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DRY 7!!!

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mollyonthemove · 03/04/2015 20:10

The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free . come and join us

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LastGleaming · 27/05/2015 21:10

Cross post. Really should write and post straight away rather than making a cup of tea in the middle :) Glad you're feeing a bit better.

Faez · 27/05/2015 21:19

I was drinking from Monday afternoon. Poured myself a drink this morning but managed not to drink it, its still hiding behind the sofa. Even now I'm not pouring the rest of the bottle down the sink. Maybe that's the first step. the horrors are just awful aren't they, I worry about all kinds of things and convince myself I have throat cancer as my mum died from it. Its madness. The only way is up... I hope. How long have you been dry gleaming if you don't mind me asking?

LastGleaming · 27/05/2015 21:39

150 days tomorrow, still at the counting stage obviously ;) Did six months last year and fell off the wagon myself but feeling stronger this time. The horrors are one of the main reasons I'm frightened to drink again. I was a becoming a shaking, heart and mind racing mess with most of my hangovers. The vicious circle of drinking, anxiety and drinking again to try and take the panic away.

So weird you should say that, I've an appointment this week as I'm really worried about my throat/oesophagus.

And yes the best thing would be to pour it down the sink but you know that anyway :)

Faez · 27/05/2015 22:13

Gosh hope all is well. I should get checked to put my mind at rest. Also have history of an eating disorder so at increased risk. Congrats on your sobriety, hope I can achieve the same. Have given the voddy to my brother so no chance of drinking tonight.

BadWool · 27/05/2015 23:10

Good luck Faez - I would offer more advice but obviously I'm not the best one for that just yet ... really wish you well though.

LastGleaming · 27/05/2015 23:41

Well done for getting rid of it!! You have taken the first steps today and have a plan to speak to your keyworker, that's all you can do for now bar rest up tonight. Yep hiatus hernia and bad reflux as a consequence of it for many years here so also increased risk factors. Hope tonight was ok for you too badwool.

Suppose I may get to my bed :) Wishing you all a peaceful night's sleep.

jesy · 28/05/2015 07:55

No it's no one on here , finally heard off them this am, has said no more drinking has been drink free for 18months and can do it again

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 09:50

Pleased to hear that jesy and you could always tell them we're here if they'd like support :)
Faez happy to hear the vodka was taken care of. How are you this morning?
Last good luck with your appt this week

BamBam21 · 28/05/2015 11:25

Hi everyone. Can I just skulk back in here please?

For about 3 wks now DP and I have been telling each other that we need to stop again (we did Dry January), but then we end up drinking, and it has been a bottle and a quarter of vodka between us pretty much every night. I had felt so positive when I was on here before, but DP and I sort of sabotage each other I suppose.

I feel rubbish, tired, bloated and just unhealthy and ill in general. I want today to be day 1. I woke about 3 this morning, and just lay there feeling awful and praying for the strength to stop all this stupidity. I want to be healthy for my 2 boys. I don't think I am physically addicted (never get the shakes etc, never want or need to drink in the morning), but the psychological pull is huge. It gets to 4.30 when DP gets home, and the desire for booze is huge.

I am so in awe of all you longterm dry people, and I want to get there too.

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 11:49

Hey BamBam welcome back! Pull up a chair, grab yourself a and make yourself comfy. You need to take care of you . Can you resolve for you to stop together? Mr and the Mr were exactly the same - which is why we stopped together :)

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 11:50

That should have read me and the Mr! And I am a female!

BamBam21 · 28/05/2015 11:56

Thank you Lucy I am trying to be kind to myself, but I feel so pathetic about the whole thing. I'm another one whose dad was an alcoholic and died aged 55 from it, and I vowed never to be like that.

DP and I want to do this together. We need to keep strong.

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 12:17

BamBam I said I'd be different too but we inherited the genetic likelihood so it was an impossible vow Time to accept and move forward :)

BamBam21 · 28/05/2015 12:29

I think that's true Lucy. DP has alcoholism in his family too (I actually think there can't be many people who aren't touched by it in some way). I used to always think the genetic thing was a bit of a cop out, and that everyone had to take responsibility for themselves, but I see now how totally insidious and addictive the stuff is. It's truly evil.

Onwards and upwards! I have to take DS1 out this afternoon, and will be out when DP gets home, so hopefully that will disrupt the usual danger time.

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 12:59

Then you have a doubly loaded gun BamBam if DP's family too. Change up your routine at trigger time as much as you can. You know all this stuff - you did it in January :)

PoppysStyle · 28/05/2015 16:53

So glad I found this thread - I stopped a week ago after almost 30 years of binge drinking! I'm blogging my journey to sobriety. I've been fine so far but I've had a couple of panic attacks about social engagements that are coming up. I've avoided them so far so as not to fail in the first week!

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 17:05

Welcome PoppysStyle Congrats on 7 days! Avoiding social engagements is a good strategy in the early days but you can plan your way around one's in the future :)

LastGleaming · 28/05/2015 18:31

Hi and well done on the week Poppy. It was crucial for me to avoid social engagements at the start, now I find being sober at them quite refreshing although I do leave a good bit earlier than I used to.

Welcome back BamBam, good to hear from you again. The older I get the more I tend to agree with you in that alcoholism seems to have touched a lot of families in some way.

Thanks Lucy for the good luck.

mortil2 · 28/05/2015 18:53

Hi everyone
Gosh so many new people in just over a week
I will have to catch up on all of you this evening when I have a bit more time. I just hit my 140th sober day today. I can hohonestly say that I haven't felt this good both physically and mentally for many many years. It is of course still very conscious effort but one I am in charge of

CornChips · 28/05/2015 19:04

Hi everyone. :) Have a work deadline so just saying hi.Welcome to all of our new friends. :)

LastGleaming · 28/05/2015 22:15

Fantastic mortil, it's a great feeling isn't it.

I have my first child-free weekend in months tomorrow afternoon and sad to say I'm not really looking forward to it. I've an appointment to get my hair cut which it desperately needs and meet a friend for coffee but that's it. I feel like I've too much time to fill without alcohol and hangovers playing a part in the proceedings.

I can do a parkrun, go shopping, maybe go to an AA meeting but I dunno, it all seems so mundane. Not that drinking is exciting and I have no intention to even if I did have some wistful thoughts about it today but life feels a little lacklustre without big boozy Saturday nights out planned. I love not drinking when I have the kids but without them there's a void that I haven't got round to filling yet.

Lucy2610 · 28/05/2015 22:35

Try filling it with this film Last - released on iTunes today itunes.apple.com/gb/movie/a-royal-hangover/id995292478 Went to the press/industry screening last Thursday and it is exceptional. You won't' want a drink when you've watched this!

LastGleaming · 28/05/2015 22:59

thanks Lucy, there's one of my nights sorted.

CornChips · 29/05/2015 06:49

I was going to say a film too.:) Film, treaty dinner out (or in!).

BadWool Faez how are you?

I agree also about alcoholism touching so many families. In my family, well my mother's family have a history of quite violent and sexual abuse and I believe alcohol played a part, although it was all secret and swept under the carpet. My beloved paternal grandmother..... one of the most compassionate, strongest, loving women I have ever known, apparently her father was a very violent alcoholic, and no-one in the family EVER talks abut him. My very relaxed and laid back dad cannot even speak of his grandfather and he died 60 odd years ago.

I am really grateful for this thread.... I would still be stuck in the cycle of alcohol abuse without you all, and without everything I have learned.

What plans for the weekend? Last I am at a childfree weekend!

We are hosting a birthday party tomorrow night for a good friend. Just a BBQ, nothing major. I am feeling confident about not-drinking and feel I will be fine. A good friend is also alcohol-free right now so we are picking up luxury cordials and lemonades for it. Sunday I want to take DS for a picnic...... BBQ leftovers will feature no doubt! if the weather is good I will drive us to the beach.

CornChips · 29/05/2015 06:56

Oh, Poppy would you be willing to share your blog link? I LOVE blogs and they have played a major part in my sobriety. :)

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