Inappropriate photos of son *possible trigger*

[Letmeeatcakecakecake]

Omg I'm in shock.

I'm not with my sons father. My son is 5.

He just casually told me that his daddy took a picture of his butt and sent it to someone.

I asked him how he was standing and he showed me that he was laying on his back with his knees drawn to his chest and his anus exposed.

I'm shaking and in shock. What do I do? Shall I report it to the police?

What the wild thing said is of crucial, fundamental importance. Please, please take her advice and act on it. If it emerges that your son was abused, the defence would make the most of his conflicting accounts. Because of this
the cps might decide the case could not go to court because there was an unrealistic prospect of conviction.(one of the tests applied to all criminal cases when it's decided if it's appropriate to charge)

Just another one to say you're doing brilliantly.

Your mum is behaving outrageously. I'm sure this revelation is hard for her too given her love for your ds, but to blame it on you is actually disgusting and verging on unforgivable. Is it all all realistic for you to cut her out for a while? She is being so unhelpful.

Yy to pushing again on the interview. Surely they would understand that this whole experience would be so confusing for a young person and I would be horrified if it was written off quickly.

Best wishes to you all.

I'm very sorry to say this but your mother is a twat. I'd avoid her for a while.

I think that you are doing brilliantly do. Hoping you get the interview for your son.

How are you and ds doing?

Hope you're both ok

Just hoping you and your DS are OK and getting support

Hi Cake, I just couldn't read this without saying that I think the police REALLY need to know about the video of the person doing a poo on another, as that is viewed as extreme porn, not some funny YouTube snippet, and I think if they know about that in conjunction with the photograph, it sheds a whole new light on things, as it is child abuse to show children porn also. Did they know about that, ask him about it? Please really push this if they are not aware of it, your child is only 5 and could not have made that up. It makes me sick as I have a 6 year old boy and cannot imagine what you are going through. Please sort somehting out before his father is meant to have him again, I fear he is being groomed too, I am sorry. xxx

How are you Cake? X

I have just caught this thread. I think you did the right thing. I hope you and ds are ok and have a great Xmas.

No one knows what is cause and what is effect. When the camera comes out is your ds used to being told to give a flash, or if he flashes (kids go through a phase of this) does the camera come out.

Hope you get this sorted op. It is worrying.

What's your point Jux?

We often know what is cause and what is effect.

I think Jux is saying - has OP's DS been 'trained' to show off his body when he sees a camera OR is he naturally inclined to do so (as many children are) and his dad has taken the opportunity to take photos.

I'm sure Jux is not meaning to cast any doubt on the dad's intentions - they are obviously allegedly suspect.

You are doing so so well. You've done all the right steps and are handling this brilliantly. I'm glad your son has a mum like you.

Idfa

I have been wondering how you are all doing too. Thinking of you all.

I only came across this thread now. I also hope that everything's all right (relatively speaking) with you and that you're getting support.

Vivacia, yes I wasn't clear, and I'm sorry. I wasn't casting doubt, it is clear that investigation is required here. I did mean exactly what MushroomSoup said.