The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

Have just calculated Mr N and I have done on average 36 texts a day between us . This could explain why my phone is not totally working at top speed any more - think I need to delete some old messages (ie not from him )

Haha, just worked ours out, today isn't over, but works out at 35 a day. LOL most really long, then phone calls on top of that. Stupid really.

However, the big news is that hes asked me if I want to go to this big guitar thing with him NEXT YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
As in, next year!!!! Holy fuck.

Miranda, sounds fab. Enjoy being in that bubble, bevsgse its bloody lovely :)

Sponge, when he replies, just ask him, honestly, you have nothing to lose.

Lueji I love it - based on that I'm TOTALLY in a relationship

Ooh watch NEXT YEAR!!!!

Nice, watch :)

Watch at next year!

The update on the ill one - he's not making any plans til he's sure he's 100% better, which he thinks will be in a couple of days, and once he is we'll sort something out. Which is good I think - plus when I said I was looking forward to seeing him, he replied with 3 smiley faces .

And I'd told him on Mon I had a big work meeting/performance review with my manager this week - he remembered to ask about it and said well done when I told him it was really positive.

so all in all, whilst I STILL havent had a second date, I am quite happy :)

I have 806 messages from just friends that I haven't got round to deleting. Saw my former FWB today, don't think he knows what he wants. Got soaked through, dried out, soaked. Hair is a mess. Lol. Decorating again tonight. Shattered. Lol.

What did he say MLM?

Mondays date wants to see me again. My north londoner also wants to see me again and erm still in contact with yesterdays date too. Not counting anyone out atm. See what happens. Lol.

Nothing much really. FWB is no longer with his girlfriend they are just friends now, I get the idea he doesn't know, he seems cool with me seeing other people but then gets jealous. But I dunno not sure. And there are other people I Like too.

MLM I think keeping your options open is no bad thing. I certainly wouldn't be waiting around for your FWB, he sounds like he doesnt really know what he wants tbh.

Meanwhile I logged onto POF tonight, have been chatting to a couple of guys I'd previously exchanged messages with, and dates have been mentioned!...

I'd still rather see the ill one though

its always the way. i am chatting to someone new too. Its really quite nice to be doing so as well.

Groan. At the risk of repeating myself I was having text convo last night with Mr R-N. At about 10.30pm I said night and the reply was ages in coming. So curiosity got the better of me and I logged on to POF - lo and behold, there he was online. Obviously too busy to reply to me :( I feel deflated again. Have decided to back off (not that I'm full on). Not expecting you ladies to rally round again, just feel better for getting it down. It seems I do need to establish somehow what the F this is but I think I'm kinda scared :(

Hey Ho. Onwards and upwards.

Sponge. Thats great, don't discount them bevsgse you would rather see the ill one though. The second date hasnt happened yet, so, just chat with them and see what happens.

Still. :( I'd be upset, I would. Chat or no chat its disrespectful I think. I'd have to ask him I think, if it were me......

Seeing mrl this evening .. going out for dinner :) and a weekend in London has been planned too, Sept Time :)

Ive somehow bagged myself a boyfriend, havent i?!!!???!!
(How the fuck did that happen)

watch you're right. The first time I could overlook on the grounds that he was maybe just doing the same as me but logging on two days in a row says to me I'm being used til something better comes along. Don't know how to handle this from here. No plans to see him this weekend, I assume he's having his little boy but he could tell me anythi

watch you're right. The first time I could overlook on the grounds that he was maybe just doing the same as me but logging on two days in a row says to me I'm being used til something better comes along. Don't know how to handle this from here. No plans to see him this weekend, I assume he's having his little boy but he could tell me anything to be honest. I hate confrontation. Would rather just slope away than face the fact that I'm "competing" for the crumbs of his affection :(

Sorry - don't know what happened there. Also wanted to say, yes, it does appear you have a bf :)

Tbh I'd be concerned too.

Although, try not to jump to conclusions.
Maybe he was checking up to see if you popped in again, or had gone to the toilet/do something else while leaving the computer on.

Did he reply at all?

Mr Virtual and I sometimes take time to reply. That's why we don't have an average of 36 texts a day. :)

But for your peace of mind maybe it is best to mentally stay on your back foot or clarify things with him.

I suppose in the old days there was the chat too. It was called proposing.

Watch has a boyfriend!
Watch has a boyfriend!
Watch has a boyfriend!

:o

still- i think if youi feel like that, then you really do need to say something, it doesnt need to be confrontational. and in fact, talking about your feelings, or voicing to others that you arent happy about something isnt confrontatitional at all, because, how do people know unless you tell them. If i were you id ring him and say something along the lines of ' i was logging into pof to delete my account this morning, when i saw you were online, to be honest i feel a little bit hurt about this as i thought we were seeing each other' and then just leave it at that and see what he says. or, if you cant face saying that, text it and wait for a response, but to be honest, you are going to feel crap weather you say something or not, so you may as well say something and get to the bottom of it.

36 texts a day isnt sooooo much, works out ( and i cant believe ive just worked this out) at 2.2 texts an hour, for the 16 or so hours you are awake, so thats one text and one reply. hardly anything :)
( thank the lord for unlimited texting)

I'm really trying not to put all my eggs in one basket re the ill one (much as I do like him ) so have a provisional lunch date next week with a rugby player, have exchanged numbers (and date offered tho not yet arranged) with guy who's some kind of champion weightlifter, and chatting to another who lives in my old home town :) Am expecting by the law of averages at least one will disappear, but we'll see. At least I should have something to occupy me if the second date with the ill one doesnt come off.

Still :( I think you have to say something, even if only by text. You don't have to do it confrontationally, but I think you have to say something, otherwise it will just nag away at you. It is horrible though.

Watch I agree you do have an ACTUAL boyfriend :)

Now I just have to get a second date and we can call this thread a success

He took almost 20mins to reply. Not exactly epic by his standards but his other text replies last night had been pretty prompt for him and at that time of night I wouldn?t expect much to be going on.

I?m trying not to jump to conclusions and remain philosophical about it but at the end of the day I think it looks pretty obvious what?s going on here. I don?t want to be a mug and whilst I freely admit it?s quite a casual relationship, I personally am a ?one at a time? kind of person and if he isn?t then I need to end this. I don?t feel comfortable ringing him or even doing it over text given the sporadic timing of his replies. (Remember it was 10+ hours the other day and even then he only replied cos I sent him that jokey text). I think the best way to handle this will be to speak to him face to face. I don?t know when this will happen though ? like I said, no plans currently to see him this weekend and I certainly have no intention of asking him now. Think I will leave the ball in his court and then if/when we see each other next I?m going to have to ?man up? and broach the subject. I?d rather do it without mentioning POF (thus making myself look like a crazy stalker). I can always take the approach that he just doesn?t seem that ?bothered? and take it from there? Grrr, the thing is he often contradicts his behaviour by saying something that makes me feel like I've got him all wrong!

I wouldn?t say I was crazy about him (I do really like him) but this still sucks. Nobody likes to feel like they?re not good enough do they? :(

sponge - thats good, and a whole lot of dates :) and since the thread is about dating, and pople are dating, then it IS as sucess :)
At least one of those dates will happen im sure, and i know you quite like mr ill, but you might like one of the others better... :) so no harm in giving them a chance. I think when you do get a second date we should have some kind of celebration. because frankly. second dates are so bloody rare!

yes, i think i probably do have an actual boyfriend. how exciting.ooooohhh, i feel about 17!!!!!!

Still - but, if you do that, you are going to be tying yourself in knots for a week! thats not good, or fair on you.
and in the meantime hes not bothered and is just pleasing himself, thinking you are on side.
thats not fair.

and please dont think its anything to do with you not being good enough. its nothing to do with that at all. women always think that when something goes wrong, no second date, relationship break up, etc... its not them. The man has some responsibilty there. You dont really know what hes thinking and it could be that he doesnt want to be in any kind of relationship and wants to play the field, therefore its not about you not being good enough, but what HE wants.
So, nothing you could do could chanage that.

Same as you are entitled to have your own wants, and if you dont want to be treated this way, it is not confrontational, nor awful or anthing to voice that.

I know you?re right (again) watch. Can I just clarify before I continue that when I say I?m a ?one at a time? girl, I don?t mean early on! Realised that might sound offensive to sponge who is doing exactly what I or any of us would do! (Sorry if it did offend sponge!) I meant after around 3 dates!

With regards to Mr R-N, his profile states that he is looking for a relationship and wants to find his soul mate which is what makes me feel like I?m not good enough. Stupid I know as mine states I want to date but nothing serious!

I will have a think before I decide what to do. I?m mentally writing him off already. I want to text him but have no idea what to say without sounding neurotic.

Aaah, I?m bringing the tone of the thread down! Maybe I should actively get back on POF and get back on the horse