Tablets by post?

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Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

Sorry for the multiple posts. I'm not sure what happened there. I've reported it so hopefully the duplications will be deleted.

Thank you so much for your response @sudokuzebra. I do have a private counsellor who I saw this week and I do think that helped. But I'll consider BPAS for counselling if I think I need it as it will be a bit more specific and I must say I've been really impressed with BPAS. The nurse I spoke to was lovely.

My partner needs to provide another sample to see if the sample is now clear. It seems as though it could just be residual sperm and doesn't necessarily mean it has failed. However, even once that comes back clear we're considering paying privately to have a second sample tested just to be extra sure.

Sorry, me again.

I took the misoprostol at 19.30 last night but I've now more or less stopped bleeding. I bled a lot last night, including clots but as of this morning it's all but stopped. Is that normal? I know the pregnancy was very early on so could that be why?

Hi @allthesharks sorry you had to go through this , some lovely ladies on here and no judgement at all
Yes , it is ok for the bleeding to slow down considerably after passing the sac but you should still have a little , even just when wiping , minimum of 4 days after Miso

How are you today ?

I didn't call BPAS last night as I had some bleeding when I wiped in the evening. I had a lot more bleeding over night and the cramping has been a bit worse again. This is more how I expected to feel yesterday (I had a miscarriage s few years ago and it was more like this), which is why I was surprised everything seemed to have stopped yesterday.

How is everyone else doing?

@66babe. How are you? How was your scan?

Really sorry! Meant @sam433.

Silly me.x

No problem ! How are you ? Did you manage to get a scan too ?

Oh, I wasn’t due to get a scan. Think we’re all getting the names a bit muddled. Ha.

I’m ok. Difficult few days. Trying desperately to draw a line under things but can’t seem to do so! Having counselling weekly atm.

How are you?xx

I'm not really sure how to answer that @SudokuZebra

I suppose the honest answer for me would be that if you think you have made a mistake - then that means you think you have made a mistake

The moral rights and wrongs
The practical emotional financial undercurrents of this process are so individual that who are we to say ?

I imagine the counsellors aim
would be to help you realise you have done nothing wrong , you did the right thing for you at that time and that you should not torture yourself afterwards with such mental turmoil - do they have the right ? Can they say maybe you are right ? Maybe it was the wrong thing for you ?
How does that help you move on
Or .. would that help and you accept perhaps you did make a mistake ?

In my mind , this is as complex as you wish to make it
Personally I wish all women would accept what is gone in the past and think of the future

What did I do right
What did I do wrong
What do i need to learn
And what can I do for my future

I am so glad you are considering your relationship, you are still young and have many opportunities ahead of you
Please take them
Turn this around
Be you
You deserve better darling

@SudokuZebra just to pick up some of what the others have said, take it from me you have loads of time ahead of you to find the right man and to have a family!
I spent years and years thinking l never have a baby or find Mr right and like you I looked in to sperm donors, I made poor choices in the past and have many regrets but it made me realise that I should not settle or rush to getting pregnant with just any one. I wish I had met my now partner (who i met online so don't be put off by that one guy you met) years ago but I didn't and so at 36 I finally had a baby and a family I wanted and it was worth the wait. I may not have chance to have another baby now before I'm 40 but I'm happy I made the right choice recently as financially and mentally I wouldn't have coped.
Please be kind to yourself and don't feel that time is running out because it's really not xx

So glad to hear you are getting some support with someone you relate to
Take care Sudoko

I just wanted to say to everyone Thankyou for sharing your experiences on this thread.

I've been reading through these as I'm 99% certain I'm in the same position. My pregnancy tests are due tomorrow so once I know for certain, I'll be making a few calls

Reading through this thread had made me feel more calm and I know what to expect if I need to go down this avenue.

I hope everyone who has posted is doing okay and @66babe, you're an amazing person!

Lots of amazing people here @ToadsAndTiaras
Take your time with considering your options and what's best for you
We are here if you need help

Thanks for checking in @SudokuZebra, I'm still waiting for the post to arrive today! We're in self isolation at the moment so can't physically get out to get any sooner.

My husbands brother is doing some shopping for us today and I don't want to ask him to pick a test up for me.