It's all about him

[BibiBlocksberg]

Can't believe I'm going to even talk about this without namechange but need to know I'm not imagining things. So, dp and I were laughing at the cat who was all snuggled into him this morning and started purring loudly when started to stroke and fuss her. Cue us laughing about how much she's enjoying being fussed.

Dp turns round to me and says 'I haven't been fussed in ages (in little boy voice) meaning sex of course.

We haven't had sex coming on for about a year now which is my fault since I have totally gone off it. Any attempts to talk about it have failed since he refuses to take on board some of the things I don't like/reasons I feel I've gone off the idea completely.

Have talked to gp 4 times now re no libido but other than swapping brands of the pill they don't know what could be causing it so am now stuck for ideas.

Anyway am just absolutely livid since it always seems to be about him him him in the bedroom. That comment earlier just made me so angry. Not 'we haven't done anything for ages, do you feel like it etc, no just He hasn't had it for ages.

All topped off with a wobbling bottom lip face and lots of sighing when i went to make a cup of coffee.

Just so tired of it all being my fault really, thanks for reading this ramble.

Still at work at the moment Lydwatt and haven't heard a peep out of him so it will be a "nice" surprise for me when I get home.

Hope you don't have the nightmares anymore :)

God, I hope for his sake he isn't there when you get back. I am sensing pent up fury in your last few posts....

What is the first lovely thing you are going to do as a free woman? I wanna hear those plans!

I have nightmares that I still smoke after 11 years btw. Very odd!

Smoking nightmares nora, that's funny. I'm on my eighth month of not smoking and occasionally wake up in horror convinced I had a cigarette.

Thankfully so far it's only been a dream so far :)

Plans plans, now let me see, replace the throw on the couch (woohoo now we're living the high life) :)

Treat myself to an ipod speaker dock thingy for christmas so I can have music on every morning.

Looking forward to not having to creep around in the mornings before work or at the weekends.

Planning to have friends over for 'famous' chilli v. soon.

After all, I can entertain now that the 'guns of navarone' will be silent on the TV.

Buy as many foods containing garlic, chilli in fact flavour of any kind and gorge on them. Especially Garlic which was always 'too much' for Mr Baby Pallatte

Get rid of the horrible open clothes racks in the bedroom and finally have a proper wardrobe....

All very mundane I know but he just used to stall any decision I tried to make.

I'm sure I can think of some more once I'm settled on the sofa with some wine later!

Not mundane at all. These are things that will cause you little flashes of irritation every single day. Imagine how much mental energy you will have left over when they stop.

I often think I would eat really differently if I lived alone.

Fewer fishfingers for instance. And I would NEVER buy tinned hot dogs.

Are you home, Bibi?

Has he gone?

Hi all,

He is packing now - keep hearing the sound of zips on bags.

Bitter sweet sound really :) :(

I know exactly what you mean about eating differently bloomingnora.

All those books that advise you to lose weight by trusting your appetite and to eat what you really want when you want are deluded.

In my experience as soon as there are other people in the house and in particular men it is very difficult to keep to your own 'beat' without being made to feel spoilt and difficult!

My appetite has decreased markedly already - probably because I know I'm doing what my subconscious has been screaming out for me to do for years.

Oooh, get me with my hobby philosophy :)

....keep wondering if I should offer him some help with bags etc.

I truly am an overly nice nutcase aren't I :)

It's not going to be easy Bibi, but the only way out is through

I just linked this thread to this one so she can see how one goes about untangling oneself from a noncommital manchild. :)

Ha, I knew that was you Elephants!!!

Nice play on words there - ElfPantsAtMidnightMass indeed

I just posted on that thread since I have experience in 'real time' atm :)

I saw! How are you doing chicken? (and thanks for sympathy upthread, things seem to be getting better now :))

I bet he is in the other room sitting on his suitcase going .....zip......zip....zip.....

What's the quality of the notes like btw?

and did you like the cake?

I know you are probably not feeling very buoyant but you just need this bit of bravado to get through the hard part :)

at blooming - I was thinking that!

Zippity zippity

zip...zip...zip... with any luck he'll get something caught.....

I do so LOVE a good play on words

Just thought I'd say that again :)

Getting better with every bag and box that Cap'n sorry is carrying out to the car atm.

Can't help but notice that his family haven't exactly rallied round to help!!

What goes around and all of that!

Is he taking the MR2? Let's hope he hasn't got much stuff......

ROFL at all of you with the zip zip zip she'll crack in a minute.

I am actually surprisingly ecstatic that it's finally happening.

Want to tell him to make sure he replaces the petrol in the car with these trips to his mothers :) :) bitch bitch bitch

Have a feeling he will announce that he's coming back since he is using the car that I need for work in the morning.

Yes, loved the cake ElfPants :) very good!!!

I know - you're going to need a Christmassy name, or perhaps a joyfully single name to celebrate the Captain's departure.

For Bibi

just choked on my last sip of wine there.

Thanks for the farewell message there 'Dave'

That is brilliant!

alarm bells at "last sip of wine" - surely not?

She must mean "most recent sip of wine" rather than "final sip of wine" surely? I hope.....