It's all about him

[BibiBlocksberg]

Can't believe I'm going to even talk about this without namechange but need to know I'm not imagining things. So, dp and I were laughing at the cat who was all snuggled into him this morning and started purring loudly when started to stroke and fuss her. Cue us laughing about how much she's enjoying being fussed.

Dp turns round to me and says 'I haven't been fussed in ages (in little boy voice) meaning sex of course.

We haven't had sex coming on for about a year now which is my fault since I have totally gone off it. Any attempts to talk about it have failed since he refuses to take on board some of the things I don't like/reasons I feel I've gone off the idea completely.

Have talked to gp 4 times now re no libido but other than swapping brands of the pill they don't know what could be causing it so am now stuck for ideas.

Anyway am just absolutely livid since it always seems to be about him him him in the bedroom. That comment earlier just made me so angry. Not 'we haven't done anything for ages, do you feel like it etc, no just He hasn't had it for ages.

All topped off with a wobbling bottom lip face and lots of sighing when i went to make a cup of coffee.

Just so tired of it all being my fault really, thanks for reading this ramble.

Hard to believe but I've left myself short of booze at a time like this, tsk!!!

Am tempted to peg it down to the local shop for some more supplies but feel like an alkie :)

Just finally lost it at the Cap'n. He's not said a word to me since I got in so finally had to say 'what's are you doing' meaning tonight, the car etc.

He turns round and says 'don't worry I'll be gone by Saturday' Arrrrrgggghhhhhh.

I lost it a bit (honest) and shouted at him that saturday is another three whole days and even more nights away and he's taking the piss.

Went from that to 'this is my last night here then and I'll go tomorrow'

No no no, go to bloody night you sod!!!!!!

I am livid!!! Apparently according to him he can't go tonight because his mother doesn't have a shower.

Well, fucking hell, is she planning on having one fitted between now and tomorrow then???????????????????????????

No more Mrs nice guy. Want him out out out even if I have to drive him to his mothers.

Bloody clingy nettle......

On the upside, have just combed through kitchen cupboards and found bottle of red wine that work friend gave me for my birthday.

Hoorah for that at least.

Git git git git git git git git ad infinitum......!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, i'm back!

bibi, I had my last dream when i finally convinced him it was over and he finally got it. I could rest at ease.

My story:

He first had an affair, left, realised 6 months later that it was crap, wanted to come back but...

1. I had to mend my ways before he would consider accepting coming back

2, he hadn't really had an affair because he told me about it first

1. he had a breakdown and I must take him back to make him better

1. he hadn't had affair, he made it up to make me hate him as much as he hated himself (it worked)

He never once said 'sorry'...it was all about him!!!!

but, before he went he had frozen out all my friends so I was more isolated, and tried to emotionally manipulate me into being needy and reliant. And I was sooo bored

Just thought I'd demonstrate how much you are not the only one!! Best thing I ever did was to not go back...

Oh Lydwatt what a git you put up with as well.

Greedy greedy idiots!! As I said before all most of them have to do is give a little bit of thought, consideration etc and they can't even do that.

Fuck em, the lot of them.

Sorry for language, seriously hacked off at these losers now!!!

Well done for getting away from you particular brand of bell-end!!

bibi...he isn't going to go, is he ?

what will he do when he runs out of crap excuses ?

you are going to have to get nasty, I am afraid, seriously nasty

stop trying to be nice, and stop trying to leave him some dignity, he is making it impossible

he is just not taking you seriously, and hasn't from the beginning

Mmmmh, as always you're right AF as irritating as that is.

Was shouting at him just before he left to take the first car load over (he has at least done that now)

Me calling him all sorts and he just stands in the middle of the room looking like a stabbed andrex puppy again!!!!

Never in my life have I encountered such spinelessness!!!

I mean FFS he needed me to point out that sleeping in the same bed is seriously disturbing in this situation.

Knobber!!! My own fault though for not putting my foot down before tonight.

I'm with a good one now...it took me a while to adjust though!!

Bibi, keep insistent, don't let him play you..he has to go.

He's hoping you'll cave and change your mind...

make sure he doesn't 'accidently' leave anything and that, if he does, you will leave it somewhere outside for him to collect.

CHANGE THE LOCKS

Well, yes change the locks. Will have to eventually.

He HAS somewhere else to sleep tonight and every night after that. I just want him to go and do that.

By all means come back with your fathers van, mothers car etc etc at the weekend to get the rest of your crap things but do eff off out of my bed now.

Sheesh......

make sure he doesn't 'accidently' leave anything

yeah, like his arse

@ his arse!!

On a another light relief note the woman on the Pompeii programme on BBC 2 just used the word 'cocksucker' he he he.

Bear with me here, that wine I found is 14% whoo hoo. Fly me to the moon

LOL AF!!

he CANNOT sleep in your bed tonight!!!

That's just insane!!

Is he going??

oo, I'm watching that too!!

at arse & 14% wine.

I LOVE the fact that he is doing this as you calmly watch an information documentary about cocksuckers and MN and get pissed. This is like some kind of wonderful graduation

:) wouldn't mind travelling to Pompeii as it happens.

Minus one whiney arsed child!!!!

What do I do if he comes back with another story as to why he has to sleep here tonight?

Tell him he's on the floor if he does or what?

at that elfpants

YESSS!!!

Absolutely no way does he go near your bed.

He can go to mum's or sleep in your his car

Aah, wondered what had happened to you ElfPants.

Was about to turn into a child myself screeching about where you are :)

I know, this is so not me. In the past I would have anxiously hovered around biting my nails feeling guilty.

Not a bit of it.

Cocksuckers at Pompeii all the way. Thanks to my excellent teachers on this thread.

I'm here, too :)
14% wine - check
Pompeii - check
Useless lump of flesh hangng around like a bad smell - nope

Can't believe he STILL hasn't gone! And wasn't planning to, or even trying fgs!!

"It's all about him" - it bloody is, isn't it?!
God, Bibi HOW did you put up with that for ten years??!

No, chuck him out. You stayed in a hotel, he can too. Only his mum'll rescue him, won't she

Huuuuuge Aladdin's lamp on Pompeii just now. Nice.

Think am turning into Harry Hill on TV Burp.

Mmmh, I like 14% wine and I like useless lumps of flesh but which is better? Only one way to find out......

Hi Grace, have been wondering about how the hell did i put up with this all day.

What a total waste of time.....

I am going to try and find some wine now.

Nice to feel wanted Bibi :). By the end of the thread we're all going to be some screeching "Shisters are doing it for themshelves" like some kind of glorious hen-night in reverse.

Yes tell him to sleep on the sodding floor, or the sofa. Or indeed anywhere. But you will not be lying down to sleep next to him tonight, will he nill he.

Not a total waste of time if it leads you somewhere better...

...least thats what I tell myself....

I am here too

"Come Dine With Me" on telly

Cuppa tea and a crunchy

Dressing gown and slippers, yes slippers, those bootie-type thingies

lenses out, glasses on

bliss

all we need now is an arse-free zone

"Now, there was a time...
When we used to saaayyy"