The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

maxi didnt look right, ive gone for the shift which looks better.

although i may not be going anywhere as he has text to say hes not left yet as his cat is still out. so waiting around now to see what happens. Meh.

watch have you replied now? i think hes got a bit of a cheek expecting you to pick him up too.

Ah, that's what he means by "I'll be here when you're free".

Not sure I'd even answer that one. Let him stew there.

bugger i think this cat thing is bullshit and hes going to cancel.

i really shouldnt be surprised should i? :(

I'd go watch. (welcome back!). You might be (mis) interpreting texts after a week away, better to sort it out in person. :).

MLM. Sorry to hear your sad news.

I just spent the afternoon with PM in the gym. Was just. Fab. Dripping sweat in the steam room, then jumping in the cold pool then sitting on the bubble jets in the jacuzzi. Looks like he isnt going to the coast, which makes me happy. I review the excellent advice that i have previously had on this thread, just to love it as it is. plus he mentioned his personal trainer was quite smitten with me, so i feel almost attractive. he's up for dinner later. All is well. :)

sponge. Sorry? His CAT. He's waiting in FOR HIS CAT????? nice to see where his priorities are. Kick him to the curb.

It depends, Sponge.
He might be thinking of spending the night away from home...

Sponge - what happened ????? Cat indeed.

Watch there's a reason I hate text messaging. Always ends up in stalemates like that....

Meanwhile I had contact from the student. Looks like we'll meet again when he's back...we'll see how it works out.

I remember I bloke who cancelled on me saying his dog had run off in the woods or something, I think he just lost his nerve..or maybe he also lost his dog.

I lost my nerve and cancelled a bloke last week, I'd invited him over to my place for an afternoon liaison, he put me off when he texted the day before hand that we'd both probably feel nervous.

FGS, I'm five 2 and eight stone, he's 6ft and prob double my weight, how can I possibly make him nervous

anyway he's back in touch and I cant decide whether to engage or not

Men can get a bit nervous even if they are twice or so your size. Did you feel that you liked him before he said he was nervous?

yes I did like him Miranda, and it does seem silly of me to be put off by a text, knowing how they can so easily be misconstrued.
I do think he should keep his nerves to himself though..I mean I think I prefer a bit of bravado

(hope you are zipping smoothly through the accountancy papers!)

He sounded honest, but if it puts you off, then fair enough.

Although, if I remember correctly, he assumed you would be nervous as well?

Maybe he needed some reassurance.

Meanwhile, Mr Confused (formerly Mr Polite) has sent a "compliment" to me. Sounding more and more confused by the day.

well it turned out the cat thing is true, cat is pedigree house cat worth £100s, its only meant to go out in the garden but had ventured further afield...anyway it returned just after 8 and date went ahead.

I got home about 15 mins ago - we sat in the pub, had a good chat, he drove me home & we spent the next 2 hours snogging in his car .

we have arranged to see each other again on thursday.

I am quite excited

Hopefully he'll ensure that the megabucks feline is under restraint from Wednesday night thru Thursday, sponge.

Unless they've sent a serious rock in the mail don't get engaged until you've met them, mercury

And beware of proposals from Bulgarians.

sponge. Yay! :).

I am hungover to hell. Fab day/night though. :)

sponge a second date...brilliant news

Luej yes he'd sent me a 'do you think we'll both be nervous..lol' sort of text.
I feel kind of awkward because he drove about an hour to meet me near to where I live, and then got an £80 parking ticket, obviously that wasnt my fault, but it felt like a bad omen.

Is mr confused dishing out some sort of backhanded compliment?

crikey not that sort of engagement Izzy!

Sounds like an excellent evening Sponge :)

It's how that site works.
People send "compliments" as sort of saying they are interested without actually sending a message.

When I receive a few from the same person I start wondering if they just distribute them around (particularly if I sent one back or have had messages sent around) or are potential stalkers.

Hello awbdy :) I've been away and now I'm popping my head round. I've only been bluddy dating. I've had two dates with nice man (well only 2 dates in so that could all change - not that I'm a glass half empty kindagal!) So, my question to you guys is - how quickly should I consider spending more time with him? I'm so out of practice I don't know what the etiquette is these days!

I think I have a potential stalker on Facebook. I added him thinking it was someone I knew and he is a bit erm full on, now blocked. I got a message from him after I uploaded a couple of new pics of me, I then got a message asking who it was in the pink top, fair enough, I looked well different to before, so I messaged back saying it was me why, and got a reply saying omg you are hot, nice to get a compliment, we chatted for a while how you, what you up to, etc then asked if I was single fair enough, but then I started getting really sexual messages and of course stopped answering, a good male mate messaged me telling me that this person had been messaging them, originally just saying I was hot etc, then asking my male friends if they had slept with me/if they would/if they ever fantasied about me etc. All a bit weird. Of course my make friend agreed I was pretty etc, but said nope not slept together and that they didn't see me like that. All a bit strange. He has asked several of my male friends too, which sort of made me

Weird. It's not the ex either, already made sure.

Sponge!!! Second date!!!!!!! Holy fuck!!!!
Go on, we want details!!

Snape, so, about this personnel trainer...! Glad pm isnt going away anymore :)

I did go on the date, he sppolgised soon as I got there, said it was crap of him. I agreed. I think It's because he has no responsibilities, and I do, he's not used to it. He said hes aware now.... We have lunch plans Tuesday and are spending next weekend together.

And he had brought me a very thoughful present, and spent a long time researching it.... So, that was good. Def re connected after the last times slight disaster.
So, all is well.

Glad you got it all sorted watch and its good to see he has been thinking about you. More dates for you.

Oh yeah snape spill on this personal trainer....age etc

sponge yay second date. Yippee. So glad everyone is having good luck. I will have to proper sit and update you guys at some point. Lots happwbibg

I have NO IDEA about the personal trainer,i didnt see him.. i did ask if he was short.... He is. i dont really do short...or uber -muscley. i have lost 10lbs though

Glad it's sorted out a bit watch:)

re personal trainer...how short is short? I think you'll have to make a return visit to the gym to check him out!

watch glad he apologised, and you've made plans for the week.

Can't believe I might actually have a second date! He seems nice, he makes me laugh (a lot). The kissing part was very good

Am looking forward to seeing him again. We had said Thursday eve, but I might see if we can meet one afternoon this week instead if I can get the time off (he recently sold his business so has a lot of free time) & go for a late luch or something. It's been so long since I had more than 1 date I am struggling to think of things to do!

lunch

Can I join in please

I have been on POF now for about a month. In this time I have been contacted by

Stalker guy who initially seemed nice but when we swapped numbers he sent text after text every minute getting more and more irate when I asked him to stop and demanding that I answer him.

A dwarf who lists his interests as military warfare who said I look "tidy"

A seemingly lovely guy who was keen to meet up and when I said yes I would and suggested a place, he stopped messaging and I never heard back from him.

A lovely lovely guy who contacted me and we talked on the phone for 3 hours. He wanted to meet over the weekend but I had other plans. He went on another date and contacted me afterwards to say that he got on with the woman and didn't believe in multi dating but that I was the nicest person he had met on POF (his date was from another site) and that he knows I won't be single for long

A man who asked if I wanted to see his "cum shot". ... Erm no!

A man who needed a visa to stay in this country and had decided by co-incidence it is time to meet a life partner for marriage.

I had a date on Thursday with a guy who I really like and whom I have been texting for the past 2 weeks. He has a lovely way about him and is a great kisser . We both went on respective nights out with our friends last night but were texting each other all night too. He is coming over tonight (well I think he is, he said he is but no confirmation today) but I worry he is just after one thing. I am terrified of getting hurt and of getting carried away with him if he comes tonight. I am having fun but it is so scary putting yourself out there and putting your emotions in the hands of someone else. His messages were getting quite saucy as the night went on and as I was also out and merry too I reciprocated but am now thinking it was a bad idea because he will be expecting something that I don't know I am actually prepared to give...yet. Eeeek I feel like a silly school girl. Am so out of the dating loop. Not been single for 15 years!