The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

I've not had much time to read properly or post.

Busy and a friend is going through problems too.

Mr Lawrence seems to be coming through as a good guy.
I texted him saying I wasn't good company tonight, as we were supposed to talk on the phone. He replied saying that he would still call and that it's good to talk about things.
Let's see how it goes.

I haven't actually even met him, FGS. I hope I do fancy him, (and vice versa).

On the other hand, Mr Rose rang today saying he missed me, after a silent weekend, with some sob story about his elderly aunt who lives with him. I'm beginning to think he's married.
Didn't even ask about my weekend.

I think that's one ready to be dumped.

lueji even if Mr Rose isn't married he just sounds like a lot of hard work, I vote get rid!

When are you meeting Mr Lawrence?

Watch at you & MrL off camping together...gives me a warm glow :)

I am hoping that tonsilitis man manages to drag himself off his sickbed sometime soon, if this second date is EVER going to happen! He said today he thinks he will be better in 'a few days' which I'm hoping is by Thursday because I am busy both Friday (DS2's leavers party/prom) and Saturday (out with my local friends), so otherwise I will struggle to find any time to see him til next week. Meh.

I'm hoping this week, but probably lunch. Otherwise, only next, I think.

Tell Mr Tonsilitis to get better soon, Sponge. Surely it can't last that long.
He could just let you do the talking.

Hope you manage a lunch with Mr Lawrence this week.

I'm thinking Mr Tonsilitis (I need to give the poor bloke a better name, especially if we actually get to a second date or beyond!) should be fine by Thurs. Sods law though he'll be busy, so it will be next week. Although I can only do Weds of next week. Typical!

I've just finished a very nice and long talk with Mr Lawrence.

I can't believe it was that long.
And he was supportive too.

Well, it might happen Friday or next week.

Sponge, maybe this time, as if by magic, all will fall into place? :o

todays date was matched by friends so condition was that they baby sit for me to go!!! TEE HEE HEE, Cheeky i know, my sisters partner took him for me to go into london and a friend who is a baby sitter has him for three hours tomorrow. normally i get no time off.

My FWB, ovbiously knows little man, and well we chatted for a while earlier, and well its messy, lets put it that way.

I hadn't realised you've not known your former fw for very long. I suggest you put him on ice take him out of the equation at least until you've done what you've got to do this week.

Sponge, could you not get a babysitter one evening? Hoping it all falls into place, I do think It's good hes being in contact though.

Mlm. As we have all said, you really should stay away from your old fwb. How long was he a fwb for anyway, it wasn't long was it, and if I recall you were hoping it was more before he broke it off because he got a new gf. If he had actually had feelings for you he wouldn't Have got a gf in the first place.

Camping with mrl gives me a warm glow too :) I like ' doing stuff' be that cooler things like.going to gigs, to less cool things like hanging about in tents. And it was important to me to find someone who would do all that with me, who would give stuff a go, and not either mock or just flatly say no. So it actually means a lot to me.
I wanted someone who was intelLectual ( he is) and would teach me things, and discuss stuff/ explore the world/ people with me. But who Will also join in when I decide to do a rap to my dog. While wearing my dressing gown :) yesterday he sent me a text from his cat!
And I.want someone who wants to ravish me if I'm.all dressed up, but equally so if I'm bumming round the house in old jogging bottoms, crocs and a paint splattered t shirt ( Which he told me was ' cute' and that I.could go out to lunch with him in. I couldn't, but that's not tge point :)

Anyway, yes, warm glow and all that. And hope that Maybe it does happen sometimes ( remember I did have about 60 ish first dates )

watch thats really lovely :)

you do know now you're doing weekends away together that's definitely relationship territory

next week is chaos for me cos it's DS2's last week of primary school, and he has stuff going on every day (apart from Weds) which I need to be around for, hence my lack of availability! but hopefully we'll be able to sort something out before the end of this week :)

Possibly. Maybe. Ish.
It's nice to have something planned for 3/4 weeks away too... Sort of makes me think we are heading in that direction in any case if we both know we want to do these things with each other in the future, you know :)
It's good.

Wow, last week of primary. How grown up!!!!! Hoping you can, why dobt you just ask him?

Me and my former FWB were originally seeing each other. Then we decided he wasn't ready for a relationship. Andio he said he saw me more like best mates/sister. I am still going today. No worries there. We have chatted a bit. And to be fair I was leaving him be, til he messaged me. I am looking forward to todays date

Watch having things planned ahead is nice, isnt it? :) am hoping one day I might get to do that

Am leaving my sickly date til tomorrow unless he texts me in the meantime. not heard from him today so far.

I think I am sadder about DS2 leaving primary than he is, he still feels too little. As of Sept, I will have 2 children at secondary school which is a bit .

Sounds good, Watch. :)

I have been planning things too :)

Mr Nice and I are staying in a castle for a night at the end of July . And hopefully going to organise going away somewhere for a few nights in September :)

I HATE MARKING

Well I don't but it is dull. Dull. Dull. Dull. And no lunchtime encounters today :( I was offered but was sensible and said I needed to work all day. Think my break is nearly over....

sponge I hope Mr Tonsils gets in touch again soon. When DD leaves primary school I will be in bits as she is the younger one and therefore my baby . But as she is only year 1 and DS is only year 3 I'm OK for a few years yet.

Miranda, haha, are we away the same weekend? :) you have a castle, 4 poster beds and fluffy towels. I have an air bed, alfresco Fucking and tent poles. LOL

And Yes, it is good. It's nice to have someone to share/ and who does share day to day stuff, you know, the little stuff ( serious/ mundane/ ridiclous/ funny)
And who suggest a ' tooth brush race'
He's fun :)

My date today went quite well but not really sure. Former FWB has sort if gobsmacked me and I still do really like him but have made it clear I would never be the other woman.

Hi everyone. Had a busy weekend so just been catching up with the thread - it moves so quick! Nice to see some encouraging and warm n fuzzy updates :)

I got a random email today notifying me that I had a new POF message. I was intrigued because my profile has been hidden for a few weeks on account of "seeing" Mr Right-Now (I worked out quite early on that I can't do multi-dating so it was easier for me to make myself unavailable to other potential dates!). So I logged on to see who it was from, turns out it was a guy I'd briefly chatted to a few weeks ago - nice looking but poor conversational/flirting skills! Anyway, while I was there I did a search specifically looking for Mr Right-Now to see who was about and Mr R-N appeared on page 1 of my results having been online today :(

Now I know I've essentially done the same thing but I'm a bit disappointed. I knew his account was still active up until I hid my profile because he'd come up in my searches, but it appeared to be that he was logging on every few days to a week or so. Anyway it didn't bother me really because I was still active and doing the same.

I know our "relationship" (dont know what else to call it) is quite relaxed and casual but we do see each other most weekends and this last weekend I felt like we were a little bit closer. This has unsettled me more than I care to admit a bit and I've un-hidden my profile in defiance! Seriously though, what do I make of this? I've been sleeping with this guy for the last two months - what if I'm also sleeping with other POF conquests?! :(

We haven't had an exclusivity chat, I thought (obviously naively) that we might be on the same page. How do I deal with this? I wish I'd never looked now...

It's horrid when you think you are exclusive but aren't. I know that feeling.

My news, Mondays date asked me out again, which is good right? Todays has been in constant contact but erm not taking that much notice til I get asked back out and my former FWB has split from his girlfriend, and someone from before asked about coming to see me again.

Stillgetting thats kinda tricky..just because he logs in doesnt mean he is actively pursuing anything.
When you are seeing someone you may decide to log in or not, to your account for a variety of reasons..
I mean you might not log in to show the other person you're not actively looking, but then they'd only know if they logged in to check on you

Pursuing all the possible meanings just kinda ties you in knots doesnt it...I've been there too.

Sometimes I log in if I'm a bit bored or I fancy sending a caustic reply to some silly message, rather than because I'm actively looking

I agree.
Still
Lately I have mostly been busy with virtual guy, and I haven't really thought of finding someone else but I've still logged in occasionally out of curiosity when people send a message or something.

As you did.

:o

I googled it last night and felt a bit better after reading blogs about it etc. It seems men take longer to commit etc and that its probably just a curiosity/ego boosting thing and as we haven't had "the chat" its kinda to be expected. Still a bit miffed but not feeling as unsettled by it as last night. Have hidden my profile again (cba with POF) and have resolved not to look again until next time I'm feeling curious and log on for a nose as Mr R-N has probably done

Actually... should I hide my profile? Maybe I shouldn't. Might not do any harm for him to see I've been online? A little reminder that I'm still available to others...? Oh god, I'm game playing now

Or...

Have the talk? :)

Or at least have a chat and see how he feels?

Btw, virtual guy is being tested by accident on relationships and DV because a friend of mine is going through some issues, ultimately not that dissimilar from mine with ex.
So far so good. On the second day he asked how I was feeling straight on and it has helped me clarify my thoughts.
We have sort of talked about relationships too.

Plus he seems involved with his family (he's single), although that could turn out to be an issue...

And we both like Spooks, although I thought it was too early to mention my crush on Richard Armitage.

Still :( It's crap. Glad you are feeling a little better about it. It's sort of an impossible situation, because if you say somethihg he knows you were looking/ checking and you immediately look like a possessive nag ( not you, you in general)
Of course the ideal, would be the chat sort of happens and It's all open and grown up and you both delete your profiles and skip off into the sunset.

So, its been two months... Do you have a feeling what direction it's heading in, have you had any kind of chat at all?

Ive not logged into a dating site since the 3rd date, ive been Seeing him 2 months also. And tbh id be quite hurt if I checked and he had been on, so I'm just not doing it ( even though I want to know). We Have skirted round the chat abit, I know we are exclusive. I know we are telling people about each other, so, people know. But I still don't really have a clue what that translates as???????? I know you cant make assumptions about these kind of things..

Have you decided what you are going to do? I supose you have to decide what you want out of it, then go from there...
Ie- if its just a ' mr right now' fling and you aren't too bothered, let it go, lleave your profile up and leave it to him to say something or It fizzle out.
Or
If maybe you like him more than you think...and want it to be more, if you could use this as a chance to sort that out.

Actually, I dont know if this ' the chat' thing isn't a load of bollocks. I don't know anyone whos been together longer than 5 years who has ever had it. It's either been assumed after a lenght of time, or they have quickly after a few weeks said they are bf? Gf and that's been that.
My friend is seeing this man, 7 months, met her kids, holidays with them, met each others parents... But never had the chat.
I'm not convinced It's a thing that really.happens and is actually more a thing people use to excuse crappy behavior ( such as sleeping with other people) the woman if Sge finds out, gets told she's silly for assuming and the guy can do what he wants because they haveht had ' the chat'
My mum got married 3 years ago, to a man she had been with for 12 years... They never had the chat... LOL