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The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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watchoutforthatsnail · 22/06/2012 10:05

Here we go again....

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ChaoticismyLife · 15/07/2012 21:25

That's weird but when I first saw him I had the feeling I'd seen him before Hmm

What the hell is a professional boat floater?

If he really was what he said then at most he'd probably say he was a consultant, or something, in security and play down the role, not go boasting about it.

Lueji · 15/07/2012 21:27

Charlie, good god!

His face is nice, but his profile would have made me run for the hills. And he claims he's a counter surveillance whatever?
Sorry.

I hope he turns out to be normal enough.

Unless you enjoy checking Argos stock...

Lueji · 15/07/2012 21:33

I mean, I realise he probably wrote it all as a joke, but I'd rather go out with an honest straight talking man.

It just feels too weird and putting on a front.

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 15/07/2012 21:41

:(. Really? I thought it was funny. I'm so new to all this.

I guess it was a bit try hard but it was better then most I'd seen that day.

Now I'm not so sure. I will go on Saturday though. It's all out in public and if he's a weirdo I will just block him. I don't have a mobile number to give him so it'll be easy enough. Although, if he is into survaillance I'll need to watch out for staplers :)

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 15/07/2012 21:42

Or stalkers even Blush

mercury7 · 15/07/2012 21:48

I think his profile is rather witty, without being pretentious, certainly better than the usual cliched old moronic toss that you get on POF profiles.

Lueji · 15/07/2012 22:13

I'm new too and most likely wrong. :)

But people who are different usually don't advertise it as such.

But then I'm older.

The thing is that coupled with his "job" it just doesn't sit right.

But by all means go. He might actually be ok and at worst good practice.

ChaoticismyLife · 15/07/2012 22:39

Oh, I don't know, staplers can be lethal in the wrong hands WinkGrin

MyLittleMiracles · 15/07/2012 23:12

You girls do make me laugh. Just got finished for the night. I have of course been cleaning my place cos its a pig stye relaxing.

News for me. Ohh yep only but, my sons bed rail thingy with Disney cars2 comes tomorrow. And I have a clear idea of how I want to decorate his bedroom.

I have been enjoying the company of backstreet boys, westlife, take that, the wanted and JLS tonight (obviously only on my stereo, not in the flesh cos if they were I would not be on here )

hatesponge · 15/07/2012 23:16

chaotic Grin

I'm really struggling this evening, todays date has got the message thankfully, but I just feel ever so meh about the whole thing. Not sure why tbh.

I walked past an old lady on the way to my date this afternoon who said to me 'don't you look absolutely lovely' which was so kind of her but instead of that cheering me up now as it normally would, I'm just thinking what a waste it was in looking good for him...

mercury7 · 15/07/2012 23:28

you bowled him over Sponge, only to find it wasn't worth the effort!

I tend to dress quite down and not bother too much for first meetings, mostly they are just not worth putting on lippy for

hatesponge · 15/07/2012 23:38

to be fair I hadn't made that much effort - it was just one of those (VERY rare!) days where my hair & make up & everything just looked good without me doing much. And I didn't even dress up, just wore one of my Primark maxis.

I think its been so long since I went on a date where I was the one not liking them (rather than vice versa) Ive forgotten how it felt!

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 16/07/2012 09:25

I think security man isn't going to work out.

He said this "I think 50 shades of grey is a good thing, its porn for girls, and if a girl has a copy it means guys get a bit of slack when she discovers a mag under the bed or a bookmark on the computer. Not that I do either of those. :-)" Shock

I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt and meet him anyway. I'm hoping he simply doesn't know much bout the book other then it's a bit erotic supposedly

watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 09:40

sponge - haha, im struggling not to laugh a little. first its no first dates, then you get a string of them, then its no second dates, and then yoiu get a really keen one and run a mile ;) its SO, SO, SO typical that the ones you really dont fancy, and you know there is no way in hell you would do, are the ones that are super keen, i belive its called ' sods law'. In any case, it was a date, and you know that you are attractive and lovely and so forth so, thats all good :)
Glad to see mr ill has been texting, but has the poor man been forthcoming with a second date?

Snape - 3 dates!!! fuck, i am in shock! not that you have secured 3 dates, but, yoiu know what i mean. wow! i personally love the ' ill just date everyone' attitude, because profiles are a lot of shit, you cant really tell anything from them, people can be different in person, looks and personality wise, and that ellusive chemisty is something that can never be predicted. Its a good way to go about it. Cant wait to hear all about it.

had another fab sat evening, but damn, im really tired and getting a little frustrated at lack of avaliable time and trying to fit everything in ( and failing).
I was busy fri evening, sat day time went out with DD and did a weeks worth of housework/ washing in one day, dropped DD at mums, Picked mrl up from train station, then we went for a walk with the dog, had dinner...... then in the morning i had to be at mums at 12 for my brothers birthday party thing, which went on till 8pm. So we had to get up early, race about, dropped him at the train station, had to go to get things to take to the party, then get home at 8pm, still got washing up in the sink from sat, piles and piles of washing to put away, ton of work to do that i had to bring home from work and ive only had 3 hours sleep the night before. AND its only monday and ive got another whole week to go before i even get a sniff of relaxing.
This probably sounds so silly, but pre mrl, on my childfree weekends i would tend to have one day where i did absolutley nothing, and i kinda need that, im a busy person, and knackered, but of course, ive not been getting that, and every second of spare time, instead of doing that, ive been seeing mrl.... so ive literally not really done ' nothing' for 2 months.
How do people manage???? Seriously???
Dd is off to her dads for 2 weeks on saturday afternoon, and then i think that will help, so ill hopefully get some down time to myself. thing is, all my spare time i WANT to see mrl. but my body is tired because i am old

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watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 09:41

charlie - if you think its not going to work out, why waste the effort and money going on a date with him? there are plenty of other men out there, you dont have to date him......:)

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watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 09:55

also - all my housework, which i would ususally do on a weekend, now isnt happening, because im seeing mr l... so im racing to try and do it in the week, which leads to stupid things like dusting at 10pm which is frankly ridiclous, seeing as ive been up since 6:15 for work.

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hatesponge · 16/07/2012 10:00

the irony of it all is not totally lost on me :) although I do think tbh even if I had liked him it was a bit forward to go from a kiss on the cheek to texting me about how he was going to get me into bed Hmm.

Mr Ill & I did discuss dates, but he has a family thing on the only day I am free this week, so it's looking like next week, which is ages away. The only other possibility is Friday but this is dependant on a) him swapping days with his ExW and b) me doing the same, or getting a friend to keep an eye on the boys for the eve, so not getting my hopes up.

The whole busy thing I sympathise with, I always have a day of doing nothing at weekends - in fact my date yesterday ate into that valuable time! I suppose like anything it's just a matter of getting used to it, or doing less, I dont know Confused

MirandaWest · 16/07/2012 10:08

watch I know what you mean about busyness. Pre Mr Nice I can't exactly remember how I filled my time but I did have more time to myself. Oddly don't seem to be missing it which does surprise me (confirmed introvert) but the past three months have been rather a whirl of activity. And yes the housework has been fading away - now this marking stuff is done (apart from having to do a report and send my invoice in) I really need to sort things out but it is quite nice having the DC at school and not having to run round doing things.

Will be different once holidays start as XH and I need to work out when he's having the DC and I'm going on holiday with them etc and will spend more time with them (and will force them into helping me to sort the house Grin) and I hope Mr Nice and I see some amount of each other. He is very accommodating of whatever time is available but also likes seeing me :)

Really need to achieve something - Mr Nice went off to work at 7:30 and XH took DC to school this morning and I have lazed around really Blush

watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 10:15

it is presumptious of him, and for that reason alone i wouldnt see him again. clearly just after a shag anyway. but it is amusing to have these men chasing after you... when you were so sure it must be you that had something wrong with you, told you it was bollocks :)

perhaps it is getting used to it? i dont know. DD is off at 3pm sat, im meeting mrl at 3:30 in his town.. so, and then we have plans all weekend, so that means again i need to get the entire weeks housework done on friday evening, after work, and swimming lessons, and the food shop. fucks sake!!!

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hatesponge · 16/07/2012 10:28

ah but I still think men really only want me for a shag, and dont see me as 'relationship material' as one man once charmingly told me Hmm. Rather pinning my hopes on Mr Ill, which of course will end in disaster...

housework, only thing I can suggest is doing a bit every night - but thats prob no help as I know you have a dog so will need to hoover more than me. I think when I was first seeing the evil Ex I used to take the odd half day to blitz the house cos I never got time at weekends. Bit of a pain using precious holiday though!

watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 10:45

no, thats bollocks too, you know that. why on earth would you chose to belive that. its literally just a case of not having met the right person, you know how many dates i bloody went on, and now ive been seeing somoene for 2 months!!! and i didnt do anything any differently at all. So, its not about anything like that, yoiu know.

I do do some everynight as it is!! lol. Its not like its a tip, just i try to keep on top of it, everyhting gets done weekly, so bathroom, dusting, mopping ( obviously have to hoover more frequently) change of bed linen, towells, cut the grass ( have a fuck ton of weeding to do) clean the guineas out. and then the washing, washing up, tidying up, day to day stuff. i dont know, ive just not got enough time. Buggered if im using annual leave on it though :)

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snapespeare · 16/07/2012 10:56

men don't only want you for a shag! some men want some women for some sex. It absolutely isn't you, it's just someone chancing it. :)

watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 11:10

indeed.

also ' we' got our first invite out together, as a ' we' but we didnt go, because we didnt have much time, and wanted to spend it together fuck like rabbits

but it was very nice to be invited out as a couple. AS A COUPLE!! in any case.

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hatesponge · 16/07/2012 11:25

Grin it's nice to be invited somewhere as a 'we' :)

I have a plus one to a party in a fortnight. So I think it's fair to say I'll be going on my own...

watchoutforthatsnail · 16/07/2012 11:27

you dont know. maybe one of the other dates might go amazingly and you will be taking them!

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