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Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 7

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CailinDana · 19/06/2012 21:59

Part 1
Part 2
Part 3
Part 4
Part 5
Part 6

The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

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OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 01:53

Offred, have you changed the bed?

I threw out the skirt I was (r) in last year yesterday, it was a beautiful skirt, all embroidered and fancy and the nicest skirt I have but it's been hiding in my wardrobe emitting bad vibes so I've finally got rid. Next the shoes.

Can't sleep primarily because I have to figure out some boring menial everyday thing but I keep going round in circles and getting no where and I found out my reli I've spoken about before has had 3rd child removed

Hugs for everyone

chipsahoynicki · 27/06/2012 06:27

Morning all
Offred and Amitola how are you feeling today? It sounds like you are having a rough time. I think with counselling Amitola, that it can get worse before it gets better. I'm a firm believer that it's better to get this stuff out. I know it's so hard though. Thinking of you both.

I hope you managed to get some sleep Olympic?

I'm tired, DS2 seems to think 4.30am is sleep with mummy time, but I can't sleep with him squashed up to my face, if I move he cries. Then get up time seems to be 5.30. I don't feel rested, dream of the past most nights... I could cry with tiredness right now. Must be 2nd cup of tea time!

Offred · 27/06/2012 07:07

Feel sick and tired cailin. Sorry for keeping you up last night.

Offred · 27/06/2012 07:09

That full stop is in the wrong place!!!

Chips - could you go in the baby's bed when he wakes and then when he goes to sleep sneak back to your own bed?

Offred · 27/06/2012 07:11

Olympic - no not changed the bed.

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CailinDana · 27/06/2012 07:51

Morning. I didn't end up getting much sleep last night - was very restless and then DS woke at 2am and needed cuddling and some milk before he'd go back to sleep. Ended up with about 4 hours sleep. I'm due to go out tonight too which bad timing!

Offred did you mention last night that your DH isn't talking to you? Why is that?

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Offred · 27/06/2012 07:55

He's not not talking to me but he has shut down and is irritated. He can only take so much before he gets sick of me feeling bad.

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CailinDana · 27/06/2012 07:56

That's tough going Offred. How do you feel about him shutting down?

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Offred · 27/06/2012 08:05

It's understandable, he's under huge pressure. It makes me feel like a trapped animal though.

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CailinDana · 27/06/2012 08:08

Is there anyone else in rl that you can talk to?

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Offred · 27/06/2012 08:13

Not anymore, DH friend not talking to me Sad my counsellor friend has her own problems. Since I had the twins I have become very isolated. XP isolated me from friends and family and I've never really recovered to. Most of my friendships are only superficial. Most of the people are DH's friends too because my friendship group introduced me to him. Now we are married they don't really bother with me anymore because he is their childhood friend. Pity party sorry.

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CailinDana · 27/06/2012 08:15

Why is your DH's friend not talking to you?

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OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 08:26

Morning all.

Offred, could you talk to your gp?

Cailin, hope you have a good night.

Chips, hope you have an easy day.

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CailinDana · 27/06/2012 09:03

Morning Olympic, hope you're well :)

I'm heading out for a few hours but I'll be around again later. I hope the day goes alright for you Offred.

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Offred · 27/06/2012 09:36

Cos the friendship, for him, was crossing the line. Can't talk to GP, don't trust them.

chipsahoynicki · 27/06/2012 10:24

How about rape crisis? They will chat with you on the phone if you just need to talk right now. You don't have to be in a crisis.. as in it doesn't mean you can't call them, even if you were abused/ raped years ago (sorry, I'm not sure of your history).

Offred · 27/06/2012 11:27

I may think about it on Thursday but I really have no private time with DH and this kids home all the time.

dottyspotty2 · 27/06/2012 11:35

Rape crisis are good they do phone support as well as face to. Face I know I sound like a broken record over this sorry.

OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 12:06

Offred, if you need to talk to someone now, even for 5mins please phone the samaritans, they're there even if you just sob down the phone, if not phone or email rape crisis.

And consider changing gp if poss, hugs

OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 12:09

what's your biggest worry atm? Don't worry if you can't answer, we're here listening even if you just have to put a dot or sad face we're sending virtual hugs.

Sorry if I'm soppy my inner child is doing whirly gigs so I'm trying to calm me down,

dottyspotty2 · 27/06/2012 12:11

Just been in touch with PPU in Lancs DC in charge is at court all week tried to phone local one written her number down wrong fuckity fuck stupid fucking cow

OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 12:24

Phone them back Dotty, just say you couldn't get through and could they check the number again then say argh I wrote x instead of y and chuckle

dottyspotty2 · 27/06/2012 12:32

Phoned local PPU they asked what number I had was a number for the town she's working in told them she told me she was now at CID obvious I knew her she gave me her number totally wrong don't know how I managed it suppose they have to check before handing numbers out. Left a message for her to call me back she's out of the office just now.

Had trouble getting to sleep over it but then slept until 11.30 oops.

dottyspotty2 · 27/06/2012 12:54

Oh well seems he's allowed to carry on like nothings happened innocent until proven guilty in bits now.

OlympicMarathonNCer · 27/06/2012 13:21

So sorry Dotty, the legal system sucks to hell, x

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