Husband watches 'teenage' porn

[chloworm]

I've always known my husband watches porn online, and after chatting to my friends, know that it's something virtually all men do. But recently he's been accessing porn on a daily basis (I look on his laptop). It's not just the frequency that has made me upset, but the content. It always seems to be 'teen' this and 'teenage' that. I could probably cope if it wasn't always focused on very young women. We have a daughter and in a few years she'll be the same age as these women. He knows how strongly I feel about the exploitation of women and how young women are often preyed upon by older men who should know better. I find it repulsive and depressing. I'm starting to age, have had 2 children and my body shape couldn't be further from the cartoonish figures of the porn women. Our sex life has dwindled, but that is common when a couple has children and we both work long hours. I believe that sex in a loving marriage should be respectful and tender, and I won't do things that the porn women do...anal, weird positions...it would make me feel like a whore and I won't do it simply to 'spice things up'. This whole teenage business has totally put me off and I have zero sex drive now. My husband is so quiet and I just know he won't want to talk about it, but should I insist we do talk? Do men view this online version of sex as 'normal' and think their wives should do the weird stuff? I wish it was like the 70s when the only porn around was on the top shelf and much, much tamer!

How the hell do you know they are liars, have you met them?

So in other words loveandhate you are terrified of your partner using porn, since Marie Claire has proved that a certain number of women do, indeed use porn (I mean what a revelation!) assuming you are a man that is. (Not being funny it's blindingly obvious) suddenly you personally feel threatened.

It's 2015 though! Get with the program and all that! Women are human beings too with access to the internet and to porn!

...or does it hurt your self esteem?(diddums..)
Are you beginning to see things from the (long gone) op's perspective?

I think Love and Hate means: one in three women use porn - its a fact! - and how disgraceful it is that those very same women are on mumsnet urging happy women to leave their very lovely husbands.

Not sure though. I think the only thing she's/he's said that makes sense is that she's leaving the thread.

Yeah, I'm lost too. I think ill bow out because I'm confused about what I'm getting angry over .. :-/

The Marie claire survey is irrelevant to this thread because the op is opposed to porn and therefore not a woman who thinks porn is ok or watches it herself....

Your extrapolation is basically that because Marie claire surveyed their readers and found that a third of them reported that they were over 18 and that they watched porn that means that a third of all women/all mumsnet users watch porn and therefore the women on this thread including the op must be lying... You also drew a conclusion that because women are lying about their supposedly high porn use they need to have a 'new discussion' about porn...

It is ridiculous. Just plain and simply ridiculous. As ridiculous as the assertions that all men lie about the porn they are definitely watching because all of them are watching it.

AnyFucker, just noticed your response to me. My, you are the bolshy one aren't you?

You're wasting your time with me though. You just come across as a bit of a militant arse.

I think a few people missed a couple of things from my post. I said some on here are man haters, certainly not all. And I spoke only about legal porn, i.e. not material involving underage girls!

I do hope the OP has been able to move forward somehow.

Unless you know the actual posters in question here you really cant say they are men haters Enemy, I am not a man hater, I have four brothers and have been in relationships most of my adult life with men, I just don't get off watching porn, that's all, I don't have time for it tbh, I do have time for real life sex though, I find that much more fun.

Each to their own and all that, I also don't think you can say legal porn, I mean really, how much of it is legal - I certainly wouldn't trust it to be.

Anyone who google searches 'teen porn' will find a plethora of sites offering free pornographic images of young women, many of whom appear to be under 18, being exploited having sex with much older men and many of the themes involve a teacher/father/stepfather or other 'authority' figure.

Is the type of 'legal' porn you watch mean. TheEnemy?

This use of "models" acting like teens, and I'd argue barely, barely legal teens at that is a vile practice that over the past few years of the Internet blowing up has led to an increase of misogynistic narcissistic men who believe any woman is fair game.

Then we have teenage boys watching the same disgusting shit growing up with a very disturbing vision in their heads and no doubt is a causal factor in teenage sex crime.

Porn is fine, tastefully done porn can be erotic and wonderful. As pp said, this teen crap is full of the toned, ripped men literally ripping pieces out of a girl, turning her into gloryholes for their macabre needs.

Vile.

PS: Reading and writing erotica is much, much, much more fun than porn!

This use of "models" acting like teens, and I'd argue barely, barely legal teens at that is a vile practice that over the past few years of the Internet blowing up has led to an increase of misogynistic narcissistic men who believe any woman is fair game.

Then we have teenage boys watching the same disgusting shit growing up with a very disturbing vision in their heads and no doubt is a causal factor in teenage sex crime.

Porn is fine, tastefully done porn can be erotic and wonderful. As pp said, this teen crap is full of the toned, ripped men literally ripping pieces out of a girl, turning her into gloryholes for their macabre needs.

Vile.

PS: Reading and writing erotica is much, much, much more fun than porn!

OP, do you have a dd? What would you say to her if you do? Would you be happy with her marrying a man who watches the type of porn your husband does?
If you have ds, would you be happy for him to grow into a man who watches teen porn?
You need to be responsible, you are setting the precendent here for your children, what's right, what's wrong and what they as adults will perceive as normal and morally okay.

I'm finding it hard to. I've found teen porn on my fellas phone. Before I catched him with his pants down but wouldn't let me see screen what he watching ! Then lied said he wasn't then told me it was porn. He saw me so upset so said he stopped. It didn't stop... After I lost his baby he still did it day after I left hospital I couldn't have sex coz I had 3 stitches I couldn't move. It breaks my heart it's so sickly and disrespectful... But I downloaded gay men porn on my phone so see if it hurts him. It did , he was so upset and I deleted it and laughed and said I never even watched it coz I'm not into strangers f*ing each other. But after that I thought it worked it didn't. He still watched teens , milfs and big cocks porn sites. I don't look at him the same I don't even like our sex anymore he's mentally and physically destroyed me

Brokenlou
Please start your own thread.
You will get support.
But you won't from a ZOMBIE thread.
This is from 2015.

Wow just read the thread..
Another massive fan of @AnyFucker..
She literally takes no shit and clearly doesn't settle for a man who regualry gets off on other women while exploiting them at the same time..

Reallllll catches these guys aren't they 😁

Bored of hearing excuses for "guys will be guys let them wank to porn."
Erm nope!

Oops zombie thread.. My bad!

For all the women who say their partner or husband has never and would ‘never’ watch porn I think you are extremely deluded. And more than that how do you know they never have or never would? Ridiculous and so naive.

I get however your worry/distaste of him accessing teen porn though, especially when you have a daughter near that age.

know that it's something virtually all men do

Nope, certainly not on a daily basis.

I feel sorry for any woman that feels she has to put up with her husband wanking daily to what he probably thinks are under age girls and he has a daughter, utterly sickening.

I have this issue at the moment with H, except in his case it’s lesbian, not every day but multiple times a week in secret, he hides it well but I have ways! All I can say is it’s an absolute turn off for me and affects my perception , so by doing it creates a viscous circle because I don’t feel like it, particularly oral as that’s all he seems to watch!!