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DRY 10!!!!

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CheesyNachos · 28/12/2015 06:22

Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2485290-DRY-9?pg=1

Everyone is welcome!

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gladistopped · 13/02/2016 23:47

Huge hugs to all of you and thank you for the good wishes which really help. Family member now in custody. No idea what will happen to him when he gets out. It is all such a mess. I am on the AF Eisberg and have already listened to AJ relax, drink and heal apps on x3 each so far today. Think maybe even AJ won't help me with this one :( But staying strong and not drinking. I asked mnhq to pull my post btw as it was a bit too personal. Sorry. If you want to know the gory details pm me.

yellowfloss · 14/02/2016 10:00

Go glad! Proud of you!
teapot I feel your pain. That was a tough one. Just one of those scenarios would have pushed me into hysteria!
I realised I have been beating myself up a bit for having cravings. Typical behaviour for me. If i'm not skipping through the daisies swishing my shiny pigtails and smiling serenely at all the little children I feel I have got it wrong. Reality of moaning at my snotty weans with greasy hair and tramping about in the Scottish drizzle is normal. Repeat to self 'it is normal to feel pissed off at times, accept it'
Gathered thoughts last night and cuddled up with Andrew (who I've not listened to for a couple of nights).
Up us today!

CheesyNachos · 15/02/2016 07:24

Morning everyone, how is everyone?

I have one more day where things are going to be stressful, then hopefully things will settle down. [fingers crossed]

Happy MOnday, Sober Warriors.

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gladistopped · 15/02/2016 23:01

Still here, still sober. Life getting more crap but still not drinking.

donajimena · 16/02/2016 08:51

Morning all. Still here too. Still sober too.
glad and cheesy I'm sorry you are still going through all this crap and I am so proud you are sober.
I'm not on MN as much as I was as I am still KMing. Wink getting my shit together. After years of losing my shit Wink

CheesyNachos · 16/02/2016 10:00

I am doing Flylady dona. And yesterday I planted muscari bulbs. My garden beds are very bare...I figured if I buy a small plant every time I go to Aldi by the summer they should be blooming. :)

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CheesyNachos · 17/02/2016 07:27

Good morning Sober Warriors.

What plans for the day? I am back at work, but have only a couple of things which I have almost finished already (was up at 4 am). Hoping to take DS and dogs for a walk and an early fish and chip dinner.

Today's home improvement plan...... hunt out all the empty garden pots for flower planting.

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Lucy2610 · 17/02/2016 11:42

Morning Cheesy Been for a run already and today I'm off to a wedding :) My sis is getting remarried and I am witness. My first sober wedding too! But she's making it easy for me as we are going for afternoon tea after the event so a low booze affair. No doubt there will be plenty of happy tears Grin

gladistopped · 17/02/2016 17:02

Congrats to your DS lucy Smile Flowers

Lucy2610 · 17/02/2016 18:51

Thanks Glad it was a lovely day with not an alcoholic drink in sight Grin

LikeaHurricane · 17/02/2016 19:24

Hi all, still here and reading all your posts. You are all such an inspiration to me. We've all got different shit going on, deal with it the best we can whilst trying our best to stay sober. We do it most of the time too! That is a fantastic achievement.
Glad, hope you're ok. Post and vent whenever you need to. I don't think there is a single one of us who would disagree with that. What goes on the thread stays on the thread. I know I won't always be able to help with a practical solution but I'm good at virtual hugs Smile

Yellow well done on the night out.....it's my first on this Saturday but I'm ok with it.....at the moment.

Teapot, oh my word! I really hope that your Scottish break has been fab after its dodgy start. You held steady and dealt with it.

Cheesy I'm glad that things are getting back to normality for you. Work can be a good leveller I think. You have lots of other things to distract you.

Lucy I love a good wedding and your DS's sounds just lovely

I had a really bad spell of about an hour on Sunday. MIL was here for an evening meal. Looooong story but we no longer have the best relationship, we tolerate each other but that's about it. I could have murdered a glass (VAT) of red but I just kept reminding myself how I would feel when I woke up on Monday and the thought of the guilt and shame stopped me thank God. I'm proud of myself because everyone else was drinking and we did have (still have) a couple of spare bottles of red in the house.

I'm listening to AJ's healing app every night. It's lovely Smile

gladistopped · 17/02/2016 19:32

Hurricane I have downloaded the AJ healing app as I really think I need more healing than stopping drinking or getting sleep at the moment. Although, the not sleeping is getting a bit terrible tbh. I keep having horrible dreams as soon as my eyes close - PTSD type flashbacks to stuff in my past. I suspect the stress and context of family member's stuffs has stirred all the crap up again. Still, DH is being wonderful as always and such a comfort.

gladistopped · 17/02/2016 19:48

And I have not drunk any alcohol ( although My God I really wanted to! Just for some oblivion, but that way lies madness!)

Feel very sad and low, though. not surprising considering what is happening.

LikeaHurricane · 17/02/2016 20:03

Glad I really feel for you Flowers You mentioned a while ago the stuff you had been through as a teenager....I'm not surprised you struggle at times. But remember that you don't feel like this all the time do you? So let yourself feel your feelings for now......accept that you are going to have times where you feel like this but that it will pass. You were very badly let down as a kid Flowers
Did you have any luck sorting out a therapist again? Xx

gladistopped · 17/02/2016 22:40

Hurricane Thank you for the kind words Flowers I contacted a local therapist from the link ( I think) Teapot posted who I had actually seen before but she has not got back to me ( 2 weeks :( ) So I need to chase it up.

Been so poorly and so stressed

AbsoluteBeginner · 18/02/2016 09:16

Hi everyone.
Glad I'm sorry you're low and stressed, well done for staying strong.
Hurricane I do admire you for having bottles of wine in the house and not drinking them. Really don't think I could pull that off. Even when I get Eisberg in I have to drink it straightaway and it doesn't last long.
I'm on my own for the next four days as DH and DD are away. Would normally have been an excuse to drink plenty as no- one there to see the empty bottles. Hopefully not this time, Day 52 I think. Keep on keeping on sober warriors.

CheesyNachos · 18/02/2016 09:53

Hi everyone. :)

Glad Thanks and

Very envious of your time to yourself Absolute What plans do you have to spoil yourself?

Okay here.

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LikeaHurricane · 18/02/2016 18:23

Absolute thanks for the admiration! I don't know how I manage it either but I just do. DH drinks every weekend. A bottle of red on a Friday and Saturday without fail. I actually buy it for him!!! I honestly think AJ Noooow has hypnotised me, seriously I do! Cos I was a massive pisspot but I appear to be able to control it, for the first time in my life. Eisberg helps, I tried Torres too and it's nice but not worth twice the price, so I've done a bulk order of Eisberg from Amazon. I'm also liking the fact that I'm toning up a bit in places not previously so....if I drank wine then I wouldn't Smile

Keep strong sober warriors.

Glad I hope you're ok xx

CheesyNachos · 19/02/2016 08:09

Morning all. Quiet around here lately. Hope everyone is fine. :)

I finished a bottle of Eisberg rose last night... hit the spot perfectly.

Hope everyone is well and has good plans for the weekend. I have a birthday lunch tomorrow..... it is at a restaurant that has the most amazing mocktails and I am ridiculously excited!!!!

Have great days, Sober Revolutionaries!

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yellowfloss · 19/02/2016 14:49

Can someone hold my hand please? desperately struggling.

CheesyNachos · 19/02/2016 15:01

yellow are you at home or work? Go for a walk, take a bath, make a cup of tea.....what can you do to get past it?

What has triggered?

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CheesyNachos · 19/02/2016 15:15

Can you take some time out wherever you are to just draw breath? Maybe read some blogs if that is what you are in to?

Plan something indulgent for the evening....

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LikeaHurricane · 19/02/2016 16:18

Yellow hope you're OK Flowers....keep playing the tape forward. Sending you strength xx

Marryoneorbecomeone · 19/02/2016 23:36

Just checking in ladies. Not been around much but have been quietly watching in admiration. Day 79.

Yellow, has the awful white knuckle feeling passed? Keep talking! X

gladistopped · 20/02/2016 00:49

yellow only just spotted this - sorry - hope you are ok

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