the rest of us look shit). She also asked WB for Harvey Nicks vouchers AND a bottle of fizz that costs £60 for a present. Erm, think you are getting your income bracket confused with that of normal mortals who didn't marry money and luck out on the divorce settlement! Bitch. So will have to have a few then just to get through it but otherwise trying to be good as am depressingly fat at the moment.

Not a long post as have tons of work to do - TONS! - and continuation of my contract depends on me doing it well Added complication of working from home in half term not helping (plus am starving already - oh dear!

Took DD to meet her idols on Saturday. Four hour round trip followed by three hours queuing in the cold for a book signing that took all of 30 seconds. She was in tears (of happiness and generally being overwhelmed). So whatever else, I am basking in the glow of being a good mum today

Have a good week all. I will update my weight next week to hold myself to account!

Mouse hope you are OK if you are reading this lovely. And Wry, Baby and other babes who are MIA

Take care xxx