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It's all about him

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BibiBlocksberg · 07/11/2010 12:29

Can't believe I'm going to even talk about this without namechange but need to know I'm not imagining things. So, dp and I were laughing at the cat who was all snuggled into him this morning and started purring loudly when started to stroke and fuss her. Cue us laughing about how much she's enjoying being fussed.

Dp turns round to me and says 'I haven't been fussed in ages (in little boy voice) meaning sex of course.

We haven't had sex coming on for about a year now which is my fault since I have totally gone off it. Any attempts to talk about it have failed since he refuses to take on board some of the things I don't like/reasons I feel I've gone off the idea completely.

Have talked to gp 4 times now re no libido but other than swapping brands of the pill they don't know what could be causing it so am now stuck for ideas.

Anyway am just absolutely livid since it always seems to be about him him him in the bedroom. That comment earlier just made me so angry. Not 'we haven't done anything for ages, do you feel like it etc, no just He hasn't had it for ages.

All topped off with a wobbling bottom lip face and lots of sighing when i went to make a cup of coffee.

Just so tired of it all being my fault really, thanks for reading this ramble.

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Anniegetyourgun · 15/12/2010 20:56

"Look, you can have wan-faced Orlando, but I get Johnny. Only in pirate costume though, but I just SO would."

Erm, excuse me - there is a queue, you know.

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 20:58

No, hadn't given the holiday with a friend any thought Lydwatt. Are you offering Grin

Just made one of my faves for dinner - pack of mushrooms fried off in butter with plenty of paprika and a bit of cream.

Crusty bread on the side......sigh, heaven.

Think I was just hungry, hence the mooning, must remember that next time :)

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 21:03

Yeah when unreasonably miserable the questions I always need to ask myself are "Elephants, are you hungry? No? Then is it the last week or the month? Ah, y'see".

I think we should all go on holiday TBH, where's nice this time of year? Bibi could be captain!

Annie - yeah whatever I'm a pirate queue jumper Xmas Grin

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 15/12/2010 21:05

oh imagine what a fab time we would have on holiday

< muses happily >

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 21:08

Or 'ElfPants, are you hungry?' you get to ask and answer twice!

And guess who didn't like mushrooms? Yep, the Cap'n. All the tastier for it.

I was just thinking we should all go on hols. MN on tour.

No idea where is nice this time of year since I let all my travel dreams die years ago Blush

Just watching the Apprentice and thinking if someone had told me I would be a single woman before they've held the final I would have loughed very loudly!!

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 21:16

Actually I am staaaarving. I have lived on clementines alone today but it's really time I went to the shops (DP at work and he is the resident chef - I will be indulging in some delicious hideous junk food I think).

:( at your travel dreams dying. I started re-reading the thread earlier - the way the little horribleness about him came out one after another. Have you re-read it Bibi? Will cure the sadness!

I am imagining a beautiful boat tied up somewhere in the Mediterranean, who's with me?

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 15/12/2010 21:19

I'm there < applies sun lotion >

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 21:31

Mmmh....yeah I'd go on the Mediterranean trip but I'd be below decks making snacks and stuff a lot.

My european complexion is not fond of too much sun :)

Was just sat here thinking I've got a real hankering to go to New York lately especially at this time of year.

"the way the little horribleness about him came out one after another"

I didn't mean to do btw - getting more and more bits out of the closet rather than just saying outright.

Didn't realise half of it myself I don't think.

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 15/12/2010 21:36

yay, Noo Yawk !

I'm there

I am anywhere actually, can you tell ? Xmas Smile

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 21:46

Great, I'll find some deals and book some seats then AF.

Be warned though, Ice skating on one of those outdoor rinks they have over there will be compulsory!!

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 21:52

Didn't you say earlier that you hate Christmas AF? Next week then? Or it's my birthday this weekend?

New York probably best, I am allergic to suncream, it's pathetic. Can't skate either though, but I'll fall over for your amoosment Bibi!

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 21:58

For my amoosement - arf (do love using arf)

For my ammosement cos of my man ishoos.

Won't somebody think of the menz though and the wimmins.

Sorry, I love the way those things look written down and sound when read out.

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 22:07

on the sherry?

or just been luking in the feminism section where, despite what the title may suggest, our firs concern must always be for The Men(z)?

ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 22:11

my excellent spelling my sugest eggnog sherry abuse too, but actually I am drying my hair and it got in my eyes Xmas Grin

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 22:12

Yep, been in the feminism section a few times and that too helped to give me the push to first post and then strive for better things in my relationships.

Actually, I misspelt Menz didn't I - looks much better the right way :)

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 15/12/2010 22:13

yes, I hate xmas

I would try to muster bit of festive drinking cheer though, to skate on an ice rink in Noo Yawk and then have hot chocolate and brandy afterwards Xmas Grin

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 22:14

I spelled it right the first time round. OFGS!!!

Am distracted by smells of Pizza Express brand pizza cooking in the oven.

Fat laden mushrooms obviously were not enought for this little piggy.

So much for the reduced appetite Grin

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 22:19

ok that's IT I am going the shop!Angry

If only the ready made lasagne, and various corn snacks for which I so lust would come to me.

BibiBlocksberg · 15/12/2010 22:23

I'll drive some down to you!! Leaving as soon as have finished stuffing Pizza down.

Can't believe I've been single for a day a half and already my food shop looked like that of a university student Blush

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ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 15/12/2010 23:14

It's alright, I went :)

GraceAwayInAManger · 16/12/2010 01:20

You're funny, Bibi Grin

I liked your beginning-of-the-thread funny, which was sort of self-effacing, "ooh, is it all right to say this?" funny. and I'm liking your ONE DAY of freedom funny even more! It's funnier :)

Once you've got your cat flaps, wardrobe, shower, i-dock, and several more pizzas down you ... look out world!
Xmas Grin Xmas Grin Xmas Grin

GraceAwayInAManger · 16/12/2010 01:23

... sorry, I didn't mean to imply you'd be eating the cat flaps, etc. Just the pizzas. But you probably got that Xmas Blush

ElfPantsAtMidnightMass · 16/12/2010 08:28

How's the mushroom hangover, Bibi? :)

HappyDaysAreHereAgain · 16/12/2010 08:36

Can I just say, I am loving this thread Xmas Smile

BibiBlocksberg · 16/12/2010 09:25

Sorry all, fell asleep last night. Mushroom induced coma evidently.

That and the fact I've got a chesty type cold

I want to be in bed surrounded by the kitties and lemsip and my ipod etc etc :(

Instead am sat in the office doing the work of three people because everyone is on holiday.

Oh dear I really am a whinebag today aren't I.

That should kill your enjoyment of this thread stonedead HappyDays :)

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