Dating, Loitering and Sofa Surfing, It's All Happening! Dating Thread 16.

[TimeForMeAndDD]

In continuation from previous thread:

Watch do not talk exclusivity until you have assessed the contents of his trouser department after the 5th date. Only after you have assessed the contents of his trouser department the 5th date do you decide whether or not the willy he is worth the commitment.

And yes, of course you go on Friday!! What on earth are you thinking woman! Today you were the BOSS of a coconut shy, a few of his friends will be nothing compared to that!

I've got to go make coffee, I've just watch Paying it Forward and I am in bits! BITS!

give him a chance Sponge:)
could be any number of reasons, he may be logged in but not at his computer
maybe text him tomorrow to check that he's still on for weds?
if you dont get a response then just let it go?

No, he's bullshit. And can guarantee if I send a text like that, I won't get a reply. Am more than a bit pissed off that I've wasted my precious free time in speaking to and texting this moron, only for him to flake before there's even a date.

Proved right. Sometime tonight he's changed his profile, now says something about how girls shouldn't describe themselves as 'average' if they're actually obese . Possibly that's directed to me. But even if not shows he's a total prick, so that's Wednesday off.

Lucky escape. Imagine how much more time you would waste in actually going to meet this guy. :)

Hate-what a bloody twat head, good to have found out early on tho. Onwards and upwards

What a prick! Priiiiiiiiiick!

The temptation to change yours to mention shallow steroid fuelled tiny penised men is not advisable.

If he's that shallow you wouldn't have wanted to be with him so it is good that you've found out now.

I'm in the same boat; although I am most definitely in the 'larger' category; the number of messages I get to then have the 'oh, I don't think you're my type after all' reply.

Well it's their loss!

There will be men out there who want to know you, not just a collection of statistics. If they're not prepared to reserve judgemnet until they meet you they're not worth your time.

I am a size 14.

he is a prick.

He is a prick Sponge & I'm glad you found out now, rather than wasted any significant time on him!

How could anyone say size 14 is anything other than average?

Sponge: Ignore and block. I find the blocking facility liberating.
I too was messaging with a fireman but not from your area. He too, spent hours in the gym and doing martial art type things. So yesterday he messages me about my day then maybe meeting up next week. Ok great. He then messages me saying that we could send each other pictures in the meantime...I enquired what of (id rather meet first before sending the type of picture I knew he meant) and he replied nothing seedy but of body parts basically. Then he messaged "it doesnt matter" and that was the last I heard from him. And I doubt I will hear again.
Im a size 14-16. I dont see many men about who I would consider perfect looking. On POF I have seen loads of men who are fugly stating "I want to meet a gorgeous, slim lady"....YEAH! in their dreams
There are a few who arent ingrained. Its a matter of finding them.

The person I have been spending time with thinks I need to put on weight (i am not thin) and thinks I need to eat more. He likes me for who I am. He got slightly jealous yesterday when someone was chatting me up. I do love spending time with him. But we are both healing. People always assume we are a couple too. We look good together and It feels right with him. I meant to message him something Sunday night but sent it by mistake to an old old ex from school. who was lovely about it and messaged back with a thanks. Which reminded me why I had loved him.

MLM - did you not listen to the advice before about spending some time alone? Didn't you say that you were going to do that after the Just Friends debacle?

We are friends. Nothing more. And if someone fancies chatting me up in a bar so be it. A bit of flirting doesn't hurt. I am spending time alone. If I wasn't he would stand a chance. But no relationship right now. We are both healing from being badly hurt neither of us could do a relationship. We do care about each other. But more brother/sister.

But the compliments are nice to hear. :)

Well that's alright then

Thank you for the concern. I am determined not to be hurt again.

On POF I have seen loads of men who are fugly stating "I want to meet a gorgeous, slim lady"....
I'm sure they can, but they will probably have to pay them.

On the physical side, though, if a person is not attracted, then it's not and nothing we can do about it.
Unfortunately we all make opinions very quickly.

I have to admit I have eliminated one guy who does seem friendly, but is really overweight. My issue is that I am underweight and not very tall and TBH it would just feel weird.
I do prefer men on the slightly larger side, though, for some reason.
I don't usually fall for skinny guys. Go figure.

Hurrah for lunchtime sex :)

Sponge, hes an arse. Full stop. So, it would have been a crap date anyway, It's saved you wasting your Time.

A size 14 is not huge. Im a 14, possibly a 16 at the momment. ( though it pains me to admit that) doesn't seem to bother anyone.
Mr lovely is under the illusion I am ' Fucking hot' so maybe he doesn't notice the stretchmarked, aprony stomach???
But then again, noone has ever said anything about it, or been less than complimentary, when when I look in the mirror naked, I feel a little bit ill.

That being said, you cant help what you are attracted to, and while it was crap of him not to be polite and say something like ' sorry, I dont think we would hit it off' at least you didn't waste Time with him.

Sponge, I'm a size 12/14 & I've had similar kind of crap from blokes who are just looking for sexting & wank fodder.
It has nothing to do with you, what size you are etc - it is just sad blokes, looking for sufficiently damaged women who will indulge their sexting fantasies. I reckon most of the arses looking for women to sext or exchange porn pics with are probably married anyway. Sad b@astards.

You're going to be walking funny soon Watch!

:)

Fab, isn't it

I'm still recovering from saturday's fun!

I'm looking forward to more though...

I'm a 16. hello dukan.

what nonsense though - I refer you to previous remarks about gym-type men dating glamour-model type women. At least I have the priviledge of already being saggy, so it's my incisive wit and general arrogance intelligence that will eventually draw them in, rather than my ribcage showing through a sheer top.

I don't think being able to see someone's ribs is attractive. But that's just me.

watch getting a little of your sex life. It not fair!!

sponge: just ignore his comments there are lots of men out there who want a bit of fresh.
update:my last date who wanted us to be a couple so we can go swinging contact to say he was sorry and it was just a suggestion.He kept texting how he like me and want to be with me,etc.i wanted to test his intel so said to him,ok lets give it a go.He text to say how he feel lonely and realy want a long term relationship,he is honest,genuine,doesnt sleep around and how we will be good together.........Last nite he drop the bombshell that he is into swinging and have been doing it for a while after i refuse(again) to join him on a site(fabswingers).What a twat.Ive told him am not interested but he wont leave me alone.