Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 7

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

glad you had a good day.

My internet keeps going to the pub, anyone know of uk network problem? can't get more than 2mins anywhere.

What server you with?

I'm on tmobile on the phone as computer has hard drive pmt.

Tmobile is sometimes funny but never as bad as this, just isn't connecting.

BT here bloody awful lately was with vodafone until last August never had any real bother with them. Lost internet completely for 2 or 3 days last week only got it intermittent on phone.

Is it the weather or transmitters then?

Natwest have had internet problems overnight.

No idea could be a bit of both

That letter is so articulate. I can relate to it so much even if what I went through was so much less bad. Poor man, glad he has peace.

:( I can see how depressed he was at the time of writing it.

Such a fucking waste. I struggle with having that black hoverer always there and will hang on to hope that someone will be able to help.

As I said I only managed to get halfway if that it was so heartfelt but for me I'm to up and down emotionally to read such thoughts so sorry he had nowhere to turn to.

Sorry Dotty, I wasn't sure wether to post it or not.

He spoke about never escaping it and how he was sorry to do that to his mum. America is quite bad for not helping victims and he felt he had no trust in anybody.

Hugs

Don't be daft you did say what it was my own fault no-one elses I have to just plough on and get on with life no choice have I

Morning :) How is everyone today?

Chips that situation with reporting your abuser is absolutely awful :(

Fine here got up at 4 put kettle on and have just woke up half an hour ago oops. Could of had all downstairs done by now.

Good hope everyones ok today

To anyone struggling to get through each day, just go at your own pace, if you need to sleep, sleep, or cry or whatever. It's difficult when you have wee ones but take your time to heal

At my worst I got up, took my ds to school, went back to bed, picked ds up, fed us, went to bed. Even that was too much. It does get better, slowly, we just need to remember ourselves and allow us to heal. Concentrate on you and your dh/dc's and sod everything else. Just let yourselves heal

warning rochdale gang news may trigger Not actually read details just saw on teletext that one was jailed for 19 years.

That's a relatively good sentence, lets hope he serves it.

Horrible as those stories are, they do give me hope, as more and more often they are reported with sensitivity to the victims. I think slowly but surely attitudes are definitely changing.

Me too Cailin spoke to DH about it said how in a way it's sad but also good that at least every month sometimes weekly were seeing stories in the news about these filthy bastards getting arrested or even jailed.

It's so bloody wrong that attitudes need changing.

I agree Olympic. My mother's attitude to abuse is that it's just "something that happens." It really is incomprehensible.

With attitudes like that what chance is there of our generation getting proper justice/closure I know I'll never have full closure of what that bastard did. My sisters are 49/50 so older but as I've been told they have ladies in their 60's and 70's coming forward to report childhood abuse so

I can only hope that future generations are believed instead of being laughed at, blamed even hit for daring suggest they have been molested.

I hope so too dotty. I know that in Ireland, particularly since the church scandals, they have come down really hard on child abuse. As a teacher I was required by law to keep a log of any suspicions of abuse and if a child reported anything I wasn't allowed to promise confidentiality, I was absolutely required to report it. If a child reported and I did nothing I could be prosecuted. It's a harsh system in some ways but it shows a very strong commitment to cracking down on abuse.

Cailin the DC was fuming that it was never suggested to me at 17 that I reported it to police she says that if anyone who comes forward to medical profession now with claims of abuse under 18 it has to be reported by law it's a step forward I suppose but thinking back I doubt I could of come through it so well not finished yet and I really struggle but have 'my mask' that I wear plus now at least he will be on the register that didnt exist in '88

Well, I'll never get closure.

I also think that male survivors need remembering too especially in light of the church and the number of priests still working and protected by the church.

This kind of abuse not only mentally harms but leaves physical damage too.

The amount of money just the physical damage has cost the NHS is £££'s and we're lucky that we can get medical treatment.

Sorry just ranting

Olympic don't apologise DH is a male survivor as well but he says he doesn't remember what happened don't know if its because he doesn't want to add more onto my mind what angered me about what happened to him was his mothers answer was to put him in a care home one where he was beaten at his sister is 10 years younger but knows all about it down to his mother she had no right telling her DH can't stand his sister either she was a spoilt brat even as an adult treated her mother like crap but got everything.