The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

[HammerMouseOfHorrors]

Hello

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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morning everyone!

well, here are my morning ponderings! [hgrin]

i am allowed to drink, i can have a drink anytime i feel like it!, i can afford it, i dont have to steal it, i can just go to the shop, buy it, bring it home and drink it!, im allowed to do that, even the law of the land says i may - i just simply choose not to! NO ONE TELLS ME WHAT TO DO!!, in fact, that has been a problem all my life, just say i cant do something and off i go!!, so now, i use that bloody-mindedness in my choice of not drinking!

wasindie - your sister loves you!, your family and happiness are very important to her - i know i would do anything to help my brothers, if that included a night of drinking tea instead of getting shit faced then so be it!, my advice to you this morning is to start being really honest with the people around you, apart from anything else, you have told dp that you have a problem with drink, how is she going to feel about you when she finds you have necked a couple of bottles, pretty pissed off i should think - the woman is doing everything in her power to support you, she has your babies, looks after your home, supports you in everything you do and then you go and get pissed!, just cos you can!, i wouldnt like to face her the morning after!! (so endith the lesson! [hgrin])

GTTRH - well done you!!, try not to compare yourself with anyone else though!, we are all at such different stages that it simply isnt helpful to do so! YOUR sobriety is what is important here!, we all live in the same 24 hours and tbh, they are the hours that mean anything!

venus yes my darling you're right about the apple! He he he you made me laugh. Learnt my lesson.

Dh back soon from assessment by psychiatric nurse. Sounds like he needs cuddles.

second that Zombie - and in all honesty Wasindie don't you think your sister probably already suspects there is a problem - if you feel able to be honest with her she will probably just be immensley relieved and supportive xxx

Ok here goes, been dying to ask this question for ages so . . . reading Wasindie's posts over last few weeks I have always had the impression that Wasindie is male . . . Answers on a postcard please:)

wasnidie is a laydee!!, in every way! [hgrin], this bus is very multicultural!! [hgrin]

Oooops . .

And another thought Wasindie - when I started stopping in April I told my family up front - partly because it is so much easier to be honest, but partly because I then knew I couldn't drink at any family gatherings - whether or not I was drinking when not with them. Just another little strategy put in place to HALT me if I am ever tempted in those surroundings - which are fairly frequent and my family are big drinkers. Like always being the driver if going out - little strategies that set ground rules for you so that the should I/shouldn't I scenario doesn't happen - it is already decided for you.

And boy am I looking forward to a sober Christmas - just to remind myself what twats people become, even your nearest and dearest when they inbibe too much ....[hgrin] xxx

dont worry desire, im sure wasindie wont mind you asking!, we have shared in so much excitment, waiting for the twins to be born, hearing about them and their development is absolutly lovley!, they are very lucky to have such great parents!! (and all these aunties!! [hgrin]), i always wish i could have a little sniff of them (the twins that is!), i lurve that baby smell!

Morning Babes.

Right.

I am going to say my peace and then leave you all to digest it.

(new babes, please ignore this [hsmile])

Those of you who insist on drinking and then feeling guilty about it.....

FUCKING PACK IT IN!!! JUST STOP IT!!!

You are adults! You are grown ups and you are in control of what you do!!

IF YOU REALLY, HONESTLY, TRULY WANT TO STOP DRINKING THEN FOR THE LOVE OF CHEESE STOP!!!!!

How many more experiences of feeling like shite, pouring money down the sink, waking with a banging headache, feeling sick, shaking, upsetting loved ones, letting your children down, putting yourself in danger, and wasting precious moments of your lives do you want?

Because the way that most of you post, you seem to really hate the way alcohol makes you feel the next day or even when you are drinking.

I don't get it. I'm sorry but WHY are you STILL putting yourselves through this?

Time and time and time again.......

IF YOU WANT TO STOP THEN DO IT

You will have heaps of support on her and you can get RL life support anytime you need it.

I'm really sorry if my post has upset anyone but I really care about you all and I want you all to experience life through sober eyes.

Sorry. [hblush]

well, i didnt think you stomped around in builders boots [hgrin], what woman would when high heels have been invented!, i do see dp as an 'earth-mother' though! [hgrin], i dont think think i would have managed twins as well as she does! [henvy], i always fancied being an earth mummy, failed miserably!, could never cope with my little darling puking down her latest outfit! [hblush]

wasindie - at the moment tee hee hee - just you wait..........two hormental teenagers coming your way in a few years!!

morning mouse! [hgrin], feeling a bit fiesty are we? [hgrin]

Oh God Mouse has got her telling off head on......

shhhhh - she might go away if we are really quiet.......

actually mouse, i agree with everything you just said!

Thanks for clearing that up Wasindie:)

Well said, mouse.

Have been lurking for a while, but to be honest getting a bit depressed watching the cycle repeat itself over and over. Easy for me to say, I know - I don't even think about drinking any more. But - forgive me for saying this - I think maybe sometimes people see other people lapsing and somehow think that makes it ok, and everyone starts to collapse like dominoes (especially around Friday and Saturday nights ).

This thread is a huge support and I wish I'd had it when I first stopped. But try to get some RL support, too. It helps to see and talk to people who are living proof that life is better when you're not fighting that constant battle with the booze.

I'll get me coat.

cj!, it does depress me too at times!, i know im still a novice at this being sober lark, but i really find that the only way to conquer it is to stop buggering about with it and just DO IT!

guess i'm too late to remind you silver that aren't we supposed to be going to china today, or was that yesterday??? can't remember? you can all come to SA today though ifyou think there's time [hgrin]

so was there a full moon last night / something in the air? I didn't succumb to the evil little goblin, but it was bloody difficult - two kids in bath suddenly forget how their toothbrushes work, think that water is supposed to be on the walls, shutters and floor, and don't know what soap is for [hhmm] - and dh had a meeting that involved 1/2 a bottle of wine. Previously that would have been my "in" - o'h perhaps he'd like another glass, I'll just suggest it so I can have one. But NO!

hello again everyone new / been jumping on or off. I'm trying my hardest to stay on - there's lots of room. Although I'm not sure where my ticket is

Could we perhaps go to the South Downs tomorrow? If it's blustery it'll blow all our cobwebs away [hgrin]

well to day is celebration day 3 weeks since my last beer ...

So I had 3 chocolate chip cookies woot

Correct Daddy - the great wall awaits us...............x

diabolik You're doing great