The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

Time, no :)
Don't, that's quite scary. It can be between the two. That's ok......

Chaotic I did actually use to be a teacher, but completely unconnected to the marking . Was briefly a (somewhat ineffective) primary school teacher and then retrained as an accountant. Now do various marking for one of the accountancy boards (this) and for an accountancy college preparing students for their exams. Plus some invigilating in schools and a university (unconnected to everything else).

I suppose I am an examiner but think of myself as a marker.

Watch I think I get inklings of a relationship for you there

watch it's currently a transitional relationship, with the potential to become a fully fledged one I'm doing fine, trying to change my diet and hopefully, in the next couple of weeks, start to introduce some exercise into my life.

Miranda every time I hear exams I think school, therefore teacher. That's despite having spent several years back in education and being aware of the potential different courses that can lead to careers not related to education that all involve exams.

I did a GCSE in Accounts several years ago and considered a career in that direction but the timing was all wrong so it never went any further.

Time

I haven't text 2nd date man all day...and lo & behold about 9ish he text me! Was v pleased, maybe I don't mind being 'pursued' a bit after all

Watch I have to agree with the others re the R word :)

I don't think I can cope with more than 1 date with more than 1 man. It will be going from famine to feast Have also heard via friends that the guy from the jubilee party was asking after me...I will need a bloody spreadsheet at this rate! not that I'm complaining

A spreadsheet sounds good, Sponge.

Make sure you don't send the wrong text to the wrong person.

Watch, don't be afraid of the word relationship. Even a FWB is a relationship, albeit a non-romantic one.
But it looks like you have a boyfriend.

Do you girls think it's a sign that I opened my e-mail (separate account just for dating) as Mr Lawrence sent his morning message?
I was a bit freaked by that.

Also, I think a positive attitude and confidence gives off better vibes, Sponge.

There are a fuck-of-a-lot of threads in aibu watch. A pointer would be nice! :)

Dont want to ' out' you, cant pm from phone. Ah, will fb it :)

sponge - you are on a roll - have some fab dates today!!!!!!

Anyway - i need some advice, which is going to make me sound about 15
But my mother is taking this whole dating thing rather badly.I know its her problem, not mine, and its bloody ridiclous, but, shes my mother etc, etc?.
Last night she had a MASSIVE strop at me, she had called while we were eating dinner, so I said I would call her back in a bit after I had put dd to bed, no problem says she. Except I forgot because MrL called and we talked for about an hour and a half?. Mum started calling the mobile, and then the landline, one then the other, pretty much every 10 mins, which I just ignored because I was on the phone. Then she started ringing the landline constantly, so I told mr l to wait 2 sec and id get it and tell her to id call her back? and picked up the phone and got a total ear bashing because I hadnt called her back, it was now 9:15 pm and was too late and I wasn?t to bother calling her back.
So = few mins later and I stopped talking to mrl, called her back and then again she had a massive strop at me about how im thoughtless and selfish etc?..
Which I am not, I was just on the phone.
Basically she doesn?t like it.
Yesterday she had a go at me too. I had b een to the butchers to get a chicken for the weekend, they are on offer and cheaper than the supermarket, so I called her to tell her in case she wanted one. So, she calls me back a few hours later demading to know why on earth I need a whole chicken when DD is at her dads this weekend.
She just keeps having a go at me. I don?t really get it other than thinking she doesn?t want me to see anyone and likes having me to herself, because it makes her feel useful or like I need her or something.

Oh ? and on the weekend she said she wanted to meet him asap ? told her that wouldn?t be happening any time soon, so then she called me ridiclous for thinking I could keep my life seperatre and that I am a ? mother? and if I thought I wasn?t or could hide my child ( which I havent done at all) then I needed to ? take a long hard look at myself?

Sp ? that was nice?.!

:( its making me a bit sad really, any advice greatly appreciated.

She may miss you and feel that this man is taking a lot of your time from your family.

And sorry to say but you did promise to call and then ignored her phone calls. Personally I'd be a bit upset too.
Surely you could leave Mr L for a while to talk to her a bit.
You should not alienate your family for any man, if they are ok enough. It's bad if you have too.
Did he know she was calling?

and i would have called her back, and it would have been shortly ( or around that time) i hadnt said exactly by what time i would call and perhaps i should add that i had already spoken to her on the phone 3 times already yesterday.

I havent alienated my family either, ive just come back from a weeks long holiday with them!!
Then i saw her sunday, and then again monday AND tuesday, in person.
Thats hardly alienating her is it?

yes, he knew she was calling, said i could go if i wanted too. I didnt want to. She does it all the time, and if you dont pick up the phone immediatley she just calls your mobile, and then landline and the mobile, constantly until you do....

aah, found it watch have alerted the person in question re webchat, so hopefully will get a star visitation on the thread! [cluedo hat]

regarding your mum, I can kind of see both sides, but you are a grown woman who can make her own decisions regarding how you compartmentalise your life. I wouldn't be introducing MrL to my mum before I had introduced MrL to my child and it's up to you when you do that. I don't think the phone call is a question of priorities, just that other people have to accept that if you are already on the phone to someone it's polite to wait, unless there is a life theatening circumstance. 9:15 was clearly early enough for her to call you to say that it was too late and not to call her back (!)

I would sit down and say that yes, you're seeing someone, you're not sure where it's going at the moment, as a mother you want to suss out the situation before introducing Mr L to DD as you're not the type to have a long prosession of part time uncles parachuting into DDs life and then going away...that said you're not a nun, but your sex life is your own business, back off.

Hi everyone

Watch as a mother to grown up women myself, who have gone through the dating stuff, I think your mum is being a bit controlling and interfering. I can understand that, as a mother who loves her daughter, she may have worries and concerns, but she really does need to keep those to herself and not project her feelings on to you. I have never interfered in the love lives of my daughers and never would, I would only become involved upon invitation. They are grown women who I have raised to know their own minds, be confident in their decisions and believe in themselves. It would be a bit off of me to start butting in now. But that's just me

Snape - that is excatly what i said to her on sunday ( when i saw her in person) I said that noone would be introduced to dd until if and when i knew it was something serious, that i did not agree with a stream of men being introduced to DD and that it was my choice. And that certainly no family would meet him until DD had and that she had to slow down and accept it was my decision. I got accused of having a chip on my shoulder :(

:) glad you found the thread - its very positive and lvoely.

see - this is why i like mrl - hes just fb'ed me a link to an atricle in the guardian re 50 shades -, that touches on sexuality, feminism , how bad the writing is, image its selling women etc,etc... and then linked hes also linked me to the other essays, articles, books etc, that were mentioned in the original article.

because he knows i find those things fasicnating.

And i think thats thoughtful and nice.
:)

I like getting links to things too :) Actually Mr Nice (shall I abbreviate him to MrN?) sent me a link about 50 shades as well recently.

With the mum thing I am guessing you live nearby to her? My parents are about 150 miles away and we have a general keeping in touch thing but aren't on the phone to each other every day (am not keen on phones tbh). So from my point of view there's no way they'd meet him before the DC did as they are too far away and I agree it is a decision only for you to make about if/when your DD meets him. How old is she by the way as I suppose that might make a difference to when meeting happens but anyway that is totally your decision.

Does your mum babysit for you quite often as I suppose that could make a difference to how she feels about things with you and MrL. Think I am waffling a bit now .

Must mean mini break over and time to mark more papers. Hope this next batch have slightly more concept of how to answer an exam paper

DD is 6.5,
No - mum doesnt babysit, not often, maybe once every two months or something?

yeah - she lives about 3 mins drive away. it has been known if ive not picked up the phone after 2 hours, that shes just driven round and knocked on my door.
Bloody stupid.
I should maybe point out, that im 34, and until i was 30, i spent my whole adult life 1) not being in conact with my mother until the ages of 28
2) living all over the country and abroad without needing her to baby me.

DD wont be meeting him any time soon, so neither will my mother, and thats just tough.

suspect all this emailing of links to '50 shades of grey' has a subtext of - 'read this, up for some kinky fuckery?'

haha - no. i think mrl knows im way past 50 shades :)

It was more because of the feminism and sexuality angle.... and freud and id and other stuff like that. he knows i find it very interesting.

Now down to one date, as my lunch date has cancelled. Again. That's now the 3rd time he has cancelled on me . I don't think I will be giving him another chance, even though he was very apologetic. His loss & all that.

Fingers crossed the other date actually goes ahead...

you are the very model of kinky-fuckery watch bet Ana doesn't break a sink. :)

haha. hahahahahaha. Indeed.

Sponge - sorry about cancelled date, he sounds like a timewaster, dont rearrange any more, because hes done it 3 times. Just concentrate on your actual SECOND DATE! later today.

Grr at lunchtime not date sponge. Definitely don't rearrange anything else with him.

watch I would have problems with my mum living 3 minutes away but think she would too so hopefully OK there.

Having next mini break - when I finish this marking I won't know what to do with myself

I think he's had enough chances now, it's a shame cos he seems like a nice guy. Though I can now understand why he's only had a couple of dates in the last 4 years!

Let's hope 2nd date doesn't cancel as well. He was complaining about being ill last night, so a bit . Will text him in a bit to see if he's feeling better going to flake out and cancel and also check what time we're meeting tonight.