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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Park Bench!

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HammerMouseOfHorrors · 18/10/2010 10:54

Hello Smile

I'm Mouse and one of the Brave Babes on the Battle Bus.

The bus is never full and you'll find a real mix of people on board, all with the same goal.

To take control of their drinking. Whether that's to stop completely or cut right down.

Everyone is welcome to get on the bus at any point. You will receive a warm welcome and plenty of support.

Some come meet the others.........

The journey so far.

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Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 11:51

Not boring, LRP.
There is no such thing as a 'normal' personality, nor is there such thing as an 'alcoholic' personality. They are all human constructions.

Are you sleeping any better? I found that I did, but that might be me. You are doing brilliantly. Day 15!!

Including a birthday!

Your dh sounds very useful and supportive. What would you be posting on here today if you had drunk that (half) bottle of wine with dh last night? Would you be beating yourself up?

No matter what you do now, lrp, you will know that you can do 15 days without drinking and without any catastrophic affects, except your headache, for which, by the way, much sympathy.

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 11:53

LRP, if you do have a drink, at the weekend, or whenever, DO NOT FEEL ALL IS LOST. Do not tell yourself you are powerless. You have just stopped drinking for over a fortnight.

And I know (know) that you are giving inspiration to people who are lurking.

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 11:54

I have a hob, a microwave and a slow cooker.

daddywillbehomesoon · 21/10/2010 11:56

LRP 15 days is amazing!

LittleRedPumpkin · 21/10/2010 11:56

Thanks forthe. I'm not sure I'm sleeping any better - I'm not waking up all night, which I used to when I was drinking, but it's much harder to get to sleep at night. (Oh, and I have proper dreams back. How strange.)

DH is lovely. I wish he'd realize that alcoholism is real for me, but I think he's getting there. I don't know if I'd have bought the wine, but it was great to have him helping me not to!

Thanks for your post, it made me smile. I do really appreciate the support on this thread.

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 11:57

Lrp, what have been the benefits (if any) of not drinking for the last fortnight (including birthday)?

Financial?
More time?
Fewer bottles to recycle?

LittleRedPumpkin · 21/10/2010 12:03
Grin

Ah, yes, the bottle recycling!

I'd got to that horrible stage of drinking and hiding the bottles (which DH knew I did, and he knew I knew). So it is lovely not having to recycle anything except empty bottlegreen elderflower cordials.

Financial - not noticed yet. I've been buying myself loads of food-type 'treats', which I need to slowly stop doing. It was a good strategy though.

I hate having more time, but the effect on my work is good (except when I sleep through library opening! Blush), so that's positive.

I think the best thing is not waking up feeling horribly guilty for what I was doing to my body. My whole body used to ache and I knew I was messing up my liver. It's wonderful waking up and realizing that I'm not drinking and giving my body a chance to recover and sort itself out. The other thing that's nice is that I can realistically see myself getting through a pregnancy now. Before I felt really scared about getting pregnant because it seemed so likely I'd have drunk far too much in the time before the test came back.

(Not that we're trying yet, but we're broody - esp. after spending all day yesterday in the Borders Agency surrounded by couples with cute babies!)

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:05

And what advice would you give me if I told you that I hadn't had a drink since 3 Sept and had just drunk 2 cans of Stella Artois? What exact advice would you give me?

It is not the new Madhur Jeffrey book. It is her classic (I think), 'Indian Cookery'. Salmon steamed with crushed mustard seeds and tomato. p124. No oven required.

Daddy, you are reinforcing my image of SA as a glamorous but dangerous place, hence probably the Sleeping with the Enemy reference. And you are reinforcing it more by knowing everything about cooking.

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:05

Can't remember who it was (Mouse?) who said that the binmen thought she had moved. Grin

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:09

LRP, I was wondering whether you were trying to conceive. How clever are you, sorting this problem out pre-motherhood?

How clever of you to marry a supportive man?

LittleRedPumpkin · 21/10/2010 12:10

I don't know, forthe. Does it bother you, or do you feel as if it was a decision you made rationally, to start drinking a small amount again? Only you can know if you're able to do that (Mouse seems to be, so I guess it's not impossible).

Not a good idea for me personally, though.

Grin about the binmen thinking Mouse had moved!

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:11

(How clever ARE you)

LittleRedPumpkin · 21/10/2010 12:12

Sad Not very, really. Sorry.

HammerMouseOfHorrors · 21/10/2010 12:14

Yep - That was me! [hgrin]

Have you really just drunk to cans of Stella Forthe?

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HammerMouseOfHorrors · 21/10/2010 12:15

two even!

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Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:19

This is where I think I understand Miflaw saying that it helps him to help other people. If I want to (get drunk), I have not posted on here (althought I was about to). I reran what I thought various people (who I don't know) would have said, or what I would have said and I just told myself to do what (Diabolik?) did on Friday and went on a FlyLady/Admin/clearance bent until the idea seemed suddenly silly.

I have ordered the Allen Carr book and when I have read it (going away for the weekend so will take it with me if it arrives in time), I would like to start a book group to discuss it.

(Hope ex-drinker is getting a good cut)
(Also ordered a load of cookery books Smile

Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 12:28

No. But in the event of being tempted, I do think about JWN smiling at anti-Christi trying to get someone to not drink and reminding her of how JWN had tried to talk a-C out of it in the same frame of mind. So I use what I know JWN and a-C would say to me right now. DYSWIM? I think that is what Miflaw is getting at.

I am on high alert at the moment because I am (TERRIFIED) of losing the puppy. She weighs 700g. Also wary of treading on her.
Kitchen floor has never been so clean. To stop reweeing.

diabolik · 21/10/2010 12:42

:) cool - Forthe - redirecting energy works ..

Creamlegbar · 21/10/2010 12:51

Woof.

diabolik · 21/10/2010 13:10

woof ?

am I missing something ?

HammerMouseOfHorrors · 21/10/2010 13:15

No diabolik

I feel that creamlegbar might be.

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Fortheverylasttime · 21/10/2010 13:21

Diabolik. I am now logging off mn to do a 'diabolik'. Thanks for that.

diabolik · 21/10/2010 13:45

Mouse -

I am having pictures of creamlegbear dressed as lord Flashheart

HammerMouseOfHorrors · 21/10/2010 13:51

diabolik - Ah, a fellow Blackadder fan. [hgrin]

I think that we should be giving a certain poster a v-e-r-y w-i-d-e b-i-r-t-h

How's work now? Any better?

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diabolik · 21/10/2010 13:56

I'm over my tantrum which was as much caused by me not smoking and pple being idiots

Also made an effort to update my action list spreadsheet - it helps me as it gives me a sense of control.

as well as that I now know how fucked I am .. the bloody thing is 60 rows long

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