The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

It must be something in the stars, I've got a 2nd date too

Oooh - exciting Peppa. What are you doing for it? I don't think I can do mine sober. I may suggest we go to the pub for a couple first

he recently sold his business so has a lot of free time Could this be a euphemism for 'unemployed', sponge

I have someone in touch and oh wow, yes have to admit. He was in his day a bit of a lad, but he was so my type back then. Nothing major, just out all night, skipping a few lessons etc, not like prison or anything and I mean a lot of people have bunked a lesson or two. Truly lovely. He makes me smile. Just messaging back and forth, never feeling awkward. But no meet up arranged (maybe I should hint heavily?)

putting your emotions in the hands of someone else

You're selecting and interviewing candidates for the enviable position of becoming your paramour, Not.

If they want to put their emotions in your hands that's entirely their choice, but until you've satisfied yourself that they're a safe pair of hands you're best advised to ensure that your emotions remain firmly grasped in your mitts.

And shush but I always down a wkd or three before whilst on the date. But dont tell anyone.

Not sure what we are doing Notalone but think it will be sober (shudders) as he works in my home town but doesn't live there and I think he is coming straight from work. If he is driving so am I. Recent first date he drank coke I polished off best part of 2 bottles of wine needless to say there was not a 2nd date!

izzy technically yes :) he's waiting to invest in/start up something else and judging by his car, where he lives (& the absurdly expensive cat!) he is not short of money - I'd actually quite like to be in his position

So, I have heard from him today, but only a handful of texts, nowhere near as much as previously. Part of me now thinks 'oh, he's not interested now' but he's already suggested & provisionally arranged a 2nd date, so maybe he doesnt feel he has to be in contact as much...need to think about it all less and go with the flow more! sadly its easier said than done :)

He's probably just not all that into prolific texting Sponge

I agree it's easier said than done but he sounds like a decent sort of chap who can be taken at his word:)

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Where's time? hope all well. :)

yes, where is time?

Sponge - welcome to my world! its so bloody hard not to overthink, or read into stuff that isnt actually there. Like sat, i knew i was seeing him, i knew what we were doing, he knew when i was free, and that he would be seeing me then. i also knew what he was doing in the day time, and what time he was going to be done from that... So - it was planned, other than meeting place and precise time. I got narked and jumped the gun, considered dumping him over it, ridiclous. I didnt need to convey my narkness, he realised, said sorry,i agreed it was a bit crappy, and now he knows, and now i know and its fine. Its just getting used to someone and how they are and finding out how you can mesh together so it works. As a long term single person i do find this hard and am prone to narkness when its not EXACTLY as i might want, so, im learning too. Just give him a chance, hes set a date, he doesnt need to be in constant contact, dont text him first, just respond when he does and enjoy the excitment of the fabled second date!

snape - isnt mr depp quite short????? could a winning personnality and a huge penisovercome a small height issue?
congrats on the weight loss!

So- yeah. i do feel alot better about stuff. Its been 6 weeks now, which isnt long, but also is. And i do enjoy being in his company and all the rest, its really nice, Just a part of me looks for an ' out' because the longer it goes on, the more like a ' relationship' it becomes, and thats quite scary really. Im trying very hard to take it as it comes and just enjoy it. I mostly enjoy it when im in his company, its fab :) but then in between i get confused or overthink or read into things that werent there in the first place.

oh, that reads wrong. its not ' i mostly enjoy his company'
urgh, i bloody do, alot.
its ' i enjoy it most when im in his company'

i do, and time flies by though, too quickly, and we are both like, ' huh, how can that we the time' and one of us ( usually me) has to go.

Welcome back Watch.

Sponge - great news about your date & all the snogging - don't overthink it now girl. You've got to find the mental off switch!

MLM, sorry to hear about your friends dad. Hope he has a good support network.

Good luck new daters.

I have some good news. Think I briefly mentioned FWB. We had been seeing each other since 2005. He is not married, but isn't really available for a proper relationship because of his job, so we were FWB. I wanted more (not marriage or anything that huge, but I had a huge issue with his job) and we'd battled with this on & off for about 3 years. At Christmas this year just gone, I said enough & finished it. Huge, howling whole even in my semi-frozen heart & hence determination to date! Anyhow, bowed to pressure to meet up for a drink last week (yes, I know sounds like a really stupid thing to do) BUT & it is a huge BUT, I didn't fancy him. It was like I was seeing him with a fresh pair of eyes & I just didn't want to be with him anymore. 7 years of wanting more from him & after 7 months break, I didn't want to be with him anymore!!!!!! I was astounded. So astounded I couldn't post about it last week, because I couldn't quite believe it was true - but I definitely feel the same way after the weekend, so it must be true. Just goes to show, the mind can play funny tricks on us.

interesting stuff Post I can certainly relate to the seeing someone through different eyes things.
I know I've had those rose tinted specs wedged on so tight at times, but when they come off...and you look at him and think why? why? why? did I put up with all that shit

That's great Post :)

Still marking here. But I have more music on the iPod thanks to a certain Nice man :)

Am enjoying this relationship thing - is feeling much more real and just good

Mr Depp is not short! how very dare you! the personal trainer has a girlfriend who is currently abroad, so was looking for a bit of extra-curricular. I'm not interested, even if he has a huge penis winning personality for a short bloke

post thats fab isnt it - it's lovely when the veil is lifted and you think 'thats OK then!'

I wish I could find that mental off switch. Ugh, all I have done all day (apart from a small amount of work) is think 'he hasn't text me...why hasn't he?...should I text him?...no have to try not to look overly eager' etc etc on an endless loop in my head

I am annoying myself now. It just concerns me he was all text text text til we met, and now not. But he did say he wanted to see me again, we did agree when, and if he wasnt interested he wouldn't have said that.

Am trying to balance that with fact he's only been on one other date since his divorce (over 2 years ago) & was with his ExW for about 15 years, so maybe I need to cut him some slack?

sponge perhaps he doesn't want to seem to keen/ desperate. I like being told by my FWB that they love me, but not in a sexual way.

I really do think it's best to play it cool Sponge, and keep the upper hand:)

I am currently texting with Mr 'shy' I ignored an earlier text, but now he's starting to say the right things.
Reward good behaviour
Ignore bad behaviour

If I can successfully train him I'm hoping he'll be able to take my mind off fwb#1 about whom I am starting to obsess
(which is dreadfully embarrassing)

Thought you might like some OKCupid profiles

God sober Peppa? Really? . How did it go then? My date hardly drinks either and I do. Like an erm fish, so he will probably think I am a drunken lush The date went well but now I have a different dilemma. Yesterday I realised there wasn't as much chemistry as I would like and that I didn't fancy him as much as I thought I did, but I felt horny so thought bugger it. We will both have a nice evening and then he will toddle off on his merry way. But my god, he was the best I have ever had . That man can do things that I can't even do to myself. Was a real revelation, and despite not really fancying him a lot I do want him to shag me senseless again and soon. He left at 1am and has already sent me a couple of tests saying what a nice time he had. I feel like I will be using him if I see him again but my god I want him

Am new to this so what does FWB mean?

mylittlemiracles Do you smell like you have had alcohol after WKD then? If I had a couple of glasses of vino he woulld smell it on me. Am not sure if I am brave enough to try sober dating lol. God when I say it out loud how sad does that sound?

I feel like I will be using him if I see him again
erm...you say that like it's a bad thing?

FWB is a Friend With benefits :)

I am generally sober during dates - both Mr Nice and I are somewhat dull like that

Mercury. He is genuinely nice though too. Perhaps I have too much of a conscience. Most blokes don't seem to have the ame qualms

Thanks Miranda. Feel silly now . Actually you are probably more interesting than me. At least you don't need a crutch to have a good time on dates. I lack the confidence to have a proper sober date atm

Notaloneexactly, I am 'genuinely nice' doesnt stop blokes from manoeuvring and trying to get things on their terms..and it is just casual dating, you've not made any promises to him.

Dont feel silly:) I could always use a crutch for dates, I lose my nerve very easily, but alcohol just makes me feel ill so I have to front it out without anaesthetic.