Tablets by post?

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Hello - has anyone got experience please of taking the tablets by post? I just found out I’m pregnant, which is a totally shock. I don’t want to go through my GP and I don’t want to have a face to face appointment or scan. I think it would break my heart to see a baby on a scan, so I think the tablets by post make more sense. I’ve previously taken the MAP, so I’m trying to think of it similarly.

I’ve only had chance to Google Marie Stopes so far and that’s where I saw it as an option. Are there any other private clinics I should contact? Thank you

Please wait and do your test first urine sample tomorrow morning
That's the strongest sample of the day and most reliable 💐
Good luck

@toadsandtiaras I hope you got the result you wanted from the pregnancy test and you don't need to go through the abortion process, however if you do then you can get a lot of support from this thread. I found it invaluable to talk here as it's not something I wanted to tell friends or family.

I'm now about 10 days after medical abortion and I'm still bleeding a little. Also, strangely, my breasts seem to be more swollen than they were previously. Other than that I'm physically fine. My cousin announced her pregnancy a few days ago and that has thrown up some feelings which I didn't expect. I do find it hard to hear about other people's pregnancies anyway, as I never got the pregnancy experience that I wanted (three premature babies), so it makes me feel sad for what I missed out on. But the termination has made it even harder. I'm happy for her but sad for me.

Did my test this morning as it's been three weeks and all seems ok! It's been a much better experience then I thought it would be all in all and I hope anyone that does read this thread in the future finds some reassurance and useful info to help them.

Hi sorry to jump on post I am just looking for some information regarding time frames for BPAS. Had a positive pregnancy test on Friday and I’m sure I am not in a position to have a child.

I called BPAS on Friday and left my details and they said they’d call back to arrange an appointment but I’ve not heard anything yet. I’m 5 weeks pregnant but with both previous pregnancies suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum which I was hospitalised with. Im already dreading it getting to this point so ideally need a medical abortion as soon as possible before it gets to that point. What tad the prices for anyone who used BPAS please?

Thank you xx

@Aligeorge

Hi sorry to jump on post I am just looking for some information regarding time frames for BPAS. Had a positive pregnancy test on Friday and I’m sure I am not in a position to have a child.

I called BPAS on Friday and left my details and they said they’d call back to arrange an appointment but I’ve not heard anything yet. I’m 5 weeks pregnant but with both previous pregnancies suffered with hyperemesis gravidarum which I was hospitalised with. Im already dreading it getting to this point so ideally need a medical abortion as soon as possible before it gets to that point. What tad the prices for anyone who used BPAS please?

Thank you xx

Sorry I meant to put time frames not prices.

@Aligeorge go into the website and book a Telephone Consultation there
You can book it online

Thank you I’ve just completed the online form

Says I should get an appointment in 24 hours. Hopefully not waiting too long for consultation. Thank you for your help

Via Marie Stopes, I was approved for the pills by post recently. I had not such a great experience overall.

I contacted them Friday 16th July initially and didn’t have my first consultation until Friday July 30th, exactly two weeks later. I understand they are very stretched at the moment, but the wait was absolutely excruciating and incredibly stressful.
Luckily, I had my second consultation that same day as there was a free slot and the lady said she would post the pills out to meet the postal run that day.

The pills didn’t arrive when they were meant to (week beginning 2nd August) and so after waiting another whole week with the hope they would arrive, I had to traipse 45 minutes to a clinic the Saturday just gone and pick the pills up. I was informed that if the pills by post don’t show up, they cannot send them by post again and you have to pick them up.
Very disappointed that they don’t offer a tracking service with these packages, I understand the service probably has limited funds but I’m sure that would ensure a much smoother experience for women on the receiving end.

However, was very happy with the experience I received at the clinic - the staff were very nice and friendly and made the rather crappy experience of the pills not showing up in the post, not so crap. Was at the clinic 10 mins tops and then took the pills home. The original pills still have not arrived in the post so lord knows what happened to them.

Hoping there may be somebody in this thread that can offer some advice.

For me, it’s currently two days after a medical abortion. I took my pills on Sunday. I’m quite confident that things have gone to plan as they should, I had intense cramps and heavy bleeding for around seven hours on the day - but now two days later am suffering from intense-ish cramps. When I wake up in the morning, I have to run downstairs for some painkillers and a hot water bottle. The cramps are nowhere near as intense as they were on the day I took the pills, but it’s 50/50 whether painkillers work throughout the day for me.

Hoping somebody can dull my anxiety over this and let me know if you experienced this also - it’s only been two days since, the bleeding is still there but less, but the cramps are freaking me out and I guess I would have expected them to subside by now.

The cramps are your womb contracting trying to get rid of some clot or tissue still inside , it's very normal
Keep moving if you can and use some painkillers
You will be ok ❤️

Sorry forgot to tag you @IvyMarigold
Hope you are ok

@Aligeorge Hello! Not sure if you’ve got your appointment yet but thought I’d add some advice, I wish I’d known this beforehand. It may be better to call your chosen company rather than wait for them to get back to you via a form. My first choice was BPAS, I called them and was on hold for maybe 35 minutes. When I finally got through to them, they check you’re eligible for NHS funding (assuming you don’t want to pay for the service) and we found out that BPAS does not cover the area I live in - only Marie Stopes covered my area. Some areas are covered by both companies and other areas only by one of the two. With Marie Stopes, from first phone call to them sending the pills by post, was a two week wait (plus an additional week as my pills by post failed to turn up). I imagine BPAS are facing a similar delay due to the increase in people wanting this service.

@66babe Thanks very much for the quick reply, good to know this is normal 🥰

Hi thank you for your reply. I have now gone through my local choices clinic and the pills are available to collect on Thursday so really quick turn around.

I'm having a bit of a wobble tonight. Tomorrow morning I'm due to take the pregnancy test as it's 3 weeks after the termination. I know that it was successful based on the bleeding and clots. And I want the test to be negative. But when I took the test to find out if I was pregnant and I saw the positive, my instinctive reaction was excitement. I have had 3 children, all planned, so when I got the positive pregnancy test each time it was what I was hoping for. When I got the positive this time it wasn't what I was hoping for but I defaulted to the reaction of it being a good thing. I'm worried that tomorrow I will get the negative result, as expected, and my feeling will be disappointment.

I know that this makes no sense. I didn't want to have any more children which is why I terminated and I feel certain of that decision. But I've still kept the positive pregnancy test. I work in IT, and it's almost as though a condition has been set - positive equals excitement, negative equals disappointment.

And I can't deny that there is part of me that hopes I will get a positive result tomorrow and that my partner and I will see it as this baby wanted to live so much that we have to continue with it. I do know that ultimately that's not what I want though. What I want is a corrective birth experience for the 3 premature babies that I've had and in reality, the chances are any other baby would also be born premature and then I have a baby, and most likely severe PND.

I know that my reasons for terminating were sound. But why is there still a part of me that hopes it hasn't been successful?

@allthesharks hi
Maybe because you are human ? This process is very rarely a breeze , most women will wobble - reflect - what could have been - hormones should be settling now but a first period is not likely too far away so it's all still quite raw and fresh
I hope you have someone IRL to talk to and consider the post termination counselling . Some people find it more useful than others but wouldn't hurt to give it t a go ?
Be kind to yourself, let your heart catch up with your head at its own pace and concentrate on this existing circumstances that led you this way
You will be fine 💐. Do something lovely today with those 3 little ones and get extra hugs while you are there

I'm now over 4 weeks since the abortion and my period was due to arrive on Friday but it hasn't. On the BPAS website it says you should get your period 4-6 weeks later, but you should call them if you don't get your period after 4 weeks. My pregnancy test after 3 weeks was negative. I'm not sure what they will do if I call them. I could get a pregnancy test to take at home but it's possible that it might pick up residual hcg and cause more confusion. I guess I should call them and see what they suggest. I just wanted to find out if anyone else who has been through this had their period delayed?

Hi everyone. Sorry to jump on an older thread. This is my first time posting and I’m not even entirely sure what I want to say/know.

I found out I was pregnant 3rd Jan and the sickness has been unbearable! I rang BPAS on the 4th and was booked in for a consultation on the 18th! Really sympathise with those of you saying how hard you found it waiting around. It’s been completely debilitating.

Luckily I was able to pick up my termination pills the following day. I took the first pill around 3pm yesterday and had to go to bed about an hour later as I had chills and a raging headache. Was ok after this. This morning I have been more sick than usual, which is a lot. Read so many horror stories about these second lot of pills so I’m very nervous about taking them but equally will do absolutely anything to stop the nausea at this point.

Cannot control my emotions! Am crying so much and just feel so isolated and alone. Even though I do have a good support system around me and my partner is trying his best but I just feel so lonely and sick and in pain.

Sorry for the rant but I’m just at such a loss on what to do and how to feel and so worried about what lies ahead this evening following the remainder of my procedure.