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Brave Babes...braving the Autumn

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Mrsmimsy · 14/10/2016 23:24

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tismesober · 17/10/2016 07:53

Morning all and welcome ranger . Running out of the door soon but wanted to check in
Day 1 again. Will pop back in tonight for hand holding Smile

theansweris42 · 17/10/2016 13:05

Hi to all.
Hope your Mondays are okay.
I'm going for another AF Mon to Thurs.
It did me good and I also drank less at the weekend.
I think I've realised there's no way back with H, that divorce for UB is what I need to do really Sad

SweetLathyrus · 17/10/2016 14:52

Found You!

Busy weekend, I did give in and have a couple of glasses at the theatre on Saturday, but now back for a sober week, and with a weekend at home, I might manage more than a week.

Mouse, hope you're being well looked after.

Lala, you're descriptions of the grumpy pony do make me laugh.

And Elba, you are rocking it, Babe.

Back to work now, catch you all later.

dementedma · 17/10/2016 19:12

made good to see you again and sounding positive.
Ranger how's things?
WRY!!! Check in please. I'll take you sea glassing next weekend if you want......
Margie are you still out there?
Obrigada how's life?

tismesober · 17/10/2016 19:49

Evening all
Trying to catch up with you all. Been missing due to RL crap challenges . I am truly part of the sandwich generation elderly parents on one side and kids on the other. Not sure who is the more demanding they both seem to be in competition with each other ATMAngryAngry
Thinking of getting a T shirt made with the slogan. " Please remember there is only one of me " or alternatively running far far away
Anyway due to being rundown a bit ill I have been on 2 courses of antibiotics and therefore enforced sobriety and guess what I feel so much better so I am trying to keep the momentum going.
I have done 10 days this month SmileSmile

Elba84 · 17/10/2016 23:31

Hi just a quick one- apologies for not name checking properly but need sleep! sober and made great to see you both though, and mouse hope you are as ok as you can be and are getting looked after and cared for like you deserve.

Still full of cold and just had a couple of manic days at work. But so much more manageable without drinking. Not home until half ten last night, and was showered and in bed by 11, same tonight. In the past I would of stayed up until gone midnight to fit in my drinking time no matter how tired/rough I felt despite having to get up again at half five. Exhausting really. Tomorrow is day 10- if I get through that it will be the longest sober stretch in over 10 years.

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 07:05

Morning.

Elba are you getting good sober sleep now? You sound so much more positive. Although I'm back to day three, my body just seems to have picked up where it left off, so I'm staying awake in the evening, then waking up bright and early with good sound sleep in between.

This week is non-stop at work, and normally I would be panicking and giving in to any sign of aches pains and sniffles, but without the wine, my anxiety is much more manageable. Next job fir this morning though, is to check why there is no movement from DS, teenagers, harrumph!

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 09:50

Spoke to soon. Had a shitty morning with DS, and ended up sitting in the car crying. Then got to work - without breakfast despite having been up since 6am, bought a sandwich - only thing available that wasn't junk, and it was vile. So no chance now until 3pm. First world problems I know, but ARGH!

Elba84 · 18/10/2016 11:16

sweet sleep still not great, which is annoying as I slept amazingly last time I went this long sober. But I do feel like I'm getting better quality rest at least. Sorry you've had such a crap morning- hope the day gets better! Sounds like your managing to have an occasional glass or two then stop again though, which is fab.

Been at therapy this morning and feel a bit wobbly and like I've been 'analysed'. Having a quick coffee and trying to pull myself together a bit before heading back to work and playing the role of sensible grown up again Hmm.

tismesober · 18/10/2016 11:36

sweet BrewCake aaargh kids they know how to push our buttonsAngry
elba you sound so much more positive .....hope the sleep fairy arrives soon.
I am still feeling shite a bit under the weather and have lost my sense of taste so no point in drinking Sad wine also giving me horrible reflux
So why do I keep thinking a nice cold glass of wine would solve all of my problemsConfusedConfusedConfused

Fairenuff · 18/10/2016 16:50

It won't sober. Sure it would be nice. Well, the first one would but how would you feel about it afterwards? Remember no-one ever regrets not drinking x

tismesober · 18/10/2016 17:20

Thanks faire eating Cake with lots of BrewBrew

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 18:02

Sober, those buttons got repeatedly jabbed this morning!,

Elba, I sleep less, but it's better quality. Hope you're less wobbly now.

Faire, that was just in time; I really want a drink, I wanted one at 4, but put it off with some boring admin. When I finished that at 5, I still wanted it, so I walked the dog. Now I still want a glass, but I've been reminded that I won't regret it tomorrow if I don't, so I'm going to keep boiling the kettle until it's too late to do anything about it.

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 18:03

My day did improve though. Good students, and a baby fish in our aquarium!

dementedma · 18/10/2016 18:51

Elba you are an absolute inspiration. Look how far you have come!
Sweet hope you are feeling better

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 19:28

Getting over it Ma. How's your day been?

madein1995 · 18/10/2016 19:35

theanswer I hope you’re ok, head up and carry on
sober well done, look after yourself and hope you get better soon Smile make sure to look after yourself as well as everyone else Brew wine really won’t make it better, especially if you’re not well. I second what faire said, you won’t regret not drinking.
elba Hopefully you’ll be sleeping better soon, when I was drinking loads I was sleeping better but think it was more a ‘passing out’ than ‘dropping off’ iykwim
sweet aww bloody kids. Any chance you have of making kids sort out their own food and spending the evening with chocolate and tv? Well done on resisting the wine, keep at it Smile

Had a bit of a ruck with the fella at the jobcentre today. Well not really, but felt like it. Have not been updating the website every day, more like every other so he told me it’s unacceptable and that he’ll sanction me next time (taking away some of the pittance they give me) and that I need to make my entries to the website more detailed. Like being in bloody school! Well if he wants detail I’ll bore him with detail. Fancied a glass of wine tonight but not got enough calories left and besides it’s a weekday slaps wrist in head, fixes self with stern look

dementedma · 18/10/2016 19:42

I have had a very good day thank you. Met up with a special friend...( who remembers Midget Obama Grin).
Ds has made a delicious chocolate cake and I am indulging!

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 20:03

Oh wow, MO, Ma, what a treat! Not quite scrummy chocolate cake, but I've got myself a hot chop with gingerbread syrup.

Made, you have to update a website everyday? Twenty years ago, I worked in a job centre, things have changed!

madein1995 · 18/10/2016 20:15

Sweet yep, every day nd you have to write appx. 250 words on every action you do (so 'applied for job in tesco' isnt good enough - has to be 'applied for role of x in store y in town y. Completed application form which included sections a,b,c,d,e and f. Emailed g asking when application dealine is. Sent g photographs of ID. Will email h if not heard back in 2 weeks'). I think it's because it's hard to lie when going into that much detail so weeds out the people who aren't really looking but it's still a bit of effort. In fairness to him he did send me a link to a great local job which pays a decent wage so he's not a total git Grin

SweetLathyrus · 18/10/2016 20:42

Blimey, it's a job creation scheme having enough people to go through it all! Hope you don't have to do it for too much longer Smile

madein1995 · 18/10/2016 20:43

Bit random but I've been thinking about getting myself into counselling, it might do me a bit of good. I know they do it in my local doctors surgery but I know too many people to do it there. I've been looking online for ones where you pay but it's 40-60 per session. I'd quite like it to be in the town where im volunteering so I could pop in afterwards and no one would know, but it'd be too costly for now. Maybe once I've got a job I'll try it.

laladidah · 18/10/2016 21:35

Hey all. Eating popcorn. Crying a bit. Rode the grumpy pony earlier.i hate my life. I went on a wine hunt earlier, and discovered three bottles behind mr l's clothes. So either he has found my stash. Or I hid it there before... worrying thing is, there is no way I could reach that shelf...

madein1995 · 18/10/2016 21:58

Aww la what's up, talk to us, see if chatting can make you feel a bit better? Please don't drink that wine love, when you say no way could you reach that shelf do you mean you wouldn't let yourself or you physically can't reach? Either way, it might work out for the best. I don't think one glass would be just the one, at least it's not for me when I drink cos I'm feeling shitty. Then think how crap you'll feel in the morning. Go for a bath, a walk, brush your teeth, eat some chocolate, eat some chewing gum, do some sit ups - anything to distract you from the booze. If you can face it, ask DH to get rid of the wine. Or if you're strong enough, tomorrow pour it away yourself.

madein1995 · 19/10/2016 00:22

Sorry la was having a dim moment, just realised you meant it must have been dh who put it there and not you. How is DH, is he supportive? How are you holding up my lovely? Hope you're ok and safe xx