Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

Apols for another annoyingly smilie post
:)

Bar getting to orgasm twice at lunch time... Hes just told me hes planning on taking me out to dinner Friday, then the film I really want to see :) then a whole night of sex

:)

So excited, and kinda proof It's not all about sex.

Yes but during dinner and the film you WILL BE THINKING ABOUT THE SEX.

Will probably be stealing kisses at opportune momments and have wandering hands in the cinema.
:)

So I text the prat - didnt mention his profile, he's deleted that comment now anyway - and said as he hadn't contacted me I'd save him the bother of cancelling.

To which he replied & said oh I thought the same of you and that you didnt want to meet me .

I replied along the lines of hmm really?

He then said well lets forget it I dont think you're my type anyway.

Which riled me so I told him I definitely wasnt his type, because I had a brain, and didnt fall for bullshit. oh and by the way Id seen what he wrote on his profile yesterday and that spoke volumes about the sort of person he was.

Have now blocked him. Utter, utter prick. How dare he think to judge me based on my weight? I was actually lowering my (high) standards to go on a date with him, as actually he was a bit old and not attractive enough for me. Clearly that was a mistake.

Just fucks me off that every man I seem to come into contact with is either not single, a complete fuck-up or a total prick.

Am on the verge of writing to the Daily Fail to see if they'd like to run a feature on me, the woman who can't get a second date, and often not even a first . Maybe they could pay for a matchmaker for me? Anything has to be better than doing this shit for much longer.

OMG.

Some other prat(now deleted and blocked) has just messaged me saying how he loves big fat girls like me

have I just stepped into a parallel universe and gained 5 stone?

Tbh sponge, its too much of a coincinidence, and I suspect it might be him, or maybe a mate of.

I. Understand you are pissed off about it. But , ah, I don't know..I wouldn't have sent those texts.
If hes an idiot/ not for you, then a few texts aren't going to change him, or even make him feel anything, it just makes you look like you are really bothered.

There are a fuck ton of idiots on dating sites, along with those who wont fancy you.... It's best to not get cross, else you might end up spending days and days sending cross messages..!!!

I agree with watch on all counts, although I would feel the same as you do.

Just be glad you're not such a twat. What dating site are you on?

I agree its either the same guy or a mate, best option is to block. Dont engage, they like it like that.

Oh, id feel fucked off too. But you know, its just not worth getting wound up over. Or taking it personally.
I think the worst I've had is being told I looked like ' a tranny'
I.look nothing like a man, quite ridiclous.
I could have.got upset. Cried, felt awful about myself, except I.know its a load of bollocks. So just ignore, delete and move on.

They are arses sponge. They are not worth one mili-second of your time. Don't let these rude, unpleasant, obnoxious pieces of work wind you up.

Morning :)

Finally got the internet back after losing it Monday morning.

sponge agree that the message was from a friend of prickhead, timing is too much of a coincidence for it to be otherwise. As for prickhead, he's obviously been watching too much porn if he's calling you obese, you're not, you're not even fat. His ideal woman is probably Jordanesque in build preferably with an iq well below average.

watch at the same time I'm for you, pleased it's going so well.

chaotic - you lost the internet? my god woman, how did you survive :)
yeah - im kind of pleased/ shocked its going so well really. Im quite excited about being taken out to dinner. This is going to sound awful, but noone has ever actually taken me out to dinner. Boyfriends before i was married, aged 17 - 20 never did. I took my ex husband out, or arranged it and sorted it all. dates have asked, but ive always refused, that is not a good thing to do on a first date. So, just that hes planned that, by himself, and then told me, esp when we could just go have sex straight away... yes, its really,really nice and makes me like him even more.

Snape - hows stuff with PM ( or shouldnt i ask) and did your flatmate ever go on that date?

Sponge - how are you this morning? so, whats the update with mr chicken... is the date still going ahead? Again, just want to say, its not you. at all.

Time - have you vanished???? come back!!!

oh you shouldn't ask. I'm feeling unappreciated/unloved in general. no particular reason to direct this at him, but I havent heard from him for a couple of days, he's down on the coast i suspect sorting out somewhere to live I'm just feeling a bit angry with him life at the moment. it will pass. Did send huge ranty email to my flatmate, so that got it off of my chest a bit. While I am firmly head-in-the-sanding at his possible plans and have told him I don't particularly want to discuss it, I spose there comes a point at which it (yes, yes, like all other things..) must be confronted, but I think he's making plans, so it's presented as a fait accompli (which, it is...) and it's not as if it's obstentiably any of my concern where he lives sigh.

tying myself in knots about it a bit at the moment (bloody over-thinking...)

no, he stopped talking to her! don't know if he is still on OKC. He did meet a nice girl on some social meet-up thingy, but is yet to ask her out ( I shall prod him)

sponge just to say hi and reiterate what everyone else is saying (again!) you're lovely. :)

oh! and! DINNER!!!!! this is romannnntic! :) [pleased face]

it is, isnt it :)
Im looking forward to it. its just nice, because, well, he doesnt have to. its not like hes doing it to get into my pants, since hes already got that. lol.

:( bugger, so its all lots shit then.
I dont have any advice at all, but just wanted you to know i was thinking of you... you know.

i know, it's lovely - he's making an effort when I've been in relationships, I've always been the one organising holidays or travel or days out or whatever - this is actually lovely, that he's checked that it's OK with you and just gone and done it. :)

yes, mired in shit! :) thank you for your thoughts, really appreciated (especially when I have a bee in my bonnet about people being thoughtless.)

yes, exactly that. Its always been me organising too.. or suggesting stuff. so it means a lot ( to me) when someone else does.

:)
Well, all people arent thoughtless, just most!! it is poo. All round crappy situation really.... and there isnt really anything you can do about it... jst rubbish :(

It always amazes me how many women never went out on dates with their men.
I have friends in rl who sort of fell into relationships without ever being taken to a restaurant or the cinema.

Admittedly I'm not likely to 'go out' with my new friend but then we're not intending on 'having a relationship' so it doesn't matter.

He texted at lunchtime to see what I fancied 'doing' at the weekend.
We came up with some interesting ideas!

I just had a message on POF from a guy who gives his age as 41, but his user name is 1964, and he looks nearly 50 from his photo..durrr

Aren't some men so daft?
You'd think that common sense would prevail, but no they delude themselves and assume we'll be taken in too!

ah yes, the old ' i did it wrong when i signed up, and now i cant cgange it' thing. muppets!!!

child - so, were you looking for an fwb, or just making th emost of it :) so long as you dont want it to be more, then great, excited for you :)

i think the date thing depends on the age when you got together. I was 20 when i met my ex husband..... so, less into meals out and more into drinking/ hanging out. Then when we were married, any meals out were organised by me.....If we even had them, one year i only saw him for 6 weeks......

just wondered at what point you have to say something to people, i have sort of vanished off the face of the earth and am busy all weekend, and few peole have asked what im up to, few have asked if im seeing someone. I dont want to say yes, because i dont know... but ' im just busy' isnt cutting it

I think I'd just give an exaggerated 'wink' tap the side of my nose and then change the subject :o

I've agree'd to meet a man tomorrow.
I've seen and liked good clear photo's of him
he's polite and intelligent, keen to meet me, lives not too far away, but not to close.

Despite all that I am struggling to be bothered to reply to his texts
I feel so reluctant to make any effort for a man unless I know there will be worthwhile sex involved

yes, i did that, to which point they all jump around squarking ' you are seeing someone, arent you

and pester me for the details, while i sit there and go red.

mercury - lol. but you wont know until it comes down to it.