All Aboard The Brave Babes Battle Bus!

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Hello, welcome to thread five!!

I'm Mouse and I'm 10 whole days sober which is bloody amazing given that I would normally consume nearly 90 units per week! And that's without 'special occasions'!!

So, if I can do it, you can do it! The support here is awesome, no matter where you are in your quest to quit. No judging, no cliquey groups.

We are just real, honest people. All helping each other to give up the booze. Come meet the other Brave Babes........................

And for those who would like to read the adventures so far, here are the links from the first four threads!

JWN's original thread (the reason we are all here)

Thread two

Thread three

Thread four

you can sit next to me maddogs but hand off miflaw

Damn I don't have CAT set up - will try and contact you mouse when I've fathomed it out!

hi needsto, I feel absolutely exhausted too

day three (again) so to be expected I guess

Also I am having the most delightful period NOT so that cant be helping

had my bran flakes and about to have a hot bath to ease my leg muscles!
I embarrased to say that the half hour on the wii fit plus last night made me ache

just goes to show I need it lol

I need to dig out the Wii Fit too - I will also ache though, I'm so unfit!

I don't think I'll lose any weight not drinking though because I had a terrible habit of restricting my calorie intake to accommodate alcohol - really not good at all .

NeedsTo - mouse's email is mousefacemn @ gmail.com She put it on the previous thread if you want to email her for the list.

I am also on Day 4 today (for approximately the 853rd time!) and I can say that each day that goes by I feel better!!

Thanks Red - my fellow day 4 comrade!

Mouseface-I've printed out your list of 'if you drink tonight...' questions and stuck it to my fridge. There are some great questions on there to hopefully make me stop and think before having that first drink. Thank you for posting this. Hammy

Hammy - you made it! You're right about Mouse's list. Loads of useful stuff pops up on here that really makes me stop and think.

Is anyone else about today? MissP - haven't heard from you for a while? kate? wrinkly?

So many posters have come and gone Just know that we are all thinking of you all and hoping you are ok

I can?t believe what has just happened. I left home about 10.30, took DD1 to her swimming fun lesson, with DD2 too. We finished the lesson and were having sandwiches in playground next to swimming centre when I glance at my phone. It?s 12.15.

I?ve got two texts from DH. Sent at 11.55. He left home at 11.00 to go to a jobcentre thing. First text says ?Left hob on? next text says ?Should be OK if you?re home soon?

Manage to get girls in car and drive home the 20 minute journey, frantic and worried.

Get upstairs leaving girls strapped in, door into kitchen is closed. Open to find my big le creuset pan, dark and boiling hot with cinders inside it and a crust of ash, molten, hot. Gas full on. Windows completely flung open, a piece of paper - myshopping list ?was next to hob, just flapping around.

It could have been a disaster. Why didn?t DH come home the minute he realised what had happened? What he had done? What was he thinking? I can?t look at him.

Also, I went to the sink in the kitchen, and in it is a frying pan and a lid, he had been toasting some nuts and left them to burn completely to a cinder. Realised that though, put pan into soak before he left to go to jobcentre..

I just don?t understand here what happened. It is crzy bbehavoiur isn?t it? I feel sick and wobbly.

Seems to be a morning for it then.

Some really nice bastard person has just smashed the wing mirror off the car for us. How kind.

Now we have to get that fixed before we drive to Dorset next week. Bless them, they didn't even stop so we could say how grateful we are.

Oh well. Moving on.........

Christi - I have a feeling that DH is a little overwhelmed. And stressed. And may not have been focused on the task at hand, rather more focused on getting to the job centre?

Not an excuse but maybe a reason?

Will go and check my e-mails now.

I've been fined another hundred punds for late tax return

I'm so pissed off, I handed all I had to his accountants so why didn't they sort it

need to ring them at 2

and the navy overpayed his pension at the end of last year and are demanding the entire 1423 pounds now

I used to be desperate to get post incase it was exciting

ugh

I am having money woes too ladies! I have to fight (and fight again) against the urge to make like an ostrich! (I think it's all part of the alcoholic condition, for me anyway...)

So sorry to hear about your troubles christi and mouse. Grr. I hope his appointment at the job centre went well christi?

trinity - I hope the phone call goes OK at 2pm.

Trinity

The accountants need to foot the bill then. If they failed to submit this on time, they should pay the fine. Not you. Tell them. Idiots.

And the Navy should know better. Talk to them and tell them you will pay it back in installments or else they can take you to court as you cannot afford the entire payment in one go. CAB can help but make them a realistic offer of repayment and see what they say. DO NOT LEAVE YOURSELF SHORT!!!!

Again, idiots.

This can all be sorted. Take your time. xx

OK, lots of crap stuff happening to people today, but each of these is a reason for staying sober, to get it back in control and sorted out. Nothing is a good enough excuse for picking up the first drink, that will not make anything any better, and it will still be there tomorrow morning if you wake up with a hangover.

But then that is easy for me to say, because today I will not be drinking. And the worst thing that has happened to me is that it has rained on my washing.

Oh no, what a morning you've all had!

Hope you're getting it sorted out now Trinity.

I've had quite a nice morning-went for a 2 mile run (check me out!) and just made it back before the heavens opened-even had thunder & lightening! I'm in York and it was beautiful sunshine an hour ago. Anyway-I just thought I'd offset the mood with a little cheeriness! Hope I don't sound smug.

Could not agree more venus! Things are tight money-wise but I know (from long and bitter experience) that drinking actually makes it a whole lot worse and not better. So no booze here either!!

hammy - it's nice to hear the good stuff!

mouse - how was the physio/ hydro?

yes I'vecried and got angry but there is no way in hell I'm going to have a drink

it wont make anything go away and it will all just be harder to deal with

I;ve rung them back and they are ringing me back, the woman I spoke to 'can't possibly understand what could have happened'

pft

hammy - I live near York and the sky has suddenly gone very, very dark here. We had sun earlier too...

Had lunch with a friend today, and during the conversation talk turned to how she would not enjoy a meal/night out if she was drinking but her companion wasn't, said it would make her feel self-conscious about her own drinking (this is a lady who can stop at two glasses and who can go out and not have a drink).
Not really sure why I am posting this, just the fact that it really surprised me that she wouldn't be comfortable going for a meal with me, for example, if I wasn't drinking!!

Hi desire, not really sure what to make of that. Maybe she just prefers to be on the 'same level' as those around her? So if they have a drink she will and if not she would rather abstain? Obviously it makes no sense to me - stop after 2 drinks?! But WHY?!

Sorry.

DS's nurse has just been. Hydro and physio were hell but I have a week off now!! Yippeeeeeee.

venus - Satan will be popping off to work on ice skates before I have another drink. The car issue will NOT break my resolve. I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TODAY.

Right, feed time for DS.

Back later Babes.

Was sort of wondering Red if maybe it has to do with how you feel about yourself after drinking, (whether it's a little or a lot), and that maybe she feels bad about herself the next day and the thought that her companion had been stone cold sober only adds to her dislike of herself the next morning??

Perhaps that's it desire... I don't really know! There's nothing worse that alcohol shame is there?!