The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Head To The Summer Of Sobriety

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Hello

I'm Mouse

Welcome aboard The Brave Babe's Battle Bus. There are a whole host of lovely posters here who will support your journey to sobriety, however you choose to get there.

We are a Bus full of drinkers, non-drinkers and those who are somewhere in between.

BUT - we will never judge or leave a poster out in the cold. So, find a seat and settle down for the journey ahead.

And HERE is the last thread and those before it too. Just follow the links to read the journeys so far.

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ah!! miflaw!!! at it again i see! - QO!! i do see just how miflaws post looked to you!! at times he can be a patronising git! (yes you can!!) however, i have known him now for over a year and i know that his heart is in the right place!, please try and take what he says for what it is, his, sometimes clumsy way is not meant to be rude, patronising or irrititating, it is said from the heart with only good intended!!

BBwanna I can raise you with "The Motor's" at the Marquee club in Soho, sweat dripping off the walls, put me off concerts for a long time!!
My Dad was so worried that I was late he phoned my friend's parents .

my first husband liked the eagles - he was much older than me!

I'm jut popping in to say night Babes - hope you all get a restful night.

Massive hugs to those who are struggling.

Big day tomorrow but I'll update when we get home.

Night all wish us luck! xx

Qo stay please. MIFLAW has pissed many people off on this thread, and also he has helped many. His style is not to everyone's taste.
I'm just checking in to say hi. Still here.

Siouxsie and the Banshees, Catford town hall, this time boyfriend (different one) chivalrously (sp) escorted me out to protect me from the flying beer bottles and gobbing punks.
Hi Ma
Congrats MissP
Mouse you babe!!

Seem to have come on board at a rather bumpy bit of the journey .. good morning everyone... I did drink last night..but a fractio of my usual , and although my insomnia was as bad as ever...I have started today minus the usual hangover.. thought I was going to collapse yesterday..

Morning all

How is everyone today?

Littleblue Hello, and welcome! Also, don't be put off by any little contretemps on here . We are all just trying to do our best in whatever way we can.

Ma Lovely to see you. How are things?

Mouse GOOD LUCK for todays appointment. I hope everything is just as you would like it to be. Sending love xxx

BBwanna I went see The Stranglers at my local leisure centre, same audience as yours, I think!!!!!

Speak later Babes and MIF
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I went to see!!!

Oh i'm not put off..not in the slightest

Bay City Rollers in 1975 . Things could only get better from there on .

Only one more day to work this week, then I have a lovely weekend away with a friend, so I won't be around much over the weekend. Away on a course next week so won't be around much then either. So don't worry about me if things are a bit quiet from me, and know that I am rooting for every one of you.

May I hop on the bus? I have read back, all the Babes threads and they have given me the push to finally give up drinking. You are all amazing ladies and your stories have really, really inspired me to think I can do it! You never know who you might help by posting like you do with such honesty and support for others.

Tell me something, I have been lurking on the Emotionally Abusive thread too, which is also a great source for me - it seems that these two threads go hand in hand for a lot of us.

Anyway, day 7 for me today and at the moment I feel great and very positive.

Thank you.

Morning all and happy birthday MissP, what a great achievement. I'm coming up to my 8th month sober and I feel great. Sadly I am no thinner, smarter or beautiful but I am a great deal happier and cope with so much better with stress than when I drank. Still taking it one day at a time.

Thinking of you today Mouse. Good luck. Welcome TtotalWinks. Hope everyone feels brighter than the awful weather today. I have no experience of abusive relationships but I think most of us drink to blot out some level of emotional or physical pain. I drink (or did) to relieve worries, depression and social nerves. I thought I did anyway. The reality is that drinking just makes everything worse. Anyway, stick around. You will find loads of support here on this lovely battle bus.

I left a Dv situation 4 years ago.. still have the drinking patterns I had then however..

Welcome TtotalTwinks - tell me did it take the whole 7 days to read all the back threads? There must be loads of them. Maybe we could suggest that as a not-drinking strategy "don't have a drink till you've found and read every one of the BB threads" - that would constitute a detox .

Interesting what you say about drink and EA. I always enjoyed a drink, but the first time I ever had a drink on my own, was a can of lager when my abusive exh was out. It felt like my own little bit of control and rebellion. But I can't use that as an excuse for the subsequent 17 years!

HI everyone

I am getting into a bit of a panic now about my hospital appointment on Monday for the lump in the back og my throat. Woke up this morning and my glands feel swollen so I have now convinced myself of the worst.

Hope yuo get on OK today Mouse thinking of you

Hi Ttotal I have also lurked on the emotionally abusive thread but I'm not sure its linked for me personally.

Morning all and welcome littleblue and Ttotal.

I am fairly new to the bus but was lurking for a while before I finally posted. I don't know if my drinking is due to any emotional trauma. My father left when I was very young and was absent throughout much of childhood but I have a wonderful step-dad who took me and my brother on as his own so there was stability in my life. All I know is that from the moment I took my first drink 20 years ago I've always drunk to excess.

I like drinking but I hate the way it makes me feel (if that makes sense), hence why I am here. Day 5 for me :) and I am really inspired by all the wonderful people here who have managed weeks, months and years of not drinking.

It's not easy but stick around and you'll find loads of support and love on this bus :)

Thank you everyone! Hee hee, no it didn't take me the whole 7 days to read back, but it was massively helpful to be reading about you lovely people when it got to wine o'clock in the evening.

I think the one think that I've taken on board from here which has helped me the most is that drinking won't make any situation better, it'll still be there, and in fact it makes it worse. It is my mantra now when I get the urge - "it'll only make it worse".

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Zany please don't worry. I know everyone thinks lumps are sinister but in 99% of cases (especially in younger people) they are completely harmless. As a worrier myself it's hard but try and put it out of your mind.
I am worried sick about my nearly 3 yr old's "odd" behaviour and extremely poor speech but I realise weekend binge drinking is making things worse. It makes me feel like a shit mother and the hangover despair and anxiety is horrible to deal with on a Monday morning.
With regards to DC, everything is in place for appropriate help for her. I have been saying to myself that I'll give up drinking when her problems either resolve or we get some sort of diagnosis for her. Realistically this could take years and the last thing she needs is me sinking into alcoholic oblivion.
I have been using it as an excuse too. Life is hard (as miflaw rightly said, no one said it would be easy) and I am determined to deal with it sober.
Today I'm not drinking.

My eldest daughter had a large breast lump removed and biopsied urgently at 14.. the whole process took three weeks.. the blackest three weeks of my life.. it was benign.. as have the subsequent three she has had removed since..
There are many many more reasons why our bodies grow lumps than cancerous ones..hugs

ITs like a cycle really isn't it Lucil, you drink because your feeling tired, stressed, worried (all of the above) and then yuo wake up the next morning tired, stressed and worried because you have had a drink. I also feel I have failed if I drink when I have a drink and feel that the number of glasses of wine is out of control. I am out tonight and I am DC free so I would usually have a few but I am driving tonight for a scary DVD night with a very good friend who has promised lots of shoulder rubs seen as I am cooking

Shoulder rubs sound like a plan! I prefer a foot rub but I have to beg DP to go anywhere near my awful trotters.

TTotalwinks I agree that this thread and the EA one go together well.
DH home now all day/night Friday, Saturday and Sunday and NOT looking forward to the weekend!