A crude question but.....do you still give your hubby

[mum2sam]

sex? I seriously can't remember the last time i went there. I used to try and go there every so often but now i dread it. Dh asked me if I could the other night and i just completely pretended that i didnt hear him (i mean he should count himself lucky he gets the other). And does any one still swallow (im sorry but i did warn you it is crude) i havent since we first went out and that was 5yrs ago am i depriving him or is every else the same.

yes yes yes. In fact my libido is higher but dh has a job and I'm a lazy slattern.

Yes to swallowing, it's good for ya!

dh is 12 years older too btw.

After 23 years together- yes, yes and more yes. It gets better with age as we get better at it!

If you don't want to do it,then don't. You have no reason to feel obligated (right word??)

yup but mostly not to 'the end' - usually as the starter IYSWIM, sometimes just a few kisses and licks. but hey we're only in a nookie situation about once every 3 weeks at the moment so we're not talking about friction ulcers here.

i must say i don't love it in any way but i do like getting it from him so it's fair enough IMO. also i like exciting him.

but if you dread it that's really bad news. i used to dread it with a previous partner because (much too much TMI) he didnt wash enough, especially after goign to the loo... can you narrow it down to one or more factors that you dislike, or is it the whole concept?

eeeeuuuurrrggghhh AB!!! we've all been there...
but yes yes yes! I love dh and everything goes, we get better at it every year. And yes I swallow. If only we weren't so tired and if only we had more time... I agree, you should not feel that you have to, but on the other hand physical intimacy is important in a relationship, and sometimes I have gone 'oh allright then' even if I'd rather been watching Holby City. That's for sex in general - of course you should not do anything that you are not comfortable with.

lol-erm I didn't for about 3 years ish, then DH went to iraq came back and I had the urge (which only lasted for about 3 months cos I was PG after that! lol- poor bloke) so in the last year we've only have 3 months of good loads a shaggin - in fact make that 2 cos one of those I wasn't intrested - poor bloke - might have to do something about it! lol.

yes i give my hubby lots of everything.

every day, its driving me mad! why is it that getting into bed implys sex? grrrr

also. no to the swallowing, i only go down there if he has been very nice to me and even then i dont swallow!

cheer up munz, you might kick in now your 3rd tri!

My Mummy always told me it was rude to spit

Well I am sure that this thread is turning out to be a great comfort to you mum2sam

Barely ever feel like sex with dh mum2sam. We are currently attending Relate to see a pychosexual counsellor to help me find my missing libido! I feel a certain amount of guilt because when we got married dh wasn't signing up to a life of celibacy.

It's early days in our counselling but I'm very confident that it's going to help. For women 90% of the reason for a decline in libido is 'mental' rather than physical - which is why counselling to unlock the beast within you might help

I drunkenly admitted to this (oh dear I'm supposed to be going teetotal if anyone remembers) lack of interest in sex at my toddlers group Christmas Do last Friday, and a few minutes later another woman took me to one side and said earnestly:

"I'm so glad you said that - I feel absolutely the same way and it's like a weight off my shoulders to realise that I am not the only one"

Can't think why this subject is so taboo. It doesn't bother me to discuss it

Re reading your post again, did you mean to type in 'oral' before sex?

Funnily enough when I do have to deliver the old conjugal rights (after a mental check on the calendar about whether I ought to) I honestly don't mind a bit of the oral!

He he he! - I've killed the thread.

kitegirl, can you not watch holby at the same time?

Only when I'm drunk!

But NO NO NO NO NO to swallowing!!! BAULK!

It makes me gag. Did once when we first started going out, but that was an accident. Never ever again!

Nothing to do with showing him how much I love him..... its minging, plain and simple.... I wouldn't expect him to gulp down my vaginal discharge now would I???

spew

Oh god! - thanks for that Sackache (last sentence) - .....

Its just a minging IMHO!

But if you do DT it goes straight down anyway??

i swallow, its laziness and its also not a big deal

Makes me vomit! And I'm not squeamish about anything much. Its a big deal to me NP!

I'm sorry I can't switch off my gagging reflex when a nob is banging off the back of my throat!

a nurse who swallows - NP you truly are a man's fantasy come to life

well put your hand round the bottom of the 'shaft' sackache then you dont have to do deep throat

or 2 fingers at least

Are men supposed to wash their penis everytime they pee????? (referring to post from Acnebride about her Ex).

I find it a bit off putting to get into bed with DH right after he's had a pee and feel the urge to put his dick anywhere near my HAND let alone my mouth! OMG I'm gagging at the thought!

If its sparkly clean straight from the shower its not bad.... but with all the sweat and piss of the day??? Are you all MAD?