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Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 7

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CailinDana · 19/06/2012 21:59

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
Part 6

The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

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dottyspotty2 · 04/07/2012 20:47

Calmed down now thanks for asking don't know why I was stupid enough to be drawn into an argument.

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CailinDana · 04/07/2012 20:50

It's totally understandable that you got involved dotty. But arguing with people like that is pointless, they just don't change their minds.

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dottyspotty2 · 04/07/2012 20:56

I know should of walked away and got on with my housework or something

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CailinDana · 04/07/2012 20:58

I would just hope that arguing against people like that would change other people's minds. Seeing your story might have convinced others dotty and that's a good thing.

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dottyspotty2 · 04/07/2012 21:04

The thing that annoyed me is she works with survivors of rape and abuse or so she say's with her attitude that scares me.

dottyspotty2 · 04/07/2012 21:07

Sorry Natural missed your post x

dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 08:42

Really worried just had a text off DD1 saying 'arseholes stabbed himself and is in my ward' don't know if its step-son or IT have asked her but no reply as yet.

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CailinDana · 05/07/2012 08:43

That's worrying dotty. Is your DD a nurse?

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dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 08:50

Auxillary nurse waiting for her to get back to me.

NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 09:15

God Dotty thats awful.

panics here too ds was minorly assualted by his femal friend last night. Could've killed her. But she is the one sufferinng dv who we helped so I said she needed to speak to her parents, the doctor and her behaviour is unacceptable. Don't know if thats the right thing to do. She's not seeing ds either, she came round this morning crying, apologetic with self harm marks.

Have to work now but speaking to her parents later.

NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 09:28

Don't know wether to go to the police, he's got bruising so could photograph them. It was completely unprovoked, she thought he was laughing at her when they were watching tv at hers so hit him and bit him.

I don't know if I'm over reacting but I'm horrified.

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CailinDana · 05/07/2012 09:28

What does your DS think?

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NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 09:40

That he did something wrong Angry Sad

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CailinDana · 05/07/2012 09:46

Your poor DS, why does he think that?

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dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 09:47

I'm still waiting to hear back don't know if she'd just finished nightsift or just started a shift, worrying thing is if it's IT theres a condition on his bail to stay away from all our families don't know how it will work if he's a patient don't need this stress she hates him.

dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 09:48

Natural your poor DS of course it's not his fault why on earth would he think that?

dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 10:29

Was step-son told you he's screwed up but sadly I feel relief that it's him.

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CailinDana · 05/07/2012 11:15

I don't blame for feeling relieved dotty. Does your daughter have to look after him?

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dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 11:19

No she won't last time he was in she was threatened by his cousin and her girlfriend she had to be aken to the office to calm down as she was so angry about it, other patients where going on about how nice she was and he was effing and blinding at her she was a domestic then been an auxillery for almost a year now. Proud of her. Smile

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CailinDana · 05/07/2012 13:25

So you should be dotty :)

How's it going?

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dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 14:16

Fine Cailin at Kinross waiting for DH's mate he's coming up to drop a bus load off so he's going to do his lights didn't really want to come but he never gave me a choice.

NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 14:21

That's a small relief Dotty, nurses can refuse to treat abusive patients can't they? you should be proud of her.

Don't know why ds thinks it's his fault, he's been mopey over the last weekish, maybe he's getting all the backlash from her and doesn't know how to handle it.

I've spoken to someone in rl who says just to reiterate staying away until she gets help :( and not tolerating the bad behaviour, not her. Truly can't believe this has happened.

NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 14:26

i have also decided not to get him to go for a summer job, teenagers get a rough ride her with bad training and dismissals without reason.

I have got him a business he can do, already got one booking and if he's good enough there's plenty of room for expansion and training but I can train him up with the basics for free.

Hopefully it'll keep him busy.

NaturalNature · 05/07/2012 14:28

Sorry xpost Dotty, can you go and do something while you wait?

Cailin, how are you?

How's everyone else?

dottyspotty2 · 05/07/2012 14:39

No Natural meeting him at the services he's a nice guy we met him last year for first time he's been on a forum with DH and spoken on phone for number of years. Its spooky cause his wife comes from my home town and his cousins wife is my Dr hard to believe it would happen that.