montb, and anyone else who wonders whether to uproot their tiny dc's, just please do it. I wish I'd had this thread 10 years ago, when I knew something was seriously wrong, but I didn't know what EA was, I'd never seen MN and I thought, in my ignorance, that it would be better to wait until the dc's were grown. I thought I could survive it, control it and manage this life in the meantime.
Don't think it will be easier in a few years. It will be a thousand times harder. The EA spills its bitterness into your whole life, including your children's lives and your relationship with them. And the getting them a better life just seems a whole lot harder.
You will have to manage your dc's, who will then be teens, in ways you cannot imagine now. Their real needs and feelings. Their friends, their plans, their hopes, their memories. A two year old doesn't have these things. A two year old just needs someone to love them, nurture them, they just need food, affection, and loads of love. They don't have any emotional baggage yet, and they don't have a bedroom full of much loved photos and posters, shoes and books, favourite diaries and scrapbooks, headphones and surfboards!
If you need to go now, you can put your dc's most important stuff in one bag and go!!!
Just rambling here. Very late, can't sleep. Strength to you all.