The Dating Thread 64

[unBant]

Here we go again...

[2013letsdothis]

Thanks Man. Shame as I do quite like him :o(

[2013letsdothis]

Thanks Gaga ... 3rd date then as Man suggests? Surely is he's a player that's not too long to wait? Let's make him work for it and wait a bit longer .... 6th date instead? lol

[LividofLondon]

"...Voluptuous women are surely what every man wants??"

Thankfully not Man otherwise us athletic, slim, small breasted, ectomorphs, who refuse to get boob jobs or let ourselves get fat would never get laid! I think you'll find that men are like women; they are individuals and have individual tastes. You like "volumptuous" but all my lovers have preferred something different thankfully. So please don't go down the "real women" V skinny girls route because it's offensive to us slim ladies (see a recent thread about it!)

[HelloBoys]

LOL, well man I am witty and can hold a conversation...

No convos last night though. Had vile headache and TBH wasn't into chatting up a chef at a law firm who 'liked legal secretaries' (me). UGH

[HelloBoys]

Man - TBH if I found it easier to meet men IRL I would do so. So many men I meet outside internet are either unavailable etc.

Internet can be a pain in the bum.

[ManofMystery]

2013-it is all about the wait I think. You can certainly like him bit he needs to not think you fancy him so much he can have what he wants when he wants it! If he is in for the long haul, he will be keen. So don't sleep with him straight away but I would still expect lots of contact e.g. Texts. If these dry up, you have your answer!

Livid-no offence intended. Maybe a bad choice of words on my part. Everyone likes different things and surely that's what makes life interesting? So I am certainly not saying one is somehow 'better' than the other...

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Right. I've just been in and had coffee with gap yah. Still nothing. It's now made me feel a bit shit and question whether I am attractive etc and after two kids and massive body hang ups I'm not sure I can be dealing with this.

I didn't bring up the ow thing but in the car home I realised I has gone there because I wanted a hug that didn't come. He is desperate to see me this week. I dunno now.

I am the skinny flat chested ectomorph type. I've had lots of partners but I wonder sometimes if I get dumped for girls with bigger boobs

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Right. I've just been in and had coffee with gap yah. Still nothing. It's now made me feel a bit shit and question whether I am attractive etc and after two kids and massive body hang ups I'm not sure I can be dealing with this.

I didn't bring up the ow thing but in the car home I realised I has gone there because I wanted a hug that didn't come. He is desperate to see me this week. I dunno now.

I am the skinny flat chested ectomorph type. I've had lots of partners but I wonder sometimes if I get dumped for girls with bigger boobs

[Poffedoff]

Queen i wouldn't even be questioning whether it's you that's the problem here seriously... The guy texts you and tells you he wanted to kiss you last night but chickened out and then doesn't take the opportunity today??
Really sounds like he has the issue to me, unless he's waiting for you to make the move ( which I strongly advise against!)

[Hormonalhell]

Poffed and Gaga you can't leave!!! Is daters need advice on successful dating.....I can't seem to get past second date so obviously doing something wrong

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

It's not his fault - the ow thing but it was such a trigger.

[ManofMystery]

HelloBoys, you sound like my sort of woman;) so he likes legal secretaries? Has it got nothing to do with personality etc then? I have never understood people who are attracted by professions. I get the uniform thing but that's as far as it goes..

Not sure about Internet for reasons explained...Through my work I meet a lot if people but dating them is often tricky!

[Poffedoff]

Hormonal I, for one, am going nowhere!!
After a lovely night together Friday night and day together yesterday when all seemed rosy in the garden the communication has whittled down to practically zero... I'm sooo fed up at this stage (not helped by raging hormones) that I'm resigning myself to the inevitable... I don't want to throw away a good thing but at the same time I'd rather be dumper than dumpee...
I could well be back on pof by the end of the week myself!

[Poffedoff]

Queen, trigger for what? Has it brought up shit feelings for you about your ex?

[Bessy5678]

Oh dear, the guy I was having 'interesting' messages with and I thought was really nice ............. I booty called him on Saturday night. I was at a party, it was all couples so I text him and said you should come over and he only bloody drove 30 mins to where I live! Slight problem, I'm lodging with my Mum at the moment and I had to sneak him in the house! Felt like a teenager! Had a great time ;0) and he stayed a couple of hours!! Anyway last night he said he'd deleted his account on POF and when I checked he had. This morning I've had someone new check me out on POF and it was him with a new username. Anyhow, this morning he text to say hi, few text back and forth then this afternoon he messages me from new profile saying hi. I said I knew it was him (no photos but profile the same!) so said hi back and that last night was fun! A few more messages back and forth both on POF and text, flirting like before but I kind of feel I've blown it because of sat night. Can you ask for a date once you've already DTD? I really would like to see him again but I want a date! I want to get dressed up and have a conversation. He's very articulate in his messages, which is what I like about him. Any advice??

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Yep just retrospective shit feelings. Plus I never knew what she looked like and now I do.

[HelloBoys]

Man - it was interesting. Both were good-looking guys but this one seemed very confident and sure of himself. Then again I didn't talk to him or his mate much. I've dated a chef years ago (French) and the French part attracted me... LOL but the uniform was not a turn on. for me. LOL

Bessy - it sounds good and ok. depends on the man - maybe man can clarify. sometimes you can't do dates sometimes you can. Sometimes men are put off by women DTD sometimes not. act normal my advice.

[Bessy5678]

HelloBoys should I ask him for a date?? Confused, I was with H for 13 years and we didn't really date, just fell into a relationship - I'm not used to this!!

[Hormonalhell]

Bessy don't u wonder why he deleted his account and then set up a new one? That's a red flag for me.

[Bessy5678]

Yes, but then why look at my profile and message me again?

[Stupidhead]

I agree with hormonal, new account smacks of something. Like he knows how to play the game :-/

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Ask him about the account thing it's a bit weird. I confess to having two though...

[Queenofthedrivensnow]

Boundary issues?

[Poffedoff]

Queen that sucks

Bessy I thought the same thing... Seems strange that he deleted his old one last night, set up a new one and then messaged you from it! Did he definitely know it was you he was messaging do you think?

[Bessy5678]

I feel very out of touch and naive when it comes to men and rules of dating :0(
I've never had a one night stand, never DTD in my parents house and only ever been with two guys (not just DTD but snogging or anything).
It's a mind field and all my girlfriends are married so I can't ask them!