H and I have had a crap time.
Our marriage was under a lot of stress and was essential miserable for at least 18 months.
Last December I found some very flirty emailsr between him and some woman.
They'd met five times for coffee. They were getting on very well. Too well. H claims they were two miserable people trying to boost each other about their partners' lack of interest in them. No sex apparently although had I not found out when I did, I think it might have progressed.
H stopped all contact as soon as I found out. He said to this woman he wanted his marriage to work.
So we've muddled through for the last seven months. He's doing all the right things, is very regretful, apologetic and trust is beginning to grow a bit.
Until this woman, after months of silence, sends him an FB friend request. I had predicted she would pop up again. He pooh poohed it.
H deleted it and blocked her. He said he did not know why she would think it appropriate to contact him as he says he was very clear to her what he wanted in their last conversation. He says he is always going to ignore any further attempts at contact on her part.
It makes me irritated that this woman thinks it's okay to come back into our lives again. What should I do about it? Just trust him that he will ignore any further contact attempts or should I give her a ring? I would risk looking like the hysterical wife as she's only trying to be friends, right? Except the emails I saw certainly weren't between friends!
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winkywinkola · 03/08/2015 16:34
disco why are you so hell bent on op phoning OW? Birth marks? Jeeez you need to chill out 
OMFG this thread us just plain weird now
Yes, OP, just disregard all the sane replies and phone coffee woman instantly to see if she can name any distinguishing marks on your DH arse 
Think maybe some posters have read too many trashy novels / watched too many trashy TV programmes... 
I'm not hell bent on the Op phoning the Ow, I was trying to give her advice as to what to do because if you read her original post then you will see that she actually asked us all 'should I ring her?'
This 'birthmark' thing was hypothetically speaking, there's many different ways the Ow could prove they had an affair to the Op, if that's what it was.
The only comment, in my opinion, which was sensible throughout the whole thread towards me was where you said let's agree to disagree, so let's just leave it at that.
Thanks for the , I may need a whole bloody bottle it after trying to no avail to explain things to yourself and JFR, I give up!
I'm off now, this thread is pointless and Glittery, It seems that you and one or two others have nothing better to do than try and put me down, you're not really worth responding to anymore as you won't listen.
Op, I've tried my best to advise you, it's up to you what you do, good luck though you're going to need it
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