The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

Well I suppose anything's possible, however unlikely! Although after yesterday my expectations for this week's dates are very low indeed :) And Mr Ill will probably be ill again by then...

but still - you dont know :)
tbh ive not got excited about a first date for years and pretty much had no expectations at all. But, than can all change, from nowhere, you know.
It really can.

Life changes so quickly. Beyond all recognition. Sometimes things happen when you least expect them to. And if you don't get out there you won't know. And a quote, which I like is

"It's the things that you didn't do when you had the chance to that you regret more than the things you did do, and realised you shouldn't have"

It's true, you can regret and live with your mistakes, but you always regret chances you had and didn't take.

So go out, enjoy yourself, you are a long time dead.

That's great, Watch. :o

Sponge, don't believe those men. THEY just want you for a shag, as they do most women, probably.
As most men in "dating" sites, possibly, and men of a certain age.

FWIW, I have known some men (and women) who are/were in long term relationships who claim they don't want to marry, but when they met the right person for them they got married, got kids, the lot.

It's just that you haven't met the person.

Maybe give other types of men a chance too?
Like the geeky types.

I can't remember who it was said I wasnt relationship material but it wasn't one I'd met online.

I sent the one from yesterday a text along the lines suggested. Reply was 'well it was only for sex anyway I didnt want a relationship with you' which kind of bears out what most men think of me.

Think I might have to start wearing a burka. Although even then I'd still get comments about my sexy eyes .

Lueji I can only give a chance to the ones who message me, seeing as the ones I message first never reply - and tbh they all tend to be of a certain type.

yes, but it's entirely possible he's a complete commitment phobe and doesnt want a relationship with anyone - you're just on different pages - that doesnn't mean that all men only want you for sex.

oh, love a geeky type. having an intense conversation about the Peter Cushing Doctor Who Dalek film at the moment. :)

I agree that's clearly all that he's looking for - which is fine. But every man I meet seems to be the same, I'd like to be wanted for more :(

also hate you didn't even like him! you didn't want to have a relationship with him - or sex - it can't be upsetting to be rejected by someone that you're rejecting anyway!

Although geeks may only want you (women really, not just you) for sex too.

Maybe you need to be very clear on your profile about what you are looking for, Sponge.

Geeks are good :)

Got room for one more?
Just signed up to okcupid after a short term relationship ended (my decision). Still trying to figure out the site, am used to pof :)

I think maybe I'm not explaining myself very well, it's not being rejected as such, of course I didn't want to see him again & I'd have been quite happy if he'd sent me a text along the lines of the one I sent him. It's the fact that yet again he was someone who only wanted sex. And that kind of comes back to my whole cant get a second date/anything more kind of thing.

Lueji My profile says I am looking for a relationship, there's honestly nothing about it that says casual sex. Short of literally spelling it out I'm not sure theres anything more I could do!

sometimes relationships do kind of spawn from casual sex though.

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These men may be looking to get into a relationship as in = regular sex.

And chancing it that you have sufficiently low self esteem to go for their sex pressure.

Plus, don't pay attention to what a rejected man says. He probably just wanted to hurt you. Don't let him.

I think I'm just going to have to try & rise above it. He wasn't for me, (there were a couple of things he said on the date which even if I'd found him attractive would have put me off, just suggested he didn't have much integrity) and really therefore his opinion shouldn't matter to me.

So onwards & hopefully upwards :) on which note I did get a message from someone last night who said Birdsong was his favourite book and who looked a bit like Rufus Sewell

And from now on, don't read any messages from men you have dumped.
It's an order!

rise above! :) excellent advice to yourself :)

I've seen a few ads for eHarmony on the tv - but have never seen anyone mention it on here .. is it rubbish?

• Reply was 'well it was only for sex anyway I didnt want a relationship with you' which kind of bears out what most men think of me.

Sponge, it does NOT at all bear out that most men dont think you are not relationship material!!

The bloke in question made a pratt of himself by being overkeen, you rejected him (albeit politely) he know's he's made himself look silly so he's responding by trying to insult you.

Or to put it another way, he feels put down so he's tried to put you down.

He's a jerk with no dignity...what a nasty horrid thing to say

Yes sponge it does smack of a 'well ... I didn't like you anyway' attempt at getting the upper hand

yup, it's just juvenile one-up-manship

Worraknob!!

Purely and utterly to hurt you because he feels like a bit of a prick. Well guess what? He is!

Thanks, you've all made me feel much better :) I really need to give less headspace to what men think of me...or say they think anyway. Especially the ones I've just said I didn't want to see again!

Can I join you wise ladies please?
Split up from bf about 4 months ago. I was emotionally very bruised. We would be getting along ok but then he would suddenly stop seeing me for a week or so because of some drama in his life. It would literally be out of the blue. He did it once too many times and I got out.
After recovering for a while decided to dip into dating and joined pof.
I'm having NO luck. I get the odd message, reply along same lines. Then nothing. This happens all the time. I can't get a date let alone a second date.
I also joined OKC but got no messages.
My esteem is taking a bit of a knock to the extent where I'm thinking the ex is possibly the best I can get.
Maybe I'm just not ready.

Set yourself to 'intimate encounter' on pof scatty & then make it very obvious in your profile that you're not into casual sex (unless you are...). Then spend a huge amount of time deleting pictures of disembodied genitalia... :).