Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 7

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

I'm ok NN, how are you feeling?

Hope you have a relaxing time dotty.

Mittz if you like you can just chat on the thread, you don't need to talk about anything that happened, totally up to you.

How's it going chips?

I'm feeling a bit "high" want to go camping but too busy. I want to cancel the exhibit but want to do it.

My mother walked past me in town, then phoned ds and wouldn't make a definite time to see him. She's been here a few weeks and hasn't bothered. I got pissed off and told her just to pick the stuff up and stop being horrid the non sweary version she turned up when she thought we were out. Ds is finding it difficult to believe she doesn't give a shit. That's all his family now. Twunting arsecrabs.

Bit wiped out left home at 6 am this morning had to pull off M5 at one point as my head was all over the place thoughts running crazy DH is coming down tomorrow. Sorry about your darling mother Natural family sucks sometimes.

Dotty, please be careful driving wrings hands, just worried about you I should have thought of calling her darling mother, my brain never connects, I just want her to say "I'm so sorry" or something, not "I'm not coming near you because you're a poor freak"

Hope you have a good time and your ds has a fab 18th.

How's everyone else?

Thanks Natural was more sitting in a car for hours with no conversation had the dulcet tones of the lovely Paul Hewson to listen to got 6 hours of his groups songs on sd card

austin.culturemap.com/newsdetail/07-12-12-14-37-the-best-response-we've-heard-to-daniel-toshs-misquoted-rape-jokes/

www.azcentral.com/arizonarepublic/arizonaliving/articles/2012/07/13/20120713bikers-against-child-abuse-make-abuse-victims-feel-safe.html

some people care, happy sunday.

Hi NN. The first link doesn't work. I found the story in the second link a tiny bit weird to be honest, although I know their intentions are good. I'm just not sure how reassuring I would have found people like them when I was a child.

Me to Cailin especially since most abusers are male. Seen a shocking story on breakfast tv in the papers asylum seeker who raped a 12 year old can't be deported as it breechs his human rights what about the poor girls human rights to be safe from fear of him

Sorry, can't get it to work. It's Curtis luciani's piece "imagine a world where women cut mens dicks off" the opposite but the same against the rape culture.

The second story made me cry, they're trying to do something and raise awareness. No one seems to do anything and victims are ignored.

I am in quite an angry mood though, nobody really gives a shit do they.

this

Click on 4th picture

It is a nice thought what the bikers are doing but not something a lot of young victims would feel comfortable with even now I couldn't of opened up to a man.

warning story about the rapist asylum seeker
here

the comments on the immigrant rapist are good but what about the pedo's that walk free here, no ones extraditing them.

I am really grump atm, I seriously can't get anything right. Gah.

Yes you can Natural the laws an arse the criminal matters more than the victims on another note an 11 year old got 4 years detention at Liverpool crown court for rape makes me a tiny bit optimistic as thats where IT's case is being heard [fingers crossed] I'm a throw the key away girl and I don't care who knows told DC that when she asked what I hoped told her I knew it wouldn't happen she says all the ladies she's worked with want the same.

I like the idea of those bikers and think its great they want to do something to help children.
It got me thinking about bikers. It must be a good way to feel safe, i'm guessing some or all of them were abused too.

I guess the refugee story just shows how completely ignorant the general public are about abuse. It is still so taboo so people would rather jump on the idea that a foreign person is a danger to us. People don't seem brave enough to see that man (or woman) in general is a danger.

Where is everyone awful quiet tonight

Everyone's having an rl meltdown here. Weird day. looong day

Hope your all ok.

DH arrived about 10 o'clock tonight brought a letter that DC had sent from witness services trial dates been set in case he pleads not guilty so whatever happens will be over by end of the year. Another step forward though don't know how I feel apart from a bit flat shouldn't be like this over a fricking letter.

I'm back.

Sorry about just coming and going. I just find it hard talking about it so when I mention anything I regret it so stay away until I stop thinking if you understand that.

Dotty, I'd feel flat too, you know it'll be over but you still have to go through it. Have they said what'll happen if he doesn't plead guilty?

SP, I completely understand that, for me it's a bit like a vomit/shite and although I feel a bit better it's like the stain has transfered and tainted here. T'is why I go a bit fluffy sometimes, to even the balance. I think that's why it's difficult to talk in rl too, I don't want rl marred by this.

Sorry if I went mental earlier, I know people do help.

Yes Natural went through it in February when she called for a chat was before anything was certain as well she just had agut feeling and yet I want to ask both DC's if they believe me or just doing their job she was on phone for half an hour that night. Will have to watch my interview that worries me as I can remember certain things and they race through my head certain questions and answers think it was cause I felt humiliated also felt I'd lost my dignity and pride at the time go to court etc with DC local DC will be there as well though not sure if she'll just be there for the day she's called or not all I know is I'm not sure how I'll react never spoken to a man about any of this apart from DH and worried I'll screw up if I have to testify against him keep saying to DH that I have to keep the dates free scared to tell him I don't want him there told him that at the beginning and he was hurt said his business was more important than me but he doesn't agree said I'm the most important thing to him (apart from kids)

Morning, how is everyone today?

I'm afraid of outing myself but what the heck, been chatting to you guys for ages and feel like I can't not tell you that baby no.2 is on the way :) Very happy about it, although I feel like absolute rubbish because pregnancy and I are not good friends. It's early days yet so there's still the worry about mc and all that.

Currently feeling rather tired and ill but happy nonetheless

Awww that's great news Cailin babys are great miss mine being little love the smell of newborns nothing like it. How old will DS be when new baby is born.

He'll be two and a bit. Hopefully still young enough to forget he had me to himself at one stage :)

How are you doing dotty? It sounds like there a million things on your mind at the moment. When will you find out of there'll be a trial or not?

In 6 weeks Cailin.