First lesbian date? Clueless old bird needs your help.

[Nearlyteatime]

In short: was married to a man for years despite knowing I was gay from young age. Marriage ended amicably several years ago, but there's been too much going on in recent years for me to consider dating. Have NCed as I've posted so much on here that would identify me!

I have never dated. My relationships have evolved from close friendships.

A woman I've met a couple of times (and really like) has asked if I'd like to discuss a shared interest (let's say "upholstery" for the sake of anonymity) over wine. I've said yes. I know she's gay. She knows I'm gay. We've fixed a date. But is it a date, or is it just talking and drinking?

If I wanted to talk about 'upholstery' with someone and didn't want it to be misconstrued, I'd always say coffee, not wine.

Really, really hoping it's a date...

Any advice on how to read the signs, o wise and lovely MNers?

Did someone call?

I'm here.

Reporting for duty

Awwwwww so happy for you, sad I may have missed out though! love this thread!

You do realise that at some point we will be offering gardening tips?

Because at some point the upholsterer will pop round to yours to admire your prized budlia bush and you will wish you had trimmed your herbaceous border!!

"don't know if I'm elated or gassy, but I'm somewhere in that zooone...."

Crafters. I'm about to launch into a very busy time at work and have decided, reluctantly, that I need to step away from MN threads for a while and do some bloody work. It's not so much this thread - which has been so life enhancing for me - as getting sucked into the vortex of Active Convos and not being able to yank myself away. I have no will power.

I'm sure I'll come back at some point. I always do. I didn't want to disappear without saying thank you and goodbye for now.

Here's hoping that there is news to report about TU, and if not with her, with another lovely woman.

Thanks a million for sharing my excitement. May your habers never be undashed.

Oh no! This is such a lovely thread!! Don't go!!

Looking forward to your return and the next installment

xxx

A wonderful, wonderful thread!

Just wanted to come back and cheer for all the women on MN and beyond who are stuck and struggling with their sexuality and not sure how they will ever move forward, and to wave at all the lovely people on this loveliest of threads who cheered me on.

Being closeted drove me to the brink.

Now, I'm thriving. I am slowly getting to know an amazing woman and enjoying the will-we-won't-we and savouring the delicious edge of possibility. I'm not rushing this and life's been too manic for us to spend much time together, but Wine WAS a Sign. Things are looking good.

I think I can say with confidence that it is, my dears, very nearly tea time.

Fabulous update

Hope you have an immensely wonderful future x

Wow, thanks for updating and glad things are giving well

You sound so happy - I'm really thrilled for you (I lurked on this thread, and was silently cheering you on).

This is such a lovely thread. You sound really lovely - I really do hope now is your time. Wishing you stack of happiness Nearly

Come back with another lovely thread soon!

whoop whoop!!! Have a great time!!!!

That's great news. Thanks for updating

Thanks!

Feeling groovy ('hello-lamppost', not Austin Powers) even if things don't work out with the Upholsterer because I am FREE, I am OUT (except to the people I'm not out to, but we won't mention that) and I am HAPPY!

Anything is Possible, as I believe the blessed Will Young said.

Great update :)

Aaahhh, what a wonderful update. So excited for you and here is to a wonderful future. Congratulations on finding YOURSELF.! Well done.

Please update as things progress (nosey but sooo excited for you) xx

Awwwww fab!

Aw, lovely.

That's brilliant - I often wondered how things had gone/were going.

Thank you for the lovely update

Yay so exciting

Yay! All the best for your new beginning