ham I love a good crush, I have a current infatuation with my boss, never going to happen, nor would I want to really, but he is drop dead gorgeous, and he is good to fantasise about 
rubbish it's happened, you can't change it, only the two of you know what happened, laugh it off, and you can always deny certain aspects!
super detective sounds great, and he may not develop into seeing your DC's but it sounds like you are having fun