The Dating Thread 64

[unBant]

Here we go again...

[OneDayWhenIGrowUp]

Nope, nothing, zip. I have to say personally I don't mind being the one to get in touch. Maybe it's a bit of feminist equality seeking but that's how I feel. I agree, if people want to see people again, then they will ask, I wouldn't ask more than once, but I don't feel bad texting in this situation - nothing to lose if he ignores (or if shockingly he does the nice polite thing and actually decline). I think I'll text tomorrow, finished work a bit late tonight.

I have plans to meet another one ('dimples') on Sunday, but I haven't heard any more to confirm from him since we arranged it last week.....so again I think I'm going to have to text again tomorrow to ask if we are still on! We had exchanged a lovely series of messages before deciding to meet up and had a bit of a mission to find a date we were both free, so I definitely want that to happen if at all possible.

Sigh, this is all a lot of effort.

On a positive note a disappearing messager got back in touch, and I carpe diem'd and asked if he fancied a drink. Ping pong messages can only get you so far. It's funny how everyone is different - I really wouldn't be comfortable skyping with someone I didn't know before a date - much prefer to meet up at an early stage.

[powpow80]

Hi

Long term lurker and have really enjoyed reading the trials and tribulations of all the lovely folk on the thread.

I have ventured into the world of od since coming out of a long term relationship about 18 months ago. Have been on dates with a lot of different guys. Only one I wanted to develop into more. It did and I really enjoyed it but different values meant it had to be knocked on the head. So back to pof with me.

All I'm looking for is someone to cast an eye over my profile. It seems to attract guys in their early 20s or guys who are a tad older than I'd like to date. If someone would be so kind as to look and maybe give me a few pointers I'd really appreciate it.

[feelinlucky]

I'm here :) I was very disappointed following Saturday nights debacle. I'm back on it though and have a second date with whatsapp guy so we will see how that goes. I'll try and do a loo update!

[joblot]

What is whatsapp? Am I missing out on something exciting?

Hi pow what sites are you on? I could look at your profile but I'm no expert...

[akaWisey]

Can't believe it, I've actually got first date nerves, moi who is as cool as a cucumber usually.

On the basis of a few dating site messages and then the rest by actually speaking on the phone and going for a meet to avoid the 'burn-out' which happens when too much messaging takes place - I think we have the potential to actually have a conversation this evening, one which is pleasant, honest, no fucking about.

I just hope he's a nice guy rather than a "Nice Guy".

[Moanranger]

Hi, just checking in. All is well with Meet Up guy, it's been about 4+ months. Now that DC are gone (to uni) he is here most nights. Will see where that takes us..... I do not want to change anything til/if we last a year. At the mo, my divorce is taking up a lot of my energy. My lawyer just asked me to fill out Form E & the amount of info required is daunting.
Also enjoyed Blue Jasmine but as the Alec Baldwin character was a fraud ster - as was my X - it was a little close to the bone. Meet Up guy was concerned for my feelings. He also made me lunch to take to work yesterday - so sweet!

[kittymchotpress]

ok guys I'm going back in...I've donned my teflon coat and have a bag of half cynicism/half joie de vivre and have stepped away from the sofa .

Having expexctations lower than zero and not much time will help, I think.

Wish me luck, I'll report back whatever.

Enjoy a proper conversation later wisey and good vibes to all threaders and lurkers.

[sixfootplus]

@joblot

WhatsApp is a IM app that you can use for texting, photo swaps etc. I believe its free to use and is very popular for text ping-pong pre-first date!

Download it on to your smart phone & then look in your contacts, it should identify all of those that are using the app with a generic title 'hey there I am using WhatsApp' and will show their profile photo if they are using one.

You can find the DL here

www.whatsapp.com/download/

[feelinlucky]

Whatsapp is an instant messenger, I wrote earlier about not hearing from him and he said he thought I wasn't interested in him because I ignored his whatsapp messages. So, we're back on again :) you can send photos etc for free so get yourself the app!

[feelinlucky]

Aka, I still have giggle about readed :) I've been telling anyone who will listen. Hilarious!

[niceupthedance]

Ah that's a result, feelin.

Hope he's a good 'un Wisey.

I've had my ex trying to set me up on a date today - that's not normal, is it?!

[akaWisey]

exes setting up dates for their, well, exes is def not normal

kitty get back in that saddle!!!!!

feelinlucky I know. Picnic guy still at the top of the loser charts though .

Good luck to all on dates tonight.

[akaWisey]

Sorry, did I mention music man is also a masseuse? (note to self - do not whip top off in middle of date and and trill "there you go, sweetie!")

[powpow80]

Evening. Thanks a million to all the kind MNers who have looked at my profile. Much tweaking and photo taking will be done over the weekend. Hopefully the new and improved profile will attract some new guys. Joblot I am on pof. No other sites. Think where I am everyone who is single uses pof.

[lubeybooby]

Hi all. Sorry for being absent from the thread

Things are loved up and lovely with Henry although we have been through the mill with parents being ill and then today his mother died :( my poor lovely man :(

All this while I'm still shocked I've actually ended up in what is shaping up to be a serious relationship.. when BOTH of us really didn't want that at the start... life is so strange.

I am quite glad that our relationship developed from dating the way it did though and that we have got so much closer and it start looking serious before this awfulness happened, because I have a defined role now and I can be there for him and help, whereas if this was a casual thing I'd be lurking around the edges of the situation unsure what was and wasn't my place to do etc etc and probably feeling he should have space rather hugs or I'd be accepting being pushed out. Fretting with nowhere for that energy to go.

Sorry! Pointless musing really, wondering why I was so against a relationship for so long. Maybe it's just crap relationships I was against, because although we've been having a shite time it all definitely feels right and not hard work or anything.

[ladygoingGaga]

So I have second date on Sunday with supermarket buyer man, we have been exchanging emails all week, seems intelligent, articulate and is good looking.
Not heard from him in 24hrs, hope he doesn't vanish, this board has taught me that is a distinct possibility.

Good luck to all those on dates

Nice to hear those of you checking back in, who are now all luved up

[Hamwidgeandcheps]

Urgh. Exh has just popped up on the viewed me list on pof. Can I block him without any messages? Any other ideas?

[Hormonalhell]

That happened to me...so funny! Don't think u can block until u've been messaged tho

Sorry not much help

[Hormonalhell]

I've been lurking with interest I'm this thread And it's been a wealth of information

I've not taken advice tho as I've been chatting to a guy since 3 October but because we seem to constantly speak to each other by text it feels a lot longer! The thing is we haven't met yet (meeting weds) but my intuition is telling me it's going to be ok. I've had about 30 days from pof now some good, more bad but I just hope I've finally met a decent guy who feels the same. Good luck doesn't often come my way tho

[Hormonalhell]

dates not days (too much wine)

[Hamwidgeandcheps]

I want to kill him!

[akaWisey]

ham please don't kill him, you don't get to do MN from prison .

My date with music (masseuse) man was lovely. He's now doing the 60 mile drive home in the rain and wind.

So we've agreed this: we both want a relationship which gives us our own space (yay!), is monogamous and fun. Shame he'd shaved off what I thought was the most interesting bit of his face but there you go - it'll grow back. He's tallllllllll, and tattooed and bald and….anyhow it was a very good evening and we're both pleased with each other and ourselves.

[akaWisey]

I was thinking earlier on niceup that whole my ex wants to set me up thing - is probably quite an entertaining thread all of it's own. It made me think about who my ex would set me up with.

I reckon it would be with someone just like him because he's so up his own arse because he only wants the best for me.