The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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Hey BB

Well done for taking the first step. There are lots of fabulous Brave Babes on the bus that can help you.

What do you want to do? Stop completely or cut down?

I want/need to stop, fed up with my first thought every morning being 'stupid woman'. Decided this will be the week, failed already tuesday, but back on track tonight.

BB - here is your open ticket - look after it - find a seat - in fact I've warmed one up for you babe - right between me and Mouse for now. So settle back, enjoy the ride (wear your thermals twill be cold tomorrow) contemplate and relax.

diabolik my god. Fing well done. Don't rush in too soon with the stopping smoking (she says being a smoker and not wanting to lose any more allies!) . Interesting that in a completely male way you go at the whole thing at once and change everything overnight (virtually) - not like us laydees who have to talk alot and analyse everything - and by the way where are you VENUS - anyway 'mate' - good on you and I for one advocate the swimming/suana/steam room scenario although I haven't been for over a week (actually that's probably two weeks) - and my god am I missing it after the last two days - fk that sounds a bit pervy in a weird sort of way........to any newcomers I am not a sauna pervert...oh God - leave it now Silver - otherwise you are just digging yourself deeper - anyway diabolik - total admiration being blown your way.

enough [hblush]

any way you know what i mean...........xxxxx

BB - sounds like a plan! BUT...... you have to be ready. And you have to do this one day at a time. An hour at a time if need be. No rush, at your own pace.....

Don't over promise yourself IYKWIM! [hsmile]

I'm sat here on the eve of my 40th birthday contemplating life with my 3rd glass of wine. The last 6 weeks since I boarded the bus have been very up and down for me. I plucked up the courage to climb aboard, with great bravado and determination and I feel I have failed miserably.......well, not miserably to be honest, my drinking has reduced, I drink less (I never open that second bottle, sometimes even share the 1st with DH!) and I tend to have a couple or 3 days break between so all in all a result in my book!!

The only reason I can think of for struggling is this damn 40th business and being unable to give up this projecting lark.. ...big party coming up (Fri night and I'm already planning how to pace myself 'cos I REALLY want to remember this one )

So, I plan to have a drinky or 2 on Fri night, not too many I hope, but that will be it..........time to start properly and stop making stupid excuses.

Hi to all the newbies....welcome aboard and hope you stick around and get what you need from these fabulous babes. They have helped me (believe it or not!) in so many ways and I hope to be joining the ranks of the sober very shortly

Spider

Hello, nice to see you posting again. Do you know what? Just go with the flow on Friday. You will chop and change between getting pissed and not drinking and having just a couple during the evening anyway so why put pressure on yourself tonight?

Just chill about it. Take it for what it is, a bloody fab birthday and enjoy your self no matter what happens.

No-one is going to think any the less of you for drinking or not drinking and maybe after Friday you can start from scratch if you do drink to excess.

An hour, minute, second at a time ok? Just do what you want to.

You will NEVER stop drinking completely UNTIL you are totally ready to in your head and your heart.

You'll get there in your own time and when you do, we will all be with you xx

Hey Spider - sounds like you are doing pretty well so retake your place and get the last lift that you need - your place is still warm and waiting for you - and ALL of you

Tomorrow Gerald will be taking a 'passage to india' - incredible sights, colours you will not believe, noise, smell, texture, life in all it's glory - and the best bit is all you have to do is sit back and relax and accept the support and accept the point that your life is at - and from there we can all move forward.

[hgrin]

Thanks mouse, I feel that that is the way to go at this moment in time, and I am chuffing well looking forward to it

silver Save my place, I'll be onboard on Sat

.....minus a stonking hangover

Spider, have a GREAT birthday, I hope the party turns out how you want it to be.

Thank you all for the welcome, see you tomorrow.

Hiya BB, thanks very much.

For what it's worth I tto was sick to the back teeth of that 'stupid woman' feeling EVERY morning! Hope you're doing ok tonight!

Off to bed Brave Babes

Sweet dreams aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand relax xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Night BB.

Silver - can you drop me at physio and hydrotherapy tomorrow please? Double whammy re the pain! [hsad]

Nemo has finally given into sleep. Had a hellish day re his future care. It would appear that I'm on my own with him.

I may have had a little cry about it all.

Off to bed soon Babes. Lovely to have so many on the bus. I'll be snuggled on one of the back seats if anyone needs me in the night for some TLC.

Silver - I hope your mum is ok. You are in my thoughts xx

mouse hope you an dNemo sleep well xx

hello!!

just had a very lazy evening - im really not feeling too chipper this week, not drinking and not wanting or thinking about it, just bit a 'flat', cant put my finger on it, but hey ho, part of lifes rich pattern no doubt! [hsmile]

btw, well bloody done diabolik!, 2 weeks is great!!

welcome BB, nice to meet you!

spider, on my 40th i was actually too busy being the hostess to drink too much and i had a lovely time, i hope you do too!

well, im off to bed with my notebook and a load of cookery books - im cooking for 6 of us on saturday night, i want to do an autumnal menu, got some great ideas for table decorations too - i went to a dinner last year where peppers were used as tea-light holders, very effective!, going to arrange some seasonal flowers in a pumpkin shell as well (yeah, i know it sounds poncey! [hgrin]), i have got some alcohol free sparkling wine which i think will mix quite nicely with a drop of cranberry cordial, a sort of kir royale!, oh well, will take my poncey musings to bed!, see you all in teh morning lovley babes!! (and you ARE lovley you know!), sending soft little kisses out to all your little ones!, who are hopefully slumbering peacefully till morning!

L XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

mouse!!, sorry my love, no wise words for you re nemo and his care, what i will say though is THANK GOD the little guy has you!, a lioness for a mummy cant be bad!!, see you tomorrow babe!! XXXXXXXXXXXXX

Zombie - you are so wonderfully kind. Thank you. I am amazed at how far you have come. This is the 11th thread for godsake!

That in itself is SUCH an achievement. And it is all down to you and your honesty in your very first thread.

I am one of your biggest fans, and believe that no matter how many highs and lows you experience, your resolve not to drink will remain in tact.

I, for one, am always here for you. Sleep well. xx

Thank you spider, that is lovely of you to say.

Night Brave Babes. I hope that you all sleep well. xxx

spider welcome back and hi! i'm drawing so much inspriation from everyone here, it's a great bus to be on.

Zombie - share your menu! I'm doing a selection of curries on saturday night - one of my favourite dinners to do. All home made, and rotis and dahl too.

mouse sending so much virtual support for you and nemo, I'm sorry I don't know all the history but you are so very strong and just what he needs!

I'm here early and bagging my seat at the front of the bus for our india trip - an all time dream of mine

venus is touring rajasthan, fsar from internet access, but i received a text

jwn yes please share your menu. daddy your curries sound delicious, wow.

Good morning all. I have to admit I had been feeling very smug by being able too have a glass or two of red and be fine and be able to stop. Then last night i had a bottle and i feel rubbish and guilty and crap.

Dd2 is ill again. So time to grow up and sort myself out. She is feverish and wheezing.

mouse and so sorry about nemo you poor thing, i wish i could do something. Can i do something?

Thanks for your help on dh and he is as far as i know back on the prizac, just got him doc appointment for next week, and lookong for counselling.

Hello everyone, just checking in - sorry I haven't been on here much, I'm so busy with studying and training for new job!!

2 days now without a drink, stayed away from people who encourage me to drink and feeling 100% better than I did on the day I boarded the bus.

Going to be a hard weekend as I am going away and know I will drink, but hopefully not to excess(I haven't drank to excess since last friday)

I'm sorry if I haven't been much support, I'll have to sort out my MN - as I have all messages showing on one page I always hit the end page key to get to the bottom and miss out on messages. I'll change it so that it's not just one massive page.

I have a couple of questions too if anyone wouldn't mind answering..

A) do you use your regular MN name for posting on this thread? has it ever happened that people on this thread get flamed?
or is it generally considered a safe place to post. I hold back on a lot as I'm aware others may read or bring what I say onto other threads.

B)Does everybody on here believe that the only way is to cut alcohol from your life alltogether? Is it feasible that I could learn to drink responsibley? or am I just kidding myself?

Thanks in advance, I am off to change my MN settings

dichotomy I'm in the camp where I want to be able to control my drinking so I can have one glass of wine and not have that compulsion to keep going. I suspect MIFLAW would disagree with me, which I understand and appreciate. And I use my regular name - I am being honest with myself and I think I need to post as myself to be able to do that.

I'm on day 4 this week without a drink. Have the girls coming over for pizza and a movie which would normally involve a few bottles of wine between us, but I'm not going to drink this evening.

If anyone wants curry recipes (this indian trip is perfect timing) then let me know and I'll happily share with you all

Dichotomy re B that's a personal thing - so for me I know what I am ( a beer monster ) and if I have one I know that within a month I will be back to the way I have been living over the last 10 years. So it purely depends on your self and most importantly how honest you are with your self as to what category you put your self in ... for years I thought I could move to the "can curb it ' category but now have given up on it ..