All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

actually moomin, i am being a bit flippant, i think she would have dumped him a while ago, had home life been better! , i think he was a bit of a port in a storm, i feel very guilty about it!

Well at least it has happened now. You can't change what has happened in the past but you and DD can both learn from it. No point beating yourself up. Just be thankful that you got yourself together x

Will catch up with you in the morning JWN - and everyone else! x

JWN

She'll be fine. No blaming yourself ok? That's all been dealt with. What's done is done and from here on in, all you can do is make sure you never give her reason to feel that way again.

Red

I'm gutted I missed you!!! Have a good evening. xx

mouse, i do feel that i am 'getting her back' iyswim? - i also know that she has several admiriers! , still, i cant help but feel that she stayed tied up with a loser for so long because she could talk to him and not me! just another legacy of alcoholism i guess?
when i read the posts from people with young dcs who are still debating with themselves about their 'drink problem' i want to scream 'think of the damage'!!! i thank god that i havent left it too late to rebuild my relationship with my dd - i have no doubt she loves me, regaining her respect will take some time though - after all, respect has to earnt, not demanded, and i have certainly let myself down in that department!, not feeling sorry for myself, just saying it like it is!

still, all the time i stay sober, the better it gets! , we had a good chat this afternoon, she sounded like a totally typical teenager, she is debating whether to go for the guy with the motorbike or the guy with the 4x4! (i say the motorbike guy cos i am using reverse pyschology! ha ha!)

How things have changed ... when I was a teenager I was picked up by guys with a pushbike! Good to hear the news JWN - don't dwell on the past, its great that your daughter has made this decision now.

Had a slight wobble earlier but now settled down with a glass of water and contemplating really pushing the boat out and having some milk. I don't want to push my luck so am going to do an hour of work then go to bed.

Hope everyone else doing ok.

JWN

You didn't leave it too late, no. And that has to keep driving you forward. That and the way that you have turned your life around from the woman who posted 'me and alcohol ahve ruined my family' to who you are right now.

Look at what you have achieved by stopping drinking. By stopping the lies. By posting the thread in the first place. How many people have you helped by sharing your fears, baring your soul to a forum of strangers and asking for help?

You were brave and strong enough to carry on asking and posting, opening your world to us. And look where you are. Look at your life.

Your beautiful DD loves and admires you for facing your demons. DH is still there with you, still by your side, still loving you and getting back the woman he married to boot! And yes, it will be a while before either of them respect or trust you again. But I bet they both respect the decision that you made to stop.

You have everything to gain from going forward, from being sober and if your thread and the ones that followed can help even one person, then that is something amazing.

To my count, it has helped far more than one, myself included. I struggle to keep it together sometimes. I want to scream at posters too.

As I'm sure you did with me when I first posted. I get frustrated that posters don't share my desire for a better life, but then again, I didn't have that desire a month ago did I?

How things change. Long may it last too!

MsGee

Hello. Well done for giving the wobble the old heave ho!!

Yes, bed can be a wonderfully safe place at times. Go and get snuggled up and just drift off.

How are you feeling today? Is it day 5 for you?

JWN - please excuse the spelling mistakes

Day 4... I knew that I would find the weeks harder than the weekend as I tend to drink more on weekdays. I get upset about work, feel like a failure, drink and the cycle continues. I have a few challenges later in the week in terms of nights out and time with family but I am trying to ignore them and take it one day at a time - or one hour at a time.

Felt a bit useless as I did hardly any work today, normally I would glug lots of wine in this situation.

Still feeling headachey and tired, perhaps not enough water and too much caffeine.

JWN - I don't really feel comfortable providing much advice given its erm, day 4, but you really have inspired lots of people and I am sure that includes your family. I remember from the first thread how difficult things were with your DD and you seem to be doing so well to build a new relationship with your family. I understand what you said about those of us with young dc, there are so many ways that I want to influence my daughters life and drinking doesn't play a part in any of them.

MsGee

Caffeine could be your next addiction if you're not careful.

I was nailing Diet Coke like it was going out of fashion.

Be careful.

Lots of water and juices are better. A nice thick milkshake, hot chocolate, Olvaltine is fab too!!!

Why not try making your own drinks? Smoothies, mocktails, squashes etc? I often make a jug or apple, pomegranate and raspberry juice up and leave it in the fridge ready to pour over a glass full of ice.

Delish!!!

'of' apple,

Bed for me soon! Very tired Mouse today!!

thanks mouse!! you have a lovley way with words! your encourgement is greatly sppreciated! , btw, dont ever apologise to me for poor spelling, mine is so awful it even baffles the spellchecker!

msgee, well done, have an early night, i found that really helped me in the first couple of weeks, once you start feeling better, i bet you will find so much more falls into place, esp. work - your brain will be so much clearer, the thinking will be so much clearer, always helps i find! , as to the nights out, just do them 30 minutes at a time, dont feel you have to explain your non drinking, just do it!, every night you have out becomes a bit easier, i find that i can now think to myself, 'well, i mananged it last time, i can do it again'

I already have a black coffee and diet coke addiction, although I did totally kick caffeine for a while earlier in the year as I was trying to get healthy to try for another child. To be honest I think when we gave up on trying for another child was when I really started to pick up the drinking again. I had kept it in check (relatively) for part of the time then. Then there didn't really seem to be much point to not drinking.

Will try the juices ... much better than diet coke.

right, i am off to bed in a mo, dd has called to say she is out on the razz til the morning!, (oh those were the days!, just the thought of it now makes me need a lie down! ) dh has been at al-anon this evening, i know he finds it a bit of a life saver, he can go and have a rant and everyone 'gets' him!

tomorrow i am going to meeting, not been since friday and i now feel the need, not having an urge to drink, i just like the grounded feeling aa gives me.

so, sleep well lovley babes, see you in the morning!

morning all!!!

lovley sunny morning here, makes a nice change!, hope everyone is ok today?

see you in while i hope!

Morning ladies, hope you are well today and have lots of positive things planned!

All very tired here, DD was up half the night but she still managed to make me giggle even at 3am. Normally I'd just be frustrated. And I am so glad that the staggering around was due to a 'WTF its 1am' feeling, rather than a groggy drunk feeling.

And I seem to have turned into a spotty teenager ... is this normal? Is it the not drinking enough water? Or am I in fact just a spotty git and its not alcohol related. It doesn't seem fair to be battling my first grey hairs and spots at the same time.

Good morning everyone,

Awful weather here, absolutely chucking it down!

MsGee - I have a diet coke addiction but it's not killing me or making me act like a horrible, manipulative, dishonest human being so I am OK with it at the moment! MIFLAW says to concentrate on your addictions in the order they are killing you (which is cheery!) So for me that's alcohol first. Once I have a better grip on that I can worry about fags and caffeine!

I am feeling good today was a bit under the weather yesterday - thought I was coming down with something but it seems to have gone. Hurrah! Went to a good meeting last night so I am feeling refreshed and ready to go!

Here's to another sober day brave babes

MsGee - totally normal to turn into a teenager re spotty skin. I have posted the very same complaint previously!

wasindie - hello! Horrible weather here too. 5 hours sleep!!! You must be delighted

Bloody hell, I think I spotted my first grey hair at about 23!

wasindie - morning! And ha ha re the grey pubes! Total shocker when that happens!

msgee, i was quite spotty for a few days at the beginning, it does go though!

whispers.....i found grey pubes but have no idea about my hair, it is bleached blonde and i dont know what the natural colour is!