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The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/06/2012 10:05

Here we go again....

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Snapespeare · 02/07/2012 18:44

Loved those OKc profiles nicholas. my arse is firmly on the sofa. :)

mercury7 · 02/07/2012 18:53

now mr shy is starting to put me off again...I'm getting the impression he's looking for someone to indulge his various fantasies Hmm

I'm tempted to suggest he finds an escort to oblige him Confused

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 19:11

Bugger, still no text.

I think he may be waiting for me to text him. Well that's what I'd like to think.

Meh :(

peppapiggy · 02/07/2012 19:39

Sponge think we must have the same bloke ! All texts until we meet, they ask to meet again and then serious decrease in contact. I've just texted mine- jokey text- waiting on reply or not Confused

mercury7 · 02/07/2012 19:43

I think thats pretty normal, all the texts before the first meeting are to win you over and persuade you to meet him.
After that and having established that there is mutual desire for another meeting there's not much need for daily text tennis?

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 19:51

Well see this is all unchartered territory for me, I've never got to the fabled second date. Usual pattern is one date and never heard from again ConfusedSo I'm a bit out of my depth as have no idea what to expect...

Notalone · 02/07/2012 20:09

Why do so many blokes do the no texting thing after getting a "Yes, you sound nice, lets meet". One of my friends who is also on POF got stood up by a guy who she had met once before and who said he could see himself getting serious with her. Then he leaves her waiting without even a text. Angry. Perhaps some men use it as an ego boost, either that or they are married

MyLittleMiracles · 02/07/2012 20:21

I am clever, i down them, clean my teeth and mouthwash after, followed by a mouthful of coke and no one knows. Tee hee hee. Vodka isnt supposed to smell dont forget.

Dating news, none really, I did see someone today who made my stomach do a flip or three, only cos he looked SO SO MUCH like someone i used to fancy back in my school girl days. I was shocked, but then realised it couldnt be cos he hadnt really aged!!! And 8 years ages you

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 20:33

Lots of men do disappear, some before the first date. This has happened to me several times. I don't think this one will - in fact I'm fairly certain if I text him he'd reply. But he should be chasing me surely? Or am I being pathetic? :)

AndLibbyMakesThree · 02/07/2012 20:37

Sponge, it seems to happen a lot - lots of texts, first date, talk of a second date, then a huge decline in texts (or none at all).

One man sent lots of texts (including one from halfway up a mountain!) the week before we met. Then we met, got on quite well, said we'd meet again ... but apart from a "thanks for a nice time" text I heard nothing. I assumed he'd changed his mind so sent a kind of "goodbye" text, at which point he immediately got in touch to arrange another date and said he'd been "too busy" to send a text. (Although by that stage I was so fed up I didn't want to see him again anyway). A similar thing has happened with two other men.

As for whether you should text him ... who sent the last text? If it was you, I'd wait for him to text you.

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 20:48

on Saturday he said how much he wanted to see me again, I said when, he said he was around pretty much anytime. We agreed Thursday (some discussion over stuff he is doing earlier that day but would be finished etc) so it feel 'arranged' rather than a vague expression of interest...I sent the last text yesterday BUT I have text him first for the last 3 days (Friday, Sat & Sun) which makes me think he is waiting for me.

I'm going to sleep on it and probably text sometime tomorrow. I think :)

mercury7 · 02/07/2012 21:14

In that situation I'd probably wait until weds and then send a 'Hi are you still ok for tomorrow' sort of text

mercury7 · 02/07/2012 21:16

too much texting can be annoying, there have been a couple of guys who started texting me 'goodnight' and 'goodmorning' before I'd even met them, ffs it made me feel ill Confused

Lueji · 02/07/2012 21:19

It's kind of difficult to manage contact, isn't it?
But I tend to consider extended lack of contact as lack of interest and just let it go.

No dates arranged for this week.

Mr Rose has texted today but didn't mention meeting again and I'm not that keen, tbh. So, I'll leave it to him to do the chasing if he really wants it.

Two other younger blokes (my ageish) have been in touch, but not over the weekend. One last night and the other this morning. Hmm
But the e-mails are kind of the nice getting to know sort, with kisses at the end. No mention of meetings yet. I might mention a two week holiday in three weeks... Wink

One is supposed to be shy and keeps asking if we can keep talking. I asked him for more concrete suggestions. He is also supposed to work relatively close, but his base being a few hundred miles away. (he was probably away during the weekend, I guess.)

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watchoutforthatsnail · 02/07/2012 21:44

Sponge, no man has ever not Been in contact because hes waiting for the woman first. Or is too shy, or anything like that. If he wants to be in contact he will be...you just need to be patient. You have a date arranged so don't worry till wed :)

Mr lovely and I text a lot. It doesn't annoy me. But It's fun stuff, like pics we have taken ( not rude ones, but random fun ny stuff , or stuff that's just happened. Or news. Or plans or Just seeing what the other is doing..It's nice. I like it.
We have also today, had the ' what are you telling other people' talk. And at.the weekend had the ' I'm not sleeping with anyone else, are you' talk. Scary stuff.

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Notalone · 02/07/2012 21:46

mylittlemiracles - You are genius lol. Do you think it would be noticeable at the kissing stage though? I really want to sleep with Mr Bloody Amazing in Bed again but I am unsure if I could do it sober. Its so nervewracking this dating mlarkey Smile

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 22:01

Watch quite possibly/probably, but the fact I've been the one who's sent the first text every day makes me think he's waiting for me to get in contact - who knows if I hadnt text first on those days I might not have heard from him as much or at all....I could wait til Weds, but as I actually want to rearrange the date from Thurs to Weds (as I have Weds afternoon off provisionally & it would suit me more to see him then than Thurs eve) I think I'll have to contact him tomorrow.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 02/07/2012 22:17

Sponge, honestly, let him Chase you abit.
Give him the chance to chase you..

You deserve someone who is chasing.you. not someone who you are having to nudge to be in contact..
Just wait. He will probably text tomorrow anyway.

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Tokamak · 02/07/2012 22:19

Love the title of this thread. The mention of Mr Depp, and this thread being about meeting people made me think of this video, which I like immensely:

Enjoy!

Tokamak · 02/07/2012 22:20

Bah! Forgot to tick 'convert links automatically'.

Yer tiz:

hatesponge · 02/07/2012 22:28

tbh, when I do text him he replies immediately. I dont a lot of the time, especially if I'm busy, but he always does, which for me is a big thing. Not sure I've ever been chased by anyone Blush but I'll give him til lunchtime ish tomorrow, hopefully he'll text by then anyway, but if not I'll text him.

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watchoutforthatsnail · 02/07/2012 22:33

Love it :)

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MirandaWest · 02/07/2012 23:02

I am fed up of sodding marking,

I am fed up with XH going away (work I think actually but still) so he won't have the DC as usual on Thursday and I can't see Mr Nice then. Plus he is then going away next weekend (to see his mum) so even if I didn't have children then (which I do) I couldn't see him. Plus I need to mark these sodding papers anyway.

And Mr Nice has next week off and I will still be marking. Although he said he might come and surprise me some lunchtimes Wink.

I think one problem is that having been sex starved for sufficiently long to have got used to it and now Im enjoying having a sex life again I want to have it even more Blush Grin

Ah well back to the 254th (out of 600) paper.....

Lueji · 02/07/2012 23:25

Having kids and dating definitely don't match well.

DS lives with me and doesn't spend time at all with his dad, so I can only do daytime dates. So, so far always sober, but I have only done 3 dates and I wasn't that keen on either.
Really looking forward to the holidays when DS goes with his grandparents. :o

My Mr Shy has been on touch again, and as for the other, TBH I only replied Sat late afternoon. Because I was busy. Normal saturday stuff and on a "date" with Mr Sting Grin.

Miranda, do you swap days with your ex, or he just misses days?

MyLittleMiracles · 02/07/2012 23:34

I dont think its noticeable at the kissing stage, I have never asked to be honest. I am currently enjoying chatting to someone, who is lovely, and funny, and makes me smile. ALOT!! But well we will see.