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Tablets by post?

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StormGrey · 27/06/2021 19:19

Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

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66babe · 14/07/2021 14:49

Can you just remind me when you took the Mife @sam433

sam433 · 14/07/2021 17:04

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66babe · 14/07/2021 17:18

It's fine to take them now @sam433 It will mostly likely take a few hours to start , by which time the children will be in bed
It will be over by the morning 💐

StormGrey · 14/07/2021 17:33

How are you doing @Busylizzie85? Thinking of you xx

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StormGrey · 14/07/2021 17:35

@sam433 💐 Hope you're able to make a decision soon xx

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sam433 · 14/07/2021 17:39

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Busylizzie85 · 14/07/2021 17:39

I'm doing ok thank you @StormGrey the spotting started quite quickly and I have had what I would say is mostly a dull period ache, the bleeding since has been manageable not to heavy with a few clots. I'm now unfortunately on way to hospital with daughter as she is really not well.

StormGrey · 14/07/2021 17:46

@Busylizzie85 sorry to hear about your daughter. Hope you get seen quickly and she's better very soon!

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StormGrey · 14/07/2021 17:49

@sam433 I mean this really kindly, but you seem so conflicted. Everyone on here is supportive of whatever decision you make x

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66babe · 14/07/2021 17:59

Oh @Busylizzie85 I'm so sorry to hear that , fingers crossed all is well and she will be home soon

I know this will sound strange - to be honest this distraction will see you through the next few hours and before you know it , it will be over and you will be having cuddles with your wee girl , we are thinking of you

@sam433 we are thinking of you too

sam433 · 14/07/2021 18:13

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SudokuZebra · 14/07/2021 19:10

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Busylizzie85 · 14/07/2021 21:30

Thank you all for your kindness, we've just left the hospital turns out it's tonsillitis.
So glad I have not been bleeding heavily not sure how I would have coped in there for so long, I hope we can all now get some rest. x

66babe · 15/07/2021 08:37

Good morning @Busylizzie85 hope your daughter feeling better soon

@StormGrey hope you are well and things settling down now

@sam433 how are you doing ?

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66babe · 15/07/2021 09:10

Have you tried a travel sick bracelet ? I've heard ladies say they help , then the usual things ginger biscuit, dry toast , eat little and often
Hopefully the gp can offer you something that works

SudokuZebra · 15/07/2021 09:33

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sam433 · 15/07/2021 09:40

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StormGrey · 15/07/2021 15:24

Afternoon all... hope you managed to get some antiemetics from the GP @sam433. Morning sickness is truly dreadful and it sounds like yours is quite severe xx

Today my bleeding is like a very light period. Physically I feel strong, healthy and no longer dizzy, sick or bloated. But I also feel a little empty. I think it's the hormone crash.

I'm wondering why I've done what I've done. I'm never usually a quitter and that's a little how I feel. I still don't feel drawn to the idea of having a new baby, but I do miss mine if that makes any sense at all. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I will always wonder if I should have pressed ahead with what nature wanted.

Last week, I was sad and stressed, physically drained and also down about "starting again".

I wonder if I acted too hastily. Perhaps I should have had a scan before making a decision. I said I didn't want to do that, but really it would have helped me think of my little baby, rather than the idea of just a random baby.

Everything I put as a con on my lists was actually workable in real life.

I've got a meeting for another hour and then I'll go out for a wander. I feel confused, but not in turmoil.

I got a call earlier about a great new career opportunity. I've sent over my CV. It could work out really well. I'm thinking now of the positives of enjoying my current family... we're planning to go skiing for New Year, we're planning a Disney trip for next summer, our house renovation should be finishing in a couple of months. There's a lot to keep my mind busy.

Sending love and strength to anyone is this situation. It really is the most challenging and emotional experience xx

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StormGrey · 15/07/2021 15:27

@SudokuZebra sorry to hear that you're struggling. I empathise. It's really very hard to process any of this, as the decision is never light and the healing process so emotional. Thinking of you xx

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66babe · 15/07/2021 16:23

@StormGrey completely natural reaction .. it's early days and hormones are a bitch sometimes

Give yourself time - please reread your own posts and don't be unkind to yourself 💐

sam433 · 15/07/2021 19:12

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sam433 · 16/07/2021 09:59

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66babe · 16/07/2021 16:48

@sam433 oh Sam , that's awful
Really hope it settles down for you
Ask GP for Ondansetron ( anti sickness good ones )
They might help ...
Take care

SudokuZebra · 16/07/2021 16:53

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