The thread in which we all pray Johnny depp has signed up to POF - DATING THREAD 17!

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Here we go again....

XH and I luckily amicable enough that we both do a bit of give and take - when I'm working away from home he looks after them and he has had them more recently when I've been marking and spending some time doing other things. I adjust how much maintenance he pays each month based on how much he's had the DC; well he pays a fixed amount and I pay him some back when he's had them more.

I am glad we don't have a rigid "this is my time so I cam only have them then" type of thing. And helps that he only lives a few miles away. Do slightly wonder if he would ever move up to Scotland to be with his GF and DC but think it would be more likely she'd move down here.

Have stopped marking for the night as am brain dead now. Would llove to finish sooner than anticipated but still a hard slog ahead...,,

I think men are more results orientated than women, so my guess is that Sponge's man isn't texting, because as far as he is concerned, the date is in the diary, he is looking forward to it & it is a done deal, so he is just carrying on doing all the day to day stuff he normally does and it is at the back of his mind. He probably doesn't even think that it might be inconsistent that he was texting like a nutter before the first date & now it is radio silence. I'm sure he'll be in touch Sponge.

post - wanted to say its great you no lonfer have feelings for your FWB. its fab when that happens, you know, someone you loved so much and then suddenly, without realising, you dont feel that way anymore. time being a big healer and all that :)

miranda - lots of marking!!! it is bloody difficult to date with children, thats a given. Its just about juggling it all ( along with work, and housework etc) and trying to fit it in. I went 10 days without seeing mrL because i was away, luckily mum had DD for me to give me a night with him, because otherwise it would have been 17 days!!
We are ok this weekend, and i think im going to get a babysitter in the week one evening, but then i have dd so..... might see if mum will have her again, though i dont want to do that alot.
Then, after that DD is at her dads for 3 weeks, so i will have loads of time. Im hoping by then maybe ( about 3 months dating then) i will know what the score is, and if there is any thing in it, and maybe introduce them, because that will make things easier and he can come round when dd is about.
Any friends i know who have been in the same position have said how hard it is in the early days, and its just about grabbing time when you can, but once everyone is introduced it does get a lot easier.

sponge - hope you hear from him today. If you wait, you give him the chance to think' oh, that girl was cool, ill see what shes up to, hope she replies' thing, where he gets all nervous and thinks about what hes going to text, and then, when you do respond ( not instantly) he gets that rush of adrelinin and a fuzzy, excited feeling, and its good. and then he wants to see you...

I have to say that housework has possibly slipped into last place

I'm really not sure about the introducing part - I'm 2.5 months in I think and happy keeping things separate for now at least. I think possibly because I am not exactly good at keeping my hands off him and don't want to do that around the DC .

Anyway back from taking car to be MOTed and so it's time to mark exam papers....it is well paid and due to the fact my work is to do with exams I won't be working again until about November so it is OK really but just hard graft.

tell me about it, housework and garden is last. my garden usually looks great, ton of veg growing, lots of hanging baskets, pots, flowers, cut grass. Now it is very overgrown, no flowers :( but ive not had the time and the rain and bad weather earlier in the year stopped me sorting it out earlier.

I think you have to introduce when it feels ok. Some people do it really quick, some wait ages. I supose it just depends on circumstances. With me only getting every other weekend ( i cant really keep asking people to babysit and its not fair on dd) and with him not driving and there being no night time public transport ( too far for a taxi) then we will have to do something. he works in my town, so if DD had met him he cold come over in the evening and stay and go to work from mine and that would solve a lot of the problem, same as him learning to drive, which he has just started....:)

My garden is worse than over grown, it needs a strimmer on it, i was going to do it this week but plans have changed, with my friend's dad, so looks like it will just keep growing, anyway the weather wouldnt allow it anyway!

My garden is a mess . Gardener not replying and combination of rain and sun is not good. In fact XH said if I got a lawmower he might mow the lawn, Mr Nice said he had a old lawnmower somewhere - maybe I need to take advantage of both of them (have banned myself from mowing lawns after twice runnign over the flex and nearly electrocuting myself).

Yay for Mr Lovely learning to drive :)

Mr Nice does have one problem. And one he has apologised for and tried to combat but he can't.

He doesn't like Muse .

Not sure what to do about that really

You can tell I'm not in a relationship - house & garden are all in order, even the ironing pile is on the small side!
As for dating with children, it is not easy. I find the babysitting costs extortionate & off putting. It really makes me think twice, if I want to actually meet someone, when I know the price of it!!! I had a year long relationship about a year after ex-H left me & I did introduce him to the DCs, but they were tiny then (2 & 4) and didn't really have much of a clue. It would be much, much harder now - if fact that puts me off too!!!!

I've still not had a text, but I cant afford to wait any longer because of needing to rearrange. I'm sure he wants to see me, and if I delay I'll end up cutting my nose off to spite my face because its really much easier for me to see him tomorrow rather than Thurs (assuming he is free then which is likely to be the case.

So I'll have to break the deadlock and send the first text... :)

Go on sponge, send him a text :)

If it weren't for having an XH nearby who has the children quite a bit I would be unlikely to manage a relationship at all. Although I probably should find a babysitter I suppose - I think I'd feel it was a bit unfair on the DC and they'd probably wonder what I was doing. And I don't want interested questions

I agree Sponge, texting him to re arrange is the rational thing to do!

I guess I'm pretty lucky, my kids are grown up and have flown the nest, so babysitters are not an issue, I'd not want to introduce them to any casual men friends though.
Damn sure they dont want to be presented with any evidence of mom's love life

ironing?
ironing?
Dont think I've done any since about 1983 :o

well text has just been sent...and now I wait. normally I get a reply within a few minutes at most, so the longer it takes the worse a sign it is

Arghhhh!

It seems that I have a second date with Mr Rose today!

Now, thankfully I did iron my clothes today, , but they are not the best possible selection. They are on the baggy side, dark and not particularly sexy. Removed old nail polish yesterday, but haven't done the nails. No make up. But I did wash my hair AND even straightened it, and did eyebrows and other facial hair on Sunday, so not all is bad, and I also have some lipstick and perfume in my bag.
And my eyelashes are long already.

On the other hand, why I am bovvered?
Let's see how I feel about him.

Meanwhile, Mr Lawrence and Mr. Shy (mine) have been further in contact. Mr Shy has mentioned meeting and I have told him about my limitations in the near future. Let's see.
Mr Lawrence has sent and received some long e-mails. We'll see.

On children, DS is 7, so not easy and he may tell his dad. Still divorcing and he is quite possessive.
I can drop him with family, but I might have to lie or have a cover story.
Looking forward to DS going on holiday with my parents.

not necessarily Sponge you know there could be lots of reasons for not replying to a text straight away:)

and can I just run this by the team?

the bloke I met for a chat the other week, well, I liked him when I met him but then I felt a bit uneasy about him.

So to draw him out a bit I say (text) that I'm a bit reserved with people I don?t know, I'm not sure about this no stings dating thing..blahblah.

He suggests a 'solution'
if I'm nervous he'll strip off and jerk off (he didnt say that in so many words-but I'm quite sure that's what he was alluding to)

I don?t have to do anything if I don?t want to...just watch.

wtf?
how is that going to be helpful?
what sensible man thinks thats a good way to put a woman at ease.

He seemed nice...and then he comes out with some silly schoolboy porn addict fantasy

At least it shows my instincts are working:o

Mercury - what a knob jockey. Sounds like your twat radar was definitely right.
Lueji - good luck with Mr Rose. He won't notice the bits you haven't done - only women notice stuff like that.

Mercury some men are just weird I think. How on earth anyone could think that would reassure you .

Yeah, twat.

I wouldn't even bother replying.

I'm tempted to text:
'my fee for watching men masturbate is £100 per minute-you dont seriously think I might want to watch for my own pleasure do you?'

No Mercury don't - he may just volunteer to pay!

And thanks PostBellum

I was not that attracted on the first date, but it was nice, so I'll be pleased if we click today.
He seems a nice guy so far, but reserving my judgement until the physical side arises.

He did text this morning saying he missed me. So, he could have bothered to be in contact over the weekend, although he does msn and we did contact before through it, but I didn't go there myself .

I wont:o
mind you...
easy money!!
prob put me off my food though

Not sure how that image is going to play on my date now.
I'm supposed to go for lunch soon.

We should avoid anything milky and runny. for sick

Sponge, hope he replies soon.

Men are grim. Why would someone say that??!!!

Mr l has just been on the recieving end of a ' ok, fine'
Jeeze, he's so Fucking disorganized. Pissed me off, so I ok, fined at him. Couldn't help it.
What is it they say about facades slipping after 6 weeks? LOL

I dunno, blame porn I s'ose, some of them start to believe that women are there to indulge their fantasies
ha ha good luck with that sunshine

Hopefully Mr L will start to organise himself a bit, I guess he's just used to certain ways of doing things?