The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

dont beat yourself up about it. Its happened and there isnt anything you can do about that now.
BUT - its a good reminder about how you dont really ' know' these men, even if you have been in contact a while, and why doing things like inviting them straight to yours, is not a good idea.

feeling as watch says dont beat yourself up about it, just learn from it and maybe be slightly more cautious in future (that's not meant as a criticism btw, I have done a lot of very risky things in the past, and have just been lucky nothing bad happened). you made a mistake, but we all do. at least you know what he's like and can make an informed decision not to see him again...

My ill date is feeling a bit better and has been texting me this morning. that's 2 days running he has made first contact (sent me a text at 9am today). I am like this

Thanks.I cant even eat is horrible,ive done stupid things in past but the fact that the kids were in the house makes me feel worse.I did tell my friend abt the date but anything could have happened.A big lesson for me

Don't beat yourself up about it - it did happen but nothing bad happened. Everyone does things that aren't the most sensible at some point.

I had a very good afternoon :) Did offer him lunch but somehow we found other things to do ;) And he's off work this week and I think well have lunch one day. Is a shame I am still marking....,

Feeling you're OK, nothing terrible happened and your radar is now a bit sharper.
Dont feel too we've all done daft things that could've left us up the creek without a paddle

feeling honestly don't dwell on what might have happened because you'll just make yourself feel more & more awful, yes it could have been a lot worse but the important thing is it wasn't. You're ok, your DC are ok, and really that's all that matters :)

Feeling.- second what everyone has said. We have all done silly things. Important thing is no one came to harm. And that you learn from it.

Miranda. :)

I quite like this being able to plan stuff with someone. Hes possibly taking me to the Albert hall ( someone ay his work cant go, so if the tickets haveht already Been.sold they are ours )
And we are most likely having a weekend camping at the end of this month :)

Ah, we are definaty camping!!!!!
:)

:) for camping (well personally rather you than me but :) for doing something fun)

I am liking doing things with someone as well. Which feels a little odd for the introvert I am but maybe I had been becoming more introverted by necessity of the past few years (XH and I basically drifted apart really although his affair didn't exactly help...)

Am possibly starting to stop thinking somethings going to go wrong, but if someone had told me three months ago that I would have been going out with someone for nearly 3 months and that it's great fun and we both like each other and enjoy all manner of things together and that I generally just feel good both about me and general life I wouldn't have believed them.

And more fool me .

hi all, first time on this thread, have read it all the way through now and a lot of things resonated so thought I'd drop in for real.

hope it's not just for POF daters though? I signed up to Lovestruck back in February my first and only online dating experience so far.

i'm separated with a 3yr old boy and work full time so haven't known where to start in terms of dating. plus, i married quite young so didn't really get the chance to date before i met ex. all in all, thought online would be a good place to start!

and it's been interesting! have had about 6 or 7 dates, all with different guys, most i wasn't bothered about seeing again, nice enough, just not enough oomph for me.

and then...about a month ago i met up with someone and we had this amazing natural connection from the word go, ive never felt that before with anyone. initially very exciting, but haven't seen him since due to work and cancelled dates, but have spoken over the phone a few times. i'm just half excited/half unsure because when we speak he sounds genuine and serious, but a month is a long time to wait for a 2nd date! so trying to keep a lid on the excitement so i don't get too disappointed if it all falls through.

this week im trying to leave the ball in his court, he said he'd be in touch about this weekend...not going to text him til he does! lol! i do wonder why it has to be this way sometimes, im really not the playing games type, but it seems guys just think differently to us. i don't know him enough yet to know if this is just his way, he seems the laid back type, or if he's not that bothered, but e seems bothered when we've spoken...so bit confused to be honest. i guess this week will be the final test, as if he doesn't get his act together im not sure ill be that quiet about it!

so here i am, trying to vent my nervousness to you all instead of it manifesting into a random text to him!

yikes, went on a bit there! its been good to read there are others out there thinking/doing the same things and i'm not crazy!
:)

Some of these stories!! Sorry about the coke guy... some guys are weird on it, some just cannot get it up for the life of 'em other guys seem to be able to go few times a night, strange drug but your so right to be shot of him, you dont wanna be involved in that shit!!

It's not all bad tho, i was single for a while out of choice just flitting about (sleeping round basically) and joined POF, ok a lot are just after a shag and for some reason does anyone else notice POF seems to be FULL of squaddies?! But there are a few goodies... i met my current partner on POF and he was very insecure and had a few issues when we met that ive helped him through but at the same time he was a very sweet man (who drove me 70 miles home and was th most romantic guy and would of done anything for me) and two years later he is like a dad to my kid and we live together...

also he wasnt my type at all! so maybe girls, take a chance on people whoa rent your regular type? i love a tattooed alternative guy with good morals yet i took a chance on someone who wasnt that type and slightly chavvy in some of his traits if im honest, maybe opposites do attract but there are some succesful stories from there!!

Hello questions :)

I met Mr Nice on OK Cupid (we were both on POF but didn't find each other on there until we had actually met IYSWIM).

Miranda, It's Glamping. With fairy lights, bunting, wine and fire pits. Its not really roughing it. He's never camped, but is up for a dirty weekend in my canvas bungalow ( how hysterical!!!) So kudos to him and I expect it Will be really good fun.

I'm an extrovert, I'm always doing stuff, but It's nice to be doing it as a couple ( bugger, did I just say that???!!_!)

I second the bit about usual types. Mrl doesn't look like my usual type at all. Though he is very much what I'd look for personality wise. And I fancy the pants off him.

He was on okcupid. Not pof. Think we all use different sites.

questions (hello!) Eggs and baskets! A month is a bit of a wait for a 2nd date tbh, i'd have a bit of a look at other profiles and keep dating..

..that said, i had a nosy on guardian soul mates this afternoon and can't say anyone caught my eye, so back to the sofa where it is comfy and there is w(h)ine.

watch. So glad all going so well! :).

waves at everyone else. :)

Thanks again.I agree we should give chances to "not my type"guys too bcos since dating ive not had any luck with my type of guys,i always end up making stupid mistakes.Dated good guys from pof but i didnt give them a chance.Theres a 46 year old man who treats me like a princess but hes not my type so i just ignore him and go for the bad guys .
welcome Questions

try a different type then? i always think there should be some attraction though, even tho current oh wasnt my type there was something about his face i still found quite yeah his a bit of all right but personality wise no, i even remember saying to him "your the first chavvy guy i've dated!" lmao! try the 46 year old he sounds quite sweet! :P pof is funny tho as its free i find its just full of unattractive desperate men, maybe the paying thing works, if guys are serious about wanting to date someone they'll pay! have u tried girlsdateforfree.com? the women dont have to pay to join it but the guys do ;-) x

the train date was erm a very obsesesive person, so no where, think constant texts, blocked from facebook, contacting me pretending to be someone else etc

Former FWB, said he has regretted not being with me ever since and has told his girlfriend he has stronger feelings for me, but not sure what will happen

date today went okay,
but tomorrows........ hell yes i am looking forwards to.

Where did you meet the train one?

And where do you get all this time of from your ds? I could barely get out when I was a single parent!

MLM, you get more interest in a week than I do in a whole year! Oh to be young and beautiful...

BUT, I've actually got 2 messages on Match today from men who seem reasonably normal. I re-joined at the weekend, and was beginning to think it was a total waste of time and money, so I'm really pleased.

I have been gone a while but come back...hope everyone is ok.
Libby re Match, it says you can Join For Free, but it seems like you may not be able to message anyone...does that sound right? Do you end up with an effectively useless 'membership' unless you pay? Or anyone else in the know? TIA

Hi Parsley, yes, it seems that if you don't pay, you can't do anything except search for other members. You can't send messages, you can't read the messages other people send you, and you can't see who's 'winked' at you. So yes, it's basically useless. They sometimes offer discounts on membership, though - I got quite a good rate (I think) so decided to join.

Oh, thought so Libby, so no point at all unless you stump up! So you can't get messages if people contact you either. Bit like a car without wheels, except you only find out when you've got it!

He's told his girlfriend he has stronger feelings for you than her, MLM? What a charmer